Just curious. Have those of you that HAVE decided on guardians made financial arrangements for them to raise your child(ren)?
We have chosen my best friend to take our son should something happen to both of us. She is terrific. She and her dh have two children that ds knows and likes. They raise their children pretty much the same way we do, though not as AP as us. But, the family is filled with love and is very kid-oriented. She knows our feelings on vaccination (and ds's medical history) so he would never be vaxxed. She, too, is a sahm and has homeschooled her older child. She would homeschool our son.
We have stated in our will that they are to receive a very large sum of cash for agreeing to be our ds guardian (they do not know about this money, and will not until the will is read). It is our way of continuing to say thank-you to them for this important agreement after we are gone.
We have set-up a trust for ds, as well. It will pay for all his expenses, including college, wherever he chooses. That way, there is no financial hardship on our friend's family. They will be able to focus on his being a member of their family, not an extra they have to figure into their budget.
The only downside of this is they live back east in NJ, so ds would be leaving the only area he has lived. However, she has family in Montana and has been pushing her husband to move out west, so who knows what will happen.
My friend has even said my Mom could come live with them (ds is closer to my Mom than any other family member) for as long as she wants! THAT is friendship!!
I guess I just have to become a Highlander and never die.
