|just keep telling her that mommy doesn't want Barbies in the house, but she's allowed to play with them at friends houses, as I can't control what she's doing there unfortunetly.|
so for about a year i went through a phase of 'i will not allow barbies in my house'. dd is only 3, so it is all theoretical so far :LOL
since slipping into unschooling set of mind, i am relaxing a bit, thinking that if she really wants it, we can get one (ONE :LOL ). who am i to deny my dd a DOLL? :LOL
but i am also thinking that if she wants barbies, and we get them, then it is under some sort of my control, for lack of a better expression. i mean i can play with her. i can model to her. i can comment to her about barbie's looks. we can talk about things. i can model to her being critical of consumerism. things like that.
if i forbid the doll, it automatically aquires this special status -- something desirable, but unatteinable. like it is more special, than it actually is.
then there is something else -- she might get the message that things that are not allowed at home, are allowed at friends' -- what about alcohol and drugs later on? you can't have it here, but i can't control what is happening at your friends'?
if my teenage dd got curious about pot, and decided to try, i'd rather my dd smoked it in my basement, then in some other basement, who knows where and with whom, and kept it a secret, because mama does not approve of drugs, kwim? btw, i do not approve of drugs. but one day it will be her choice, and i'd rather it was a safer one.
just random thoughts.
what do others think?