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post #21 of 152


Nopers. He either eats out at Subway, Tim Hortons or A&W or he buys stuff at the store on his way to work (like buns and cheese and cookies :LOL ). Occasionally he takes leftovers.

I make enough meals in this house, he is a big boy, he can take care of himself.
post #22 of 152
I do cook on weekends, but that is only becuase I love to cook and the weekends are when he is home to help with the kids.

IMO, this is NOT about love. Making lunch is a deed not an action of love. Showing respect, listening and responding to your husband goes much further than roast beef on bread ever will.
post #23 of 152
BTW, eat out lunches are a no go at this house. he either is responsible enough to make it the night before or in the morning or he does eat. We do not have the luxury of eating out for lunches.
post #24 of 152
That would be DOESNT eat.
post #25 of 152
Quote:
Originally Posted by Fishygirlsmom
IMO, this is NOT about love. Making lunch is a deed not an action of love. Showing respect, listening and responding to your husband goes much further than roast beef on bread ever will.
Sorry, but I have to respectfully disagree about that. I *know* it's important to him that I make lunch. I've listened to why, and because I respect his opinion, I respond by making lunch (most days :LOL ).

ANY "action of love" is just a deed when you get down to it. It's not what you're doing, but the manner and reason behind why you do it that makes it one or the other.

Holly
post #26 of 152
Quote:
Originally Posted by Fishygirlsmom
IMO, this is NOT about love. Making lunch is a deed not an action of love.
Different things work for different couples. For some couples, food and love are wrapped up together, and for some couples they aren't.

There isn't a right and a wrong way to do this -- there is just what works for your family.
post #27 of 152
yep, although i just started. DH is a manager at his work and he really can't leave, so if when i didn't make him lunch he'd eat at the bbq place next door, but he was getting tired of that. so i usually give him leftovers from the night before, or sandwich stuff. we upped our grocery budget to allow $ for this, but is way cheaper than eating out. healthier, too, because about the worst thing he gets is the nitrates in the deli meats, instead of fried food every day.

i always fix his lunch before i go to bed, because i don't usually get up with him either, even though he leaves at 8 it's not much trouble to me.

we also don't use a microwave, so he takes his stuff in a one quart and heats it up on a single burner he brought to his work. i think his coworkers think he's crazy.

carrie
post #28 of 152
I'm a work-from-home mom and my shift ends at 2am (call center) so before I go to bed I pack a lunch for him. He goes to work just two hours later at 4am...

I like to do it because then I know he's getting something healthy, the cafeteria food is gross and unsanitary IMO.

I also feel like its an action of love, when I peel and cut carrot sticks or pick out good breads and make a sandwich just so, I feel like it gives him an opportunity during his busy day to take a break, eat and think about me...

much like the way he changes the oil in my vehicle is an action of love from him...yeah, I'm capable of doing it, but that's his job...division of labor, like the ants do it!


-Prensa
post #29 of 152
I always serve food to my family in love. It's not the only act I preform with love in my heart, of course. I honestly see the act of changing diapers as one of love, as well.

How does one define love? Is it just a feeling, or do 'acts' help us express our love? If my dh cleans the house before I do, I think of that as an act of love. If I wash or pick up his shirts from the cleaners because he is having a crazy week, that's an act of love. If he takes the kids out when he knows I need a chunk of time at home in peace, that's an act of love.

I knew this thread was going to be trouble from the miunte I read the header. I was pretty sure it wasn't going to be about couples helping each out.

I just wasn't sure if it was going to be 'Why should women be slaves to men" or 'He's a grownup--he can make his own lunch". I almost didn't respond. But I am addicted to MDC...what can i say?
post #30 of 152
I make his lunch everyday, it's part of my morning routine. Put coffee on, make his lunch. I'm happy to do it.
post #31 of 152
He eats out most of the time (it's kinda part of the job, lot's of work lunches and keeping professional contacts from old jobs he's had) but if we are feeling particularly broke, sometimes I will make his lunch. I do it becuase I am already in the kitchen, making dss's lunch anyway, and most of the time "making" his lunch consists of me pulling out the leftovers I packed away seprately anyway. He would definately forget it if I didn't do that, always does if I don't.
post #32 of 152
When DH works from home, I will make him a lunch if I am here. He will hopefully be doing that one a regualr basis (once a week) from now on, now that he is settled into his new job. I don't mind doing it because I'm usually already in there and because when he is working from home and I need something from him, I don't hesitate to ask.

Otherwise, he will take sandiwches or leftovers or frozen meals to work and we have agreed to limit him to one "eat out" lunch per week for budget sakes.

He really wants me to start cooking more meals with leftovers and I just havn't gotten into the swing of that. (We usually eat 2 pieces of meal grilled, veggies and a pasta side - which doesnt usually leave any leftovers.)
post #33 of 152
Quote:
Originally Posted by UUMom
I always serve food to my family in love. It's not the only act I preform with love in my heart, of course. I honestly see the act of changing diapers as one of love, as well.

How does one define love? Is it just a feeling, or do 'acts' help us express our love? If my dh cleans the house before I do, I think of that as an act of love. If I wash or pick up his shirts from the cleaners because he is having a crazy week, that's an act of love. If he takes the kids out when he knows I need a chunk of time at home in peace, that's an act of love.

I knew this thread was going to be trouble from the miunte I read the header. I was pretty sure it wasn't going to be about couples helping each out.

I just wasn't sure if it was going to be 'Why should women be slaves to men" or 'He's a grownup--he can make his own lunch". I almost didn't respond. But I am addicted to MDC...what can i say?
Yep, all of that. I feel sad that some mama's have a problem with other mama's making lunches for thier DP. I do think about him and how much l love him while I make his lunch. I don't have a lot of down time to appreciate my DP, so this is my time to work on my thankful feelings for what I have. and he has time with the baby while I spend time in the kitchen.
post #34 of 152
In response to the OP:
Good god, no!
post #35 of 152
Yes, if ds is happily entertaining himself and I'm awake enough to think about it. Although "making" lunch mostly consists of pulling out dinner leftovers and putting them in a container if I didn't already do it the night before. I spend all day with ds, dh spends most of the day at work - I'd rather that dh play with ds for the five minutes it takes me to put his lunch together in the am. Not a big deal to me.
post #36 of 152
no, my DH eats out with co-workers or has a lunch business meeting most days.

When I worked early shift, he made MY lunch for me and had it ready with a cup of coffee for the road
post #37 of 152
Yep, I pack it up before I go to bed (about 2 AM). During the colder months I get up earlier than him and make him a hot breakfast too.
post #38 of 152
No, are you kidding! :LOL

He's an adult and he can make his own lunch. I love him dearly and I do a lot for him (like his laundry, cleaning up after him, etc) so he can make his own lunch. I used to make it for him but I got some complaints about not packing enough, or packing things he doesn't like.

I am teaching Abi to make her own lunch, too. She's pretty good at making peanut butter sandwiches. If I provide the hard boiled eggs she can also make a good egg salad sandwhich all by herself. She just needs help with stirring.
post #39 of 152
My Dh comes home for lunch. Sometimes I make it, but mostly he does.
post #40 of 152
:LOL
No.

Sometimes I meet him for lunch.
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