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post #41 of 70
We don't have clothes issues either. My dd lives in jeans & t-shirts and ds wears jeans or cargo pants and t's, but neither one cares about lables.

No dating here either--ds was recently intrigued to find two girls who play "Magic." One of whom keeps beating him! But he hasn't shown any romantic interest in anyone yet.

It's funny, but we were just talking last night about when WE were teens, and how we argued over the telephone, now the kids each rally for the computer instead:

"I told L I'd meet her online at 9:00!"

"Well, R and I are playing a game at 9:00!"

Meanwhile, the phone sits idle. :LOL
post #42 of 70
My guy, (nearly 11) asked how old I was when I went on my first date. EEEK. He also called my sister (his confidante for all things girl related). Actually I think this is all great. He's not quite 11. He's not "going out" with anyone...he's just so sweet.

He's just so embarassed by anything romantic or sexual in nature (which is a good indication of the amount of time he spends thinking about it if you ask me). We've always been really open (ok, I've always been open and he's always asked me questions) but he's changed in the last year or so.

As for clothes, the boy is all about the camo-lovin'/sk8 or die sort of look. He told me he doesn't believe in brushing his hair, cleaning his nails or wearing socks. Sooo...the girls aren't going to get too close anyway...well...if they have a nose anyway! LOL

Abby
post #43 of 70
He sounds sweet I am so close to my son. I really treasure it because I heard so much about how boys,during their teen years, are not normally close to their mothers.

My Dd is really into camoflauge stuff too.
post #44 of 70
Thread Starter 
Hello Everyone,

I am heading to St Louis for the Live & Learn Unschooling Conference so I won't be posting here for a little while.
I have been a little stressed getting ready for my trip, but other than that things have been going well. My son and I are looking forward to a great trip together just the two of us, as my husband can't attend this year :-(
I have enjoyed all of the posts here very much. It is so nice to know that other members are sharing some of the same experiences that I am with my son.
Have a good week!

Take Care,
Erika
post #45 of 70
Have fun Erika! I bet it will be a blast
post #46 of 70
Thread Starter 
Hi Everyone,

I am just back from the conference in St Louis. We had a wonderful time and the weather was great. Kelly, the conference coordinator, really did a great job of offering a lot of different activities. The trip to the City Museum is something my son and I will always remember.
The speakers were really passionate about the topics they were speaking about and the audience was very receptive. It was also nice to see so many friends that I only get to see once a year and to make new friends from all over the country.
I was a little disappointed in the conference's lack of diversity(even more so than last year), but I still managed to hold a really informative talk about and for unschoolers of color. And it was really nice to be around so many unschoolers. Especially for my son.
And next year's conference is going to be held in Albuquerque, New Mexico in early September 2006. The exact dates will be determined soon and I will post them here.

Take Care,
Erika:
post #47 of 70
I have one just turered 10 year old and a 14 year old
post #48 of 70
Subbing - mine turns 11 next month. We have a lot of mood swings here, but this child has always been intense and moody, so it's hard to sort out what's what. I love the post about working as a team - it can be really challenging!
post #49 of 70
Thread Starter 
Welcome Liisa and Benjalo.

Benjalo, I notice that you have the HS icon in your signature. How long have you been HSing?

Take Care,
Erika
post #50 of 70
Howdy all! I have a 13 yo son whom I share physical custody of with my ex. My son is a thoughtful and sometimes sensitve boy; I am looking to chat with others who have teenagers. I was a young Mom, had him at 19, i now have a almost 3 month old- talk about a difference but it means that most Mamas I meet these days have small kids. Anyway slinging babe at keyboard so its hard to type but I will be checking back in here.

Shay
post #51 of 70
My boys are 14, 12, and 11...
post #52 of 70
Quote:
Originally Posted by ErikaDP
Welcome Liisa and Benjalo.

Benjalo, I notice that you have the HS icon in your signature. How long have you been HSing?

