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post #21 of 31
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Originally Posted by boingo82
www.whack-a-mohel.com I think. He gives them away to anyone who'll display them.
post #22 of 31
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Originally Posted by boingo82
www.whack-a-mohel.com I think. He gives them away to anyone who'll display them.
Good thiung Ive been doing my kegels...or Id have pee'd myself just now from laughing so far. whack-a-mohel OMG....My DH wanted both our sons circd- I said yes to our eldest then found out what happened to my baby (Im not american, I didnt understand what circumsicion was...stupid I know but when its not done in your country of birth well what can I say I was 20 and never gave it a thought. DH wanted him done so I said fine) anyhow we had a huge fight about DS2 and he is NOT circd my DH is finally getting over the fact that he is intact : anyhow I dont think hewould like me to put that sticker on my mom-mobile but oh so very tempting!! I need a t shirt that says that!
post #23 of 31
Be sure to really illustrate the importance of him hanging on to it. I'm an all around healthy intact 23 year old, and my son is a VERY healthy 2 month old intact baby. We'll have to deal with issues in the future I'm sure, as we're in the midwest (and at least 4 people on staff at our delivering hospital looked confused when I said NO CIRC) but I don't exactly know why....
I was never picked on for it or made fun of. In fact, girls AND boys alike were almost fascinated with it. It never hindered me from getting girls in my teen years.

At 16 he should reeeeeeeeeally be getting into the fact he's uncut. I mean, REALLY enjoying it. Are his reasons for wanting it done "to fit in" with his peers, or what? And if so, why is anything even being said about his penis in the first place? Why should his STRAIGHT guy friends even care about his penis? Who's the misfit here....the guy who's parents kept what he (and ALL boys) was born with, or the guy who's parents allowed it to be cut off in the first place?
post #24 of 31
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why is anything even being said about his penis in the first place? Why should his STRAIGHT guy friends even care about his penis?
I've always wondered that myself.
post #25 of 31
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DH and I have decided not to discuss this until closer when it happens because we are still on different wave length's about it. He thinks if DS wants a circ when he is 14 15 16 17 and becoming sexually active we should pay for it because that would be proof we "should have done it" when he was a baby.

He is also worried, if the foreskin does not retract until 18 or 19 as some are saying on this boards can DS even become sexualy active??

I think his main cincern is not what other males say or think about DS's penis but what the girls say, if the girls will reject him.

I think what most people are saying is right, I have won the big battle which was getting DH to agree to leave DS intact. Once DH gets used to that, that is the time to discuss what to do if DS ever wants a circ.
post #26 of 31
I chuckled at the bumper sticker, but laughed myself silly at Whack-a-mohel!

Minky, my twin sons are 11, and my DH is not circ'ed. When they learned about circumcision, they were horrified that anyone would even consider cutting off their foreskins. They feel sorry for their Dad, who is (in their words) "missing the best part", and they aren't anywhere close to sexually active yet.

I honestly do not see them changing their minds in 5 years (or 50). I wouldn't expect your son to want to be circ'ed either. Obviously you will teach him to respect his body, and if he doesn't figure it out for himself, you can explain the advantages of having a foreskin. Information is power! And if some girl in your son's future is shocked by an intact penis, he can be the one to teach her why intact is better.

Keep in mind that both types look pretty much the same when erect - and if your son is sexually active at 16, chances are Suzy isn't going to see him limp! She probably wont know the difference.
post #27 of 31
Don't worry to much about it. Wait until he is 16.IMO If he really wanted to be circ then allow him.
post #28 of 31
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DH and I try to come to an agreement on parenting decisions before they have to be put into action in the heat of a moment.

But this is something I think we are going to hold off deciding. If everyone here is right DS is not going to be the only intact boy on the playground in the locker room or anywhere so it will never become an issue.

I have thought about it since DH asked though. If DS was realy unhappy being intact why shouldnt i let him make the choice about his penis, isnt that what not circing is all about? Letting him have HIS choice about HIS penis?

ETA, I think one of DH's concerns is this not retracting thing some boys have, would make it look different, and DS would want to be circed.
post #29 of 31
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Originally Posted by Minky

ETA, I think one of DH's concerns is this not retracting thing some boys have, would make it look different, and DS would want to be circed.
Every boy will be retractable. He may not be FULLY retractable till hehits puberty. But it will retract. Is that what ou mean by "this not retracting thing" ?
post #30 of 31
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Originally Posted by nd_deadhead

chances are Suzy isn't going to see him limp! She probably wont know the difference.
I wanted to comment on this too! From my own personal experience this is SO true! I have been with two uncircd boys and one circd. (Two Canadian and one american :LOL: ) You cant tell the difference when erect. The sex was great though wish my Dh was uncircd :
post #31 of 31
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Originally Posted by Minky
DH and I have decided not to discuss this until closer when it happens because we are still on different wave length's about it. He thinks if DS wants a circ when he is 14 15 16 17 and becoming sexually active we should pay for it because that would be proof we "should have done it" when he was a baby.
If he wanted a tattoo would that be proof you should have had him tattooed when he was a baby? I know thats a perposterous question but no more preposterous than saying you owe it to a child to have perfectly formed and perfectly functioning parts cut off. You actually owe it to your son to prevent random cutting for no medical reason and no benefit.


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He is also worried, if the foreskin does not retract until 18 or 19 as some are saying on this boards can DS even become sexualy active??
Let me put your mind to rest here. I once posted on many boards and posted for years. Of all the people I came across in that time, I only came across 2 men who had a non-retractile foreskin and got a request for information about how to resolve it. The amazing thing was the request didn't come from the man but from the wives. To the men, it just wasn't important! Not only that, both of the men had children. It's obvious that sex was enjoyable and satisfying to them and was effective in getting their wives pregnant.


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I think his main cincern is not what other males say or think about DS's penis but what the girls say, if the girls will reject him.
Well, I think a foreskin is an excellent stupid woman filter! :





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