My friend's dd is in a MDO for 4 hours a day, several days a week. She is over 3 and not potty trained (just got a baby brother and is having a bit of regression). She is the only one in her class that hasn't been potty trained.
Note: She wears disposables.
Monday, she picked her up and dd was poopy. She changed her and not only was it an old poopy (fluid was absorbed), but it was the same diaper she was sent to school in (was able to tell because sends different diapers than uses at home) 4 hours earlier.
Tuesday, she picked her up and she was poopy again when she got into the car. This time it was a different diaper than she was sent to school in, and it was a fresh poopy.
Wednesday, no problems with pickup but friend had a discussion with the MDO director about the situation. The director made all sorts of excuses for the teacher, including that dd was the only one in the class not potty trained (um, shouldn't that make it easier if she's the only one?). Then she turned it around on friend and started pressuring her about potty training, making friend feel the problem was her fault.
Thursday, she picked up dd, same diaper for 4 hours and an old poop again.
I said this is clear neglect and she should call DHR. If not to report them, then to at least find out what would happen if she does. Of course she won't. She doesn't want to make trouble.
She is going in tomorrow to discuss it. I told her that potty training is NOT the issue and not to discuss it. I told her to tell them that if they have a problem with dd not being potty trained then they can call a conference at a different date. That this conference is solely to discuss the fact that a child (regardless of age) is being left in a pee and poo filled diaper all day long. That is neglect and abusive. And if it is being done because they resent that she isn't potty trained then it is deliberate abuse.
Am I crazy or would you go ballistic? It isn't even my child and I want to go in myself and raise hell. I am going to kill my friend if she sends her back without some kind of understanding. She doesn't want to make too many waves because then she'd have to leave the school and no other school around here takes a child over 3 that isn't potty trained. UUUUUGH!
Note: She wears disposables.
Monday, she picked her up and dd was poopy. She changed her and not only was it an old poopy (fluid was absorbed), but it was the same diaper she was sent to school in (was able to tell because sends different diapers than uses at home) 4 hours earlier.
Tuesday, she picked her up and she was poopy again when she got into the car. This time it was a different diaper than she was sent to school in, and it was a fresh poopy.
Wednesday, no problems with pickup but friend had a discussion with the MDO director about the situation. The director made all sorts of excuses for the teacher, including that dd was the only one in the class not potty trained (um, shouldn't that make it easier if she's the only one?). Then she turned it around on friend and started pressuring her about potty training, making friend feel the problem was her fault.
Thursday, she picked up dd, same diaper for 4 hours and an old poop again.
I said this is clear neglect and she should call DHR. If not to report them, then to at least find out what would happen if she does. Of course she won't. She doesn't want to make trouble.
She is going in tomorrow to discuss it. I told her that potty training is NOT the issue and not to discuss it. I told her to tell them that if they have a problem with dd not being potty trained then they can call a conference at a different date. That this conference is solely to discuss the fact that a child (regardless of age) is being left in a pee and poo filled diaper all day long. That is neglect and abusive. And if it is being done because they resent that she isn't potty trained then it is deliberate abuse.
Am I crazy or would you go ballistic? It isn't even my child and I want to go in myself and raise hell. I am going to kill my friend if she sends her back without some kind of understanding. She doesn't want to make too many waves because then she'd have to leave the school and no other school around here takes a child over 3 that isn't potty trained. UUUUUGH!
She should call DHR. If they accept a child in diapers, then they should change a child in diapers. No child should be left like that and her dd does not need to be pressured to potty.
