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post #21 of 33
There was a period when I felt they were watching too much. I cut back on it. They got over it. There were a few days of "Why can't we turn it on?" Once I held firm (in the past I had not) for a week they stopped asking for it. They know when they are allowed and when they are not allowed and they should not bother asking (unless I am out and dad is watching-he often lets them watch unless I leave specific instructions to not let them).
post #22 of 33
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Though I don't think I'm ready to physically move the TV, it is in a nice hutch with doors that close ... I think I'll close the doors and then put a cabinet lock on it so that dh and I are really the only two that can open it.

My goal this week is no TV during daylight hours. We do like watching something on PBS - Nature, National Geographic, etc - at night if it's on, or the end of a baseball game ...

So far I'm doing good. In conjunction with our conquer-the-toys issue, I bought each boy a canvas toy-box (like a 14" cube) and they can fill it with their pick of toys from the garage. Well, right now ds#2 is up and ds#1 is still sleeping. Normally ds#2 would be watching TV, but instead he's playing with his cube of toys.
post #23 of 33
I cut mine down to 30 minutes a day, then cut it down to only days we didn't have any playgroups, playdates and now we haven't watched it in months. They whined and complained alot of first, they asked to turn the TV on. I just said no and suggested other things for them to do and now they only ask occasionally- usually they ask to watch a movie.

Sure, some days I go a little crazy, but I don't ever think about turning on the TV. I only really go crazy on the days where we've had kind of a crappy morning and they won't take a nap (like today *sigh*). But I don't wish for a TV to turn on, I just wish I could escape for an hour or so!

When the kids quit watching TV, my husband and I also cut our TV viewing down and moved the TV into our bedroom. We watch a couple times a week and a movie here and there. But the TV is out of sight and out of mind for the children. I would like to get rid of it altogether. As a child, my parents restricted what I could watch and probably how much I had it on. I don't remember watching lots of TV. But my husband grew up watching as much and WHATEVER he wanted. He was like 4 yrs old and watching horror movies
(which just horrifies me! heh) and his dad literally kept the TV on 24-7.. really. Even when we visit them now it is on all day and all night. So cutting the TV out completely is a tough job for my husband. So it's a compromise. But it can be done with kids! There is so much else they could be doing besides watch TV- my kids build with their blocks and play with their toys, they help me with housework, we go outside alot, etc etc etc.. Good luck!
post #24 of 33
We started by being busy. out of the house away from the tube busy. Once it went on it was hard to get off. we went almost cold turkey allowing 1 video a day. now we don't even do that (they are too busy playing) They are allowedan all out feast on Saturdays bu twe don't get cable so even then choices and amouth of air time is limited. they watch roughly 3h ours on saturday morning. if they get up and out of bed. they have rolled out of bed right as the last show was ending. Also if I am ready for itt o be off without whining we pick up and run an errend of some sort.

I don't recal when we actually did it. I htink it might have happened when the new baby was born. for some reason it seems like there was no withdrawal.
post #25 of 33
I also got rid of the cable and analog antenna, we only use the TV for Netflix, and even then it is only once a week, if we are lucky.

We have 15mo b/g twins and they have never watched television. They are perfectly content to sit in the playroom and play either independently or together (with a few fights in between).

I was a big TV junkie and the withdrawal at first was really hard. But after about 3 weeks my DH was debating on getting cable and I said, 'Let's give it another week.' We have not turned back since.

There are a couple of ways to go about this.

1. Go cold-turkey, get rid of the cable altogether.

2. Get local channels only. Cable companies are required to provide this service, though they do not like to publicize and the cost is minimal. Not to mention there is less choices.

Some suggestions to keep them occupied (depending on their ages)

1. Fall time is another great time to spend with the kids to take them out on nature walks, raid a pumpkin patch, go pick apples.

2. Set aside a box of old clothing for pretending. Same goes for pots, pans, utensils that you do not often use and non-breakable dish/drinkware. Use empty and clean boxes and containers to stock up on their little general store.

3. Make chores fun! Have kids help you strip the bed, separate the clothes, sweep the floor. Case and point my 14mo dd loves to empty the laundry basket and hand me clothing. She gives me an item, I tell her what it is and which drawer it goes into. Monkey see, monkey do.

4. Help you cook/bake. It's a messy job, but who says that being messy can't be fun?

5. Late in the season now, but start a garden. You can begin as early as mid-winter, when vegetables such as broccoli, cabbage, collards, tomatoes, peppers, etc. need extra time to germinate in seedling trays to transplant later when spring begins. It does not have to be big. Consider creating something called a square foot garden, which in a children's garden case, is a raised bed that is 3 x 3 evenly divided into 9 1sqft squares. Each square would grow a variety of vegetable or herbs. There is a great easy-to-read book by Mel Bartholomew on the subject, which is virtually available in any library and it covers how start a child's garden. Not only is it fun to grow, it also teaches them responsibility (i.e. maintaining), math (how many plants do I put in a square), science (how things grow).

