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post #61 of 156
9/28/05 at 11:21am
Whoo-hoo!!! Congratulations!!! :

Quirky said it all in the last post.

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post #62 of 156
9/28/05 at 11:23am
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Originally Posted by ericisbacchus
Well everybody...

if we have a son he will stay intact!

Cheers, and thanks all. I'll post whether it's a boy or girl when we find out.
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I was going to post to agree with Ramlah, about pointing out that the foreskin is fused to the penis, not a "flap of skin" that is "snipped." When I was on the fence, that did it for me!! The way people refer to the "snip" makes it sound like taking off a hangnail, no big deal. Learning that was NOT the case made me decide against it. (Of course now I realize that even if it was a painless procedure it is not my decision to change someone else's anatomy. But it takes a while for those of us brought up in the US to come around to realizing that.)

Jen
post #63 of 156
9/28/05 at 11:40am
what a great email to get this morning! i'm soooo happy for you! i'm giddy and giggling myself. congrats! unfortunately, instructional manuals don't pop out before the placenta. :LOL but as long as everything you do is to love and protect your baby, boy or girl, you should be fine. definitely let's us know! whoever thought we would encourage the "dad's opionion matters most" theory... hee hee hee. : : : :
post #64 of 156
9/28/05 at 11:47am
Congratulations! What a relief!!!!
post #65 of 156
9/28/05 at 11:55am
They don't come with instruction manuals, but you've already deomnstrated that you have pretty good parental instincts. Listen to your baby, and listen to your heart: there's a reason our hearts break when a baby cries - it's because we're supposed to pick them up and comfort them!


The handy thing about babies is that they don't get manuals for us either, so if it takes 10 minutes for you to change a diaper, they don't know the difference. They grow and change slowly enough that you can keep up with on-the-job training.
post #66 of 156
9/28/05 at 1:33pm
I'm so glad your wife changed her mind.

I gave birth to my first 2 children in MO. One near the Ozarks and the other in St. Louis. It was 5 years ago but at the time both hospitals obtained circ consent prior to the birth (obviously it wasn't an issue after the birth as they both were girls). Make sure you are really careful about what you sign. The circ consent is often buried in admission paperwork.
post #67 of 156
9/28/05 at 3:25pm
Eric, congrats!! My 6 month old son is beautifully intact!

Be sure to make those stickers/signs/HUGE posters that say NO CIRC for the diapers and such if you're delivering in a hospital!

Yes, babies come with a manual... they are the manual. You're doing great already following your parenting instincts!

One thing I was going to post before I saw your 'update' was...

Is your wife posting on any 'mainstream' boards? If she is, you may want to either encourage her to come HERE instead, or find out what's being said on those mainstream parenting boards. If you think the circ issues are bad, so are the feeding 'schedules' and sleep 'schedules' and cry-it-out info...

BUT congrats on your victory!!!!!! Your (potential) son(s) will thank you!!!
post #68 of 156
9/28/05 at 3:43pm
I'm so happy for you & your wife.

It's so nice that she came to that decision on her own (albeit w/ a little help )

Quote:
Does the kid come w/ an instruction manual?
You will continue to wish for one, throughout parenthood. Trust me
post #69 of 156
9/28/05 at 3:54pm
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YAY! Glad to hear the good news!

Like the pp said, the baby is the manual. You will do fine! Congratulations on your "victory"!

Oh, and get your dw over here! Keep her off of other, ahem, b boards bc.
post #70 of 156
9/28/05 at 4:55pm
I have been following this thread and I want to say I am absolutely delighted!!
post #71 of 156
9/29/05 at 1:50am
Nope, no manual.

You should hang around here, even if you have a girl -- we could always use more male perspective on things
post #72 of 156
9/29/05 at 2:07am
: Good for you I'm so glad you two decided to leave him intact!

and yeah tell her to come over to mothering
post #73 of 156
9/29/05 at 11:30am
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by DahliaRW


Oh, and get your dw over here! Keep her off of other, ahem, b boards bc.
She posts at thenest. Is that site no good?
post #74 of 156
9/29/05 at 11:32am
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by zak
Be sure to make those stickers/signs/HUGE posters that say NO CIRC for the diapers and such if you're delivering in a hospital!
What do you mean?
post #75 of 156
9/29/05 at 11:43am
Hospitals have been known to circ without consent.

-Angela
post #76 of 156
9/29/05 at 11:58am
Heck, I'd bring a sharpie and write it on the diaper at every single diaper change.
post #77 of 156
9/29/05 at 11:58am
Especially for where you live... since circ is 'common' in the medical community... be SURE you put NO CIRC signs, posters and stickers on everything... some people do the same for 'no bottles, no pacifiers, no artificial feeding'... things like that... and 'no vaxing', etc.

I had my son in a birth center, so I didn't have to deal w/ that... but if I ever do birth in a hospital, I'm gonna be a sign freak!
post #78 of 156
9/29/05 at 7:46pm
Quote:
Originally Posted by ericisbacchus
She posts at thenest. Is that site no good?

hi eric,

well, i took a trip to the other message board to see what it was like (i try to avoid that cause it normally just upsets me) and it definitely would not be a site i would recommend to someone with an intact child. a lot of misinformation about circ (even a story about someone's nephew who wasn't circed and had lots of problems--who i would bet money was forcibly retracted) and a lot of mama's who have formed an opinion not on fact or research, but on even more misinformation.

so, if you have a boy, or a girl, and need some health questions answered, i would head over here to mothering rather than that other site....
post #79 of 156
9/29/05 at 8:02pm
I haven't read all the other posts but I didn't want to not respond. Maybe you guys could compromise? Let me explain how (I mean no crazy thing like only do a half one or anything ). DSS is intact. DH wanted him to be circed (changed his mind there though! ) and his exwife wanted him intact. They agreed to leave him intact until a certain age and then they would revisit the issue (had they stayed married). DH now doesn't care. DSS has been intact all his life and now it's "normal" for DH. He wouldn't circ him now. Maybe your wife and you could agree on something like that. Say to leave him intact until he's 5 years old and then you can revisit the issue. Maybe by then she'll see that intact isn't bad or dirty or anything like that. Good luck!

ETA: :LOL I just went back and read the thread! Bwahahaha, guess I should have priior to posting! Yay!!! Glad to hear she changed her mind!
post #80 of 156
9/30/05 at 11:53am
Kudos to you for standing up to protect your unborn child...
You have received lots of good info...Not muych to add ehre other thatn an Atta boy " for taking this stance...BTW. I have never had an "infection" from a uncirced lover... DS is intact and is 13 and HE has never had any infection problems ..We taught him early how to clean himself when he was old enough (it isn't hard to do..soap and H2o :LOL ) Best of luck with your new child.. Glad to see yor wife now agrees with you..blessings on your child to be....Please let us know the details when known....
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