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When are going to tell people?

post #1 of 13
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Just wondering when everyone is planning on telling people about the babe.

With dd my sister somehow guessed at about 6 weeks (we don't even live in the same city and dd was a surprise so I am not sure how) and I told my Mom at about 8. We told dh's parents and a couple of close friends at about 12 weeks and then everyone else after 14 or so.

We haven't told anyone yet, but I am only 5 weeks so I am not sure when we will start telling family.

Just wondering what everyone else is doing?
post #2 of 13
Probably soon, just to get it done. I'm 9 weeks so likely in the next couple weeks we'll get everyone told I don't think my tummy will allow us to hide it much longer than that!

I think whenever you feel comfortable telling is the best time to tell, whether that be early or late.
post #3 of 13
This is our first, so we're trying to hold out until Thanksgiving. That would be almost 13 weeks for me. I don't know if we're going to make it, tho, and it would be a huge relief to have it out in the open. But, I'm too afraid of mc to tell quite yet.
post #4 of 13
With my first, I told one friend right away, then we waited until 8-9 weeks to tell the gparents.

With the baby I m/cd this summer, I told almost everyone I knew by week six, had a m/c at week 7. With the exception of a couple of people, it was much better that they knew. I had a lot of support during my m/c.

This time, 3 close friends know. I'm not sure when I'm telling everyone else. Maybe after I hear the heartbeat. I have a hard time keeping secrets.
post #5 of 13
Not sure. We share when we feel comfortable or when people ask direct questions, but have been pretty close-lipped about it to close friends and family. I live in CA, but will visit family in NY (all my immediate family still lives there) for Thanksgiving, so we're thinking about waiting until then. But sheesh, that seems like a looooong time! But I'll be about 14 wks then and it seems "safe".

Don't want to offend anyone (family/friends) by waiting, but want to do it on our terms. Just trying not to push myself either way. I have several friends that would probably be judgemental either way - e.g. say I told "too early" or upset that I didn't share earlier.
post #6 of 13
I try to keep the rule that anyone I would share that I had a miscarriage with, gets to know we are pregnant. So my parents, sibling and sister-in-law know. My two best friends know. And against my will, my entire nursing class and all the istructors know. The daily vomiting gave it away. I see those people way too much. We are also telling the in-laws this weekend. I feel bad that they don't know yet. My FIL knows something is up. He hugged my last weekend and said that he hopes I feel better. I didn't even tell him I was feeling bad, but I was a little green and very tired-looking.
post #7 of 13
Our plan was not to tell until 12 weeks.
Well, that was a lot easier LAST time when we didn't find out we were pg until 12 weeks.
We have told my parents, Mac's parents, and my best friend. That's it so far!

I told my mom this week, I am about 7 weeks...
Her response?
"Oh. I THOUGHT you were pg because 3 weeks ago you looked really puffy."

OK. WTF? Thanks mom. : Because I have gained like 2 lbs NOW and NOTHING THEN and she is just not very tactful, is she?
post #8 of 13
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Originally Posted by boingo82
Our plan was not to tell until 12 weeks.
Well, that was a lot easier LAST time when we didn't find out we were pg until 12 weeks.
We have told my parents, Mac's parents, and my best friend. That's it so far!

I told my mom this week, I am about 7 weeks...
Her response?
"Oh. I THOUGHT you were pg because 3 weeks ago you looked really puffy."

OK. WTF? Thanks mom. : Because I have gained like 2 lbs NOW and NOTHING THEN and she is just not very tactful, is she?

Aren't Mother's the best
post #9 of 13
I've already told a bunch of people. I told people right away last time too. Except I waited till about 14 weeks to tell work, and I'll probably wait that long for work, too.
post #10 of 13
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Originally Posted by lacysmommy
I've already told a bunch of people. I told people right away last time too. Except I waited till about 14 weeks to tell work, and I'll probably wait that long for work, too.
Yeah, not telling work until it's obvious. I JUST (like, right around the time I got pg) got promoted to an awesome job, to replace a girl who left after only a year. Never came back after maternity leave. So, no reason to flip the boss out before I HAVE to.
post #11 of 13
My mom has always kinda kept track of our periods- my sis and I have PMS so she always wants to know if it's the hormones talking to her, so she guessed right away. I've told family, my husband told a blabbermouth friend of his, so a few more people know. Honestly, I want to start telling everyone. I have so many zits, and I'm obviously fatter. I want people to know it's the babe's fault, not mine!
post #12 of 13
WE play it by ear. I have told more than I really wanted to so far. But at preschool there was a chicken pox scare and a discussion of whether to have a pox party or not so of course that came up. My friends are noticing that I am pretty sick and not up to my regular energy. I have of course told our moms, and my best friends because I have no secrets from them :LOL

I am having a hard time with how and when to tell our close friends who are struggling with infertility and are in the process of adopting. I know the news will be painful to them, but I can't keep it from them you know?

ND
post #13 of 13
I've told a couple of friends, my mom, and sister. I'm waiting until after my first MW appt (next week!!) to tell the rest of my friends. Not sure about work yet -- might try to wait as long as possible, but I don't feel as strongly about waiting until 12 weeks this time. I'm guessing everyