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post #21 of 30
I'm sorry to say you guys are not alone : we haven't told anyone yet JUST because we know what the response will be.

I'm trying to talk my dh into letting me write a letter so we won't have to deal with their negativity but he doesn't think that's necessary. I do after his mom didn't speak to us for almost a week after we told her about our third pg. I'm sure this one will get a worse response

I'm actually pretty stressed about it all, even though I know I shouldn't be! She's the one being small minded, but I stress about it. Oh well...

My family will also not be happy, though that will be over their concern about my homebirthing.

It's odd that so many of us here have gotten/expect negative reactions. I think probably because we all do similar things that make our families upset - from homebirthing to homeschooling and ap parenting.

Oh well...I'm going to be happy and I'm glad to hear all of you are too!! I'm sorry there are so many stupid people in the world
post #22 of 30
That is awful what they said, so to make up for it, I shall now unleash my 3 year old on the smiley page to throw you guys a party:

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post #23 of 30
Throckmorton: that's a lotta smilies! Must be a pretty happy 3-year-old!
post #24 of 30
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by nitareality

We all deserve what EVERY mother deserves, a loving welcome to the new life that will be joining the family! And would it hurt so bad to act happy, or even worse, BE HAPPY?
AMEN!!! Well said!


And thanks to you all, you have made my day.

And to those of you getting the negativity as well.
post #25 of 30
oh dear, i remember those days!!! That was a bit ago (look at my signiture).
It will pass, soon they will realize that children are a blessing... OR that you are going to do what you want anyways, they might as well be happy about it!
This is what happened this time around for me. Everyone is sooo excited about #6!! My step mom said....well, you're going to do it anyways, we might as well be happy about it! lol
The only one I WILL hear flack from is my sister and I have not yet told her! She would not tell me when she was prego for #3 because she had HARPED on my about 2 is ENOUGH and then she was having #3, hahahahaha
She waited until she was 6 months pregnant to tell me!!! (we live far away)

I have come to laugh at peoples ignorance and praise the Lord for giving me clarity.

kristi
post #26 of 30
I'm sad to say I am in this boat too. My mother first words were to the effect of, "Oh no!... are you sure?... I hope you're done after this!" Gee, thanks for the love & support mom. I knew it would be like this, and put off telling her. Then I didn't hear from her for over a week, when she called to complain about something else. When I told her I was really sick with m/s, she actually laughed, as in "well, you wanted to have another baby." I can't even express how sad and angry I am about this.

Many hugs and warm congratulations to all you mamas-to-be. I love that this community is so supportive.
post #27 of 30
Just thought I'd throw this out in case any of you with larger families ever need it and haven't heard it. I read something from Martha Sears once where she said that her response to people's comments about how many children they have is "the world needs my children."

CONGRATS!!!!!!!
post #28 of 30
Quote:
Originally Posted by LovinLiviLou
Just thought I'd throw this out in case any of you with larger families ever need it and haven't heard it. I read something from Martha Sears once where she said that her response to people's comments about how many children they have is "the world needs my children."

CONGRATS!!!!!!!

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post #29 of 30
I am so sorry. It sucks to be treated that way. i dont have any advice because the only one who knows I am pregnant is my mom! And I am 21 weeks. I know my dad will just talk crap..
post #30 of 30

my family sucks too

i am sooo glad i found this post- ive been hating my mom for almost two years over this exact thing!!! i thought she was the only person in the world crazy enouph to say somthing like that!! with my last preg when i told her she got very angry and said"well, are you at least going to put THIS ONE up for adoption?" when i said uh, no! she replied"so, your not even going to give this one a fighting chance?!" as if to suggest im some sort of crack head that doesnt know how to love and care for and protect my baby! keep in mind this was baby #3!!! well anyways now that i know that she is not the only crazy one i feel better, and maybe be able to move on!!
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