Originally Posted by trmpetplaya
Eric, I'm really glad that your wife seems to be coming around again and definitely way to go for protecting your son! You're already a great dad
love and peace.
Here is an update.
My wife and I had dinner last night with my step-brother, who is pretty much the ONLY person we know with a child that is intact. His son is 6.
Pretty much everyone on both sides of our family are saying to get it done. So are friends and acquaintances that have overheard things.
But, you all may remember that my wife kind of waffled.
I can now say that after talking with my step brother last night, that she is firmly on the intact side again.
My step-brother told her that they had had no problems with his intact son. My wife's biggest concerns had been the whole "not looking like dad or his friends" thing, and infection/dirtiness.
But, like I said, my step-brother assured her that those are total non-issues. (My step brother is about 31 or so and is circ'ed).
I've gotta say, that after talking my step-brother and his wife, I'm totally paranoid.
They said that one pediatrician forcibly retracted their son, which caused some bleeding.
I tell you, I don't know what the deal is with the midwest. I think I was meant to live on the coast or something. Jeez.
Anyway, I now know that anyone that handles our son, including the delivery room doctors and nurses, I've got to tell them ahead of time not to retract the foreskin.
An interesting story with my step-brother: he and his wife didn't know the sex of their boy before he was born. He had done the research, and he knew he didn't want it done.
But, he wasn't on the same page with his wife. They hadn't talked about it much. Apparently my step-brother was out of the room, and the nurses came to get his son to circumcise him. Mom said she was going to have to sign something, so she waited until dad got back. So, in a room FULL of family members, they discussed circumcision. Apparently the entire family was preaching to circumcise, especially the maternal grandparents. Thankfully my step-brother is an ex-marine and strong and stood his ground. Also, a friend of theirs that is a professional soccer player from Colombia was there, and he told everyone that he was intact of course and had no problems.
We're not going to talk about it much ahead of time with our families. My wife's sister and my father seem to be the most vocal people saying we need to circ. They'll get over it.