When you have nothing to give......

[boysrus]

We are in a phase right now where I have nothing. no creative juices, no good solutions. i know it is transition, but I feel so guilty.
DH and I are both starting school for the first time in over ten years. We are both going full time, and he is working part time. SO, we are trying to figure out schedule juggling, paying for books, etc. We are also having a lot of financial difficulty right now, and it is all putting stress on the household.
My boys are still here and wanting what they always want, nd I just cant give it
How do you cope with transitional times?

[Linda on the move]

Originally Posted by boysrus

We are in a phase right now where I have nothing. no creative juices, no good solutions. i know it is transition, but I feel so guilty.
DH and I are both starting school for the first time in over ten years. We are both going full time, and he is working part time. SO, we are trying to figure out schedule juggling, paying for books, etc. We are also having a lot of financial difficulty right now, and it is all putting stress on the household.
My boys are still here and wanting what they always want, nd I just cant give it
How do you cope with transitional times?

no advice. I went through something similar last year when we had to move cross country (again) for my DH's job. It passed, but I felt like a crummy mom for awhile until it did. It's just the transistion -- this is temporary.

[MsMoMpls]

Originally Posted by boysrus

My boys are still here and wanting what they always want, nd I just cant give it
How do you cope with transitional times?

How do you cope when you have nothing to give? Lower your standards!!!!

More easy food, more TV, more visiting anyone that will entertain you, call in a few favors, less housework, the answer is to goof off a whole lot more. Recharge your batteries, however you can.

[fire_lady]

for you mama.
Talk to your boys about the situation. Slowly they will soon understand.
Good luck to you mama.

[flapjack]

You ARE giving. This experience will stick in their memories and in years to come, when they go off to college or move out of home or whatever they choose, and have a few really bad days, they will remember how you did it. And so, by watching, they'll learn to cope too. It's a pretty big gift you're offering- how to be human.
As far as coping goes, though, do whatever it takes to recharge your batteries- plus theirs. Our family has been working on a foot-massage swop recently, which everyone loves and it's a simple, fairly short ritual for calming down and feeling happy again.

[annakiss]

Originally Posted by MsMoMpls

How do you cope when you have nothing to give? Lower your standards!!!!

More easy food, more TV, more visiting anyone that will entertain you, call in a few favors, less housework, the answer is to goof off a whole lot more. Recharge your batteries, however you can.

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We're going through something similar right now (and we're not even doing anything!) and that's basically what we do. We do less. I don't worry about cleaning. We spend our days relaxing and I do what I can. You'll make it. Good to hear you decided to go for it!