All you experienced mamas...
My DS (3 years old) is a wonderful child. We've always had a great relationship. Of course, now, with DD (3 weeks), I feel like I'm ruining him. He wakes up each morning (and some nights) crying. Really crying. He still sleeps with us and still nurses. I thought both of those would help, but they don't seem to. Of course, I'm not doing so well either. I've been thinking about how nice things were before this little one came along too. And I've been crying a lot, so I know that's a big part of what's going on. He's whining and testing a bit, both of which I expected. But the crying is breaking my heart. I just want him to be happy.I guess I'm asking what I can do to make this transition easier on him. Any ideas?
My DS (3 years old) is a wonderful child. We've always had a great relationship. Of course, now, with DD (3 weeks), I feel like I'm ruining him. He wakes up each morning (and some nights) crying. Really crying. He still sleeps with us and still nurses. I thought both of those would help, but they don't seem to. Of course, I'm not doing so well either. I've been thinking about how nice things were before this little one came along too. And I've been crying a lot, so I know that's a big part of what's going on. He's whining and testing a bit, both of which I expected. But the crying is breaking my heart. I just want him to be happy.I guess I'm asking what I can do to make this transition easier on him. Any ideas?
Three weeks is not a long time. You are all still adjusting so please don't be so hard on yourself. It sounds like you are a loving and caring momma -- maybe your son is just having a hard time sharing you but it will get easier and you will fall into a routine eventually. Maybe your ds is not getting enough sleep which is making him more crabby? Maybe lying down with him during the day will help? Maybe you can find a few minutes just to spend with him alone like a few minutes playing outside or reading a special story or just cuddling? Hang in there. The transition from one child to two is difficult but soon you will be wondering what you did before and feeling like dd has always been around. And please try to get some rest and a minute or two of mama time when you can -- it is hard taking care of and nursing two little ones!!