6. Art supplies. 'Nuff said.

Best of luck and let us know how it goes!

-Lisa
post #26 of 33
I love watching tv.. the only shows I like though are on AFTER the kidlets are in bed!

So what we did was move the tv to our bedroom... I watch about 1 hour of tv a night and the kids DO NOT MISS watching tv all the time at all. The never did have to go through an adjustment period or anything of the sort. If I need a nap in the afternoon, they get to watch a bit... or if they are absolutely wiped and want to watch I'll let them. It's not a big part of our everyday life anymore and for that I am so glad.
post #27 of 33
it isnt tv is the evil one. cable and shows are. we have a tv and my dd watches her dvd/videos once in a while and i sit with her to watch together. we have mommy movies and little girlie movie times. she sometimes joins me sometimes not. but we watch maybe one or two shows at a time. now if i had cable and got hooked on the shows guess what kind of picture i would be painting for my child.

in our house tv is too much of a fun tool as well as a learning tool to completely do without. it is just one of the activities amongst all the others we have in our house.

and tv in our house is a doing together activity. reading books or dress up or bean tub is mommy doing other things time.
post #28 of 33
We don't banish TV we do screen content everything my DD watches is prerecorded (DVR) buy I don't limit her time. WHat we do instead is keep busy with other activities so the TV just isn't a pirority.
I will admit though we see more during the summers I'll be glad when the tempetures finially start to drop were all getting cabin fever here. :
Deanna
post #29 of 33
Congrats on wanting to quit!

We went from cable, to rabbit ears to nothing, and it's the best decision we ever made... well, next to getting married!

It's really easy once you kick the habit. Just get rid of the signal, keep the TV for movies that you own and rent if you like, but, it's really that simple.

This is a really good site:

http://www.tvturnoff.org/

This one is kinda angry:

http://www.turnoffyourtv.com/

There's a "Mamas of TV Free rollcall" or something like that in the Finding your Tribe area.

Good luck!
post #30 of 33
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Originally Posted by meemee
it isnt tv is the evil one. cable and shows are.
For some children, it is actually the tv (or the computer...or whatever). For dd (who only watched pbs or videos when she did watch tv), *any* screen time would affect her behavior. After watching, she would be more irritable, demanding, tantrumy, etc. After we unplugged her (no tv or computer--except microsoft word for typing words), she morphed into a calmer, happier child. She still has her days of intensity and tantrums, lol, but overall a calmer, happier child .

I think that these things affect different children/people differently, but I now wonder how much tv/computers/video games contributes to all of the diagnosable behavior problems we see in society today
post #31 of 33
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Originally Posted by sunnmama
For some children, it is actually the tv (or the computer...or whatever). For dd (who only watched pbs or videos when she did watch tv), *any* screen time would affect her behavior. After watching, she would be more irritable, demanding, tantrumy, etc. After we unplugged her (no tv or computer--except microsoft word for typing words), she morphed into a calmer, happier child. She still has her days of intensity and tantrums, lol, but overall a calmer, happier child .

I think that these things affect different children/people differently, but I now wonder how much tv/computers/video games contributes to all of the diagnosable behavior problems we see in society today
That is completely how it is right now with my older son (4). He zones out during the TV and then throws a tantrum when I turn it off, and we have to deal with that fall-out for a while. My hope is that the behavior will change as we cut out the TV.

I've only read the first half or so of The Plug In Drug and need to start again from the beginning, but I remember something in there too about the negative affect of TV, no matter WHAT it was, on children's behavior. I have to go look that part up again.

Yesterday we did pretty good ... the TV only came on after ds#2 (1 1/2) was asleep for his nap and I needed to rest. So, ds#1 watched some TV while I did that. But once awake, we turned it off and it didn't come on again until about 7:30'ish ... Gramma was over to watch the boys and I told her she could watch a special movie with them.

Right now ds#1 is on the couch ("waking up") asking for TV ... so I'm going to get in the shower and take them on errands ... he has friends coming over today, and I plan on keeping the darn thing off all day if possible ... wish me luck!
post #32 of 33
Just wanted to mention, as an addition to the suggestion about music , that when I was a little kid I had my own portable tape recorder. In addition to music, it could be used to play story tapes that went with a book. I also used it to record myself or other sounds and play back. Hours and hours and hours of fun!
post #33 of 33
Our TV is also in mine and dh's bedroom. Nobody in our house watches TV on weekdays (unless dh is watching football). Usually on Friday nights we end up watching a movie and if we're not doing anything else on Saturday morning we watch the Time Warp Trio and that animal show that comes after it.

Oh, we also keep it unplugged so the kids can't turn it on without us.
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