Originally Posted by Rach
Well, for her it probably wasn't painful. And with all the different childbirthing/laboring techiniques, some do say that it's pressure, not pain.
I see no difference in telling someone it's not painful and telling someone it's the most excruciating feeling of their life and that they'll be begging for drugs.
For many women, hearing the "truth" about the pains of labor do nothing but bring on fear and self doubt -heck, nowadays women are opting for elective c-sections to avoid it, it seems.
It IS possible to have a not so horrible labor and birth. It doesn't happen to everyone, but it happens.
Thats what I mean... I think that saying "for most women it is painful, but it is pain with a purpose and there are many things that you can do to help ease the pain blah blah blah" is better than saying "oh my god it was the most terrible ordeal I have ever went through in my entire life" OR "its really not painful at all if you just take it one contraction at a time, its no different than stubbing your toe etc"
Neither of the 2 last statements would be very helpful because, like I said, for most women it is painful and it would be naive to think it isnt, yet the more fear you have the more painful it is likely to be and the more interventions you might accept to take the pain away.
I guess I am not really being able to make my point so I will just give up now. But, yes, I do know that it is possible to have a "not so horrible labor and delivery" - I have had 2, the last being a home waterVBAC, but it was still very painful... Probably for many women it isnt the amount of pain they experience that makes it wonderful or horrible - it's the support they recieve.
It doesnt sound like Britney Spears recieved much real support.