Take Care,
Erika
Hi Erika - we've always homeschooled, except for one year of kindergarten for my oldest.
post #53 of 70
Thread Starter 
Hi to you Benjalo,

Glad to see another homeschooling family here. We are unschoolers and we love it.
Well, it's looks like fall may be over here in NE . I was watching the news and they had the nerve to mention the S word in the forecast!
But seriously, I love winter(we all love to ski and my son is a snowboarder too), I was just hoping that it wouldn't come before Thanksgiving!
Well I'm off to the library with my son. Here's hoping that it stops raining soon

Take Care,
Erika
post #54 of 70
Hi all. Thought I would join. I have 7 children my oldest is 12 1/2 and I also have an 11 1/2 yr old and a 9 yr old. All girls.

Kasey
post #55 of 70
Thread Starter 
Hi Everyone,

Sorry to not have posted here in a while, I have been visiting other threads here at MDC and getting very involved in conversations there.
How was everyone's Halloween(if you celebrate it)? My son ended up creating his own costume this year. He wanted to be an old fashioned bad guy from the 1930's. And he looked great! Last year he was Popeye, so I think that he likes to be characters from the recent past. I can't wait to see who he comes up with next year.
Well, that all for now. I am off to the library with my son. Have a great day!

Take Care,
Erika
post #56 of 70
My 16 yr old didn't TOT, but my 13 yr old did with her nearly 12 yr old borther, 6 yr old sister, a hs friend, and a cousin. They were very cute. My dd (13) sewed a lot of her costume-- she is also handy with a glue gun. She was a demon. The cutest demon, ever. My 11 yr old was a werewolf, and my youngest was supposed to be a Fire Fairy (with silks), which she was for town parties, but decided to go with a pink princess theme for the night fo halloween. That really suprised me, as she is usually a animal or the like.

Anyway, I am surprised at how easy my teens are. Maybe i shouldn't say that... Gonna eat my words someday. I figure one of my kids has got to be an Alex Keaton...(character from an 80's show where the hippie parents had a Reagan-loving conservative son-- I think that is pretty much the only way the kids could get to me ).

Of course, my 16 yr old wants my new car every minute!!
post #57 of 70
Thread Starter 
Hi UU,

All of my teens(my 13 yr is our 4th) were really great to get along with and we never went through that difficult stage that all of the books talk about.
I hope to be similarly blessed with my youngest son.
You can have the same experience with your children, it looks like your on the right track.

Take Care,
Erika
post #58 of 70
Quote:
Originally Posted by ErikaDP
Hi UU,

All of my teens(my 13 yr is our 4th) were really great to get along with and we never went through that difficult stage that all of the books talk about.
I hope to be similarly blessed with my youngest son.
You can have the same experience with your children, it looks like your on the right track.

Take Care,
Erika

That's sweet of you to say.

I do know people who have had excellent relationships with their teens--mostly by accepting them as they are, and showing respect for their needs. I am trying to learn from their good example.

Only time will tell, and all chidlren are different, and have different needs.

I am a mother lioness, for sure. Our children need dh and me 'differently' as they get older, but they don't need us 'less'.
post #59 of 70
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by UUMom
I am a mother lioness, for sure. Our children need dh and me 'differently' as they get older, but they don't need us 'less'.
What a great quote! I wish that I had more room in my signature lines for it.

Take Care,
Erika
post #60 of 70
My 14 y/o went TOT as Eragon. He described and sketched the outfit and I made the tunic and pants, and he designed and built the sword, bow, and arrows--he looked really good! He was bummed at first, because he had a communication problem with a friend and his plans fell through, but true-to-form, he was out of the house for about 2 minutes before he hooked up with a bunch of kids from the neighborhood and had a group to TOT with!

My 10 y/o (a witch, "A simple, basic, no-nonsense costume.") went with 2 older girls from the neighborhood--I'm in a weird place with that, because she's ALWAYS gotten along better with kids older than she is. But now, at this age, her friends are ready for a lot more than she is. Intellectually, she fits in better with older kids and I wouldn't discourage that, but it makes me a little nervous still.

I took our youngest TOT and at one point, got a phone call saying that Ds's group and dd's group had gotten together and were heading over to the other side of the lake. They had a blast and came home on their own around 8:30 (which was a good thing, because I forgot to tell them about the 9:00 town curfew--that's so weird to me, I just didn't even think of it!)

We haven't had any "typical" teen problems and I don't expect them. People keep telling me, "JUST WAIT, he's only 14..." but, you know, I just can't see it coming to that.
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