Renee, it's not that bad.
Our stash is a complete hodge-podge of random things, and I have never ever ever separated the diapers or covers for washing, with the sole exception being the wool covers that I've knitted (and the one that I had); those were washed by hand.
Everything else, diapers, covers, liners and pocket stuffers went into the general diaper bin. All was washed together. Technically, you're supposed to wash some of the covers in medium water instead of hot, but we never did that and never had a problem. We also had several non-diaper things go into the wash when they had been used as diapers in emergencies (i.e. tea towels, socks, scarves... whatever!
). The idea of doing two or three different loads of diaper laundry is quite horrifying to me... and I actually *enjoy* doing laundry!
I've never heard about Fuzzi Bunz pilling if you wash them with other diapers, but we did it for two years and never had a problem.
Getting different kinds is not as bad as you think; they have a fairly high resale value on the Trading Post here, for example, and even if you're only trading within your Due Date Club, you'll probably do very well.
If you're looking for maximum versatility, the diapers that will give you the most for your money, stick with prefolds and covers; infant prefolds initially and premiums later on. If you want diapers to be easy for anyone to change, fitteds and AIOs are nice, but they are much more difficult to size before you have your baby and the diaper in hand. They're all built differently, the babies and the diapers.
I've only had two AIOs (one that I made and one that was sent to me), and I didn't like them. The one that I made fit BeanBean perfectly, but it was a demon to wash and dry and I never felt like it was getting clean enough. It also never fit BooBah at all-- she has such a different figure from her brother that by the time she was big enough for it to stay on her hips, her thighs were too big...
It's anyone's guess whether #3 will ever wear it.
Just about any type of diaper can be made to work through any situation, provided that it fits the child in question.
I haven't posted much about a stash here, because as I said mine is quite the hodgepodge, but if I could afford a dream stash for a newborn, this is what I'd buy:
Knit three or four wool/wool blend wraps for daytime/in the house use.
Knit 3 pairs of shorts/longies (depending on weather) for nighttime use (with heavier yarn). These would go over the pocket diapers or over a pinned/snappied prefold with a soft, fleece liner.
4 dozen fleece or silk liners. Machine washable, they pull liquid away from the body and prevent rashes.
They also make it fairly easy to shake off poop, once it's "solid" and they're not too difficult to rinse off in the sink (if you or your man is so inclined; I'm not, Mike is).
10 proraps colors per size. I know that the diapering websites say that you only need three or four, but when you're not using fitted diapers underneath... well, newborn baby poop can be very very runny, and often gets to the cover. That means that you have to take the cover off when you change the diaper! I'd also like to be able to switch between two covers during the day, so that they've got a chance to dry (provided, once again, that there's no poop involved). With ten covers, you're pretty much guaranteed at least two days between loads of diaper laundry.
5 Fuzzi Bunz pocket diapers. During the newborn period, when your baby is sleeping all the time, the fleece or silk liners are much more convinient for preventing rashes, so I probably wouldn't buy too many in x-small size (unless my baby still needed xs after the end of the "fourth trimester.") I'd start with size small, and wait until after the baby was born to decide on them. Some babies, by the time they are staying awake for extended periods, are totally able to wear a medium sized diaper, kwim? I use Fuzzi Bunz *exclusively* for nighttime or extended car trips, to prevent rashiness.
A Fuzzi Bunz stuffed with hemp and worn under a pair of wool longies will keep most babies, even heavy wetters, dry and comfortable all night long, as well as their co-sleeping families.
A dozen 6 to 8 layer hemp liners for the Fuzzi Bunz. Some kids (like mine) require as many as three of these liners a night.
3 dozen infant sized prefolds.
8 dozen hemp jersey flats. Sounds like a lot, I know, but this is a dream stash, right?
Hemp flats are almost unbearably versatile. The tiniest babies can get a perfect fit with them, just as well as the largest. They can be used to stuff Fuzzi Bunz, for extra absorbancy with regular prefolds, under longies, soakers and wraps... and they wash easily and dry extremely quickly. I only had four of them in my diaper laundry, but when I was hanging them on the line with all the other diapers and covers, I would often find that the flats were dry before I'd finished hanging the others up.
(Note: We don't have a clothesline anymore, nor do we have a washer and dryer at the moment, but even so hemp flats will save *tons* of money for anyone when it comes to drying!). You never had to wash them twice, either; they got clean the first time every time.
They are not as easy to use as prefolds, and I know that Mike found them somewhat frustrating (though I showed him that in moments of desperation, he could jsut fold the thing into a rectangle and stick it in a cover
) and vastly preferred the prefolds (which still require a small amount of folding). You'll be able to use them literally from birth until potty learning, if you've got enough of them. When BooBah was new, one cheap flatfold (the gerber spit-cloth variety) folded to within an inch of it's life was okay; hemp is soooo much more absorbent, I think it would have been *perfect*.
I'd probably buy one of each type of fitted diaper around, just to try them out. Any that didn't work would be sold on the Trading Post immediately, or traded for something different. With four or five WAHM diapers and the Trading Post, I could probably have a good time experimenting and finding out what did/didn't work for my baby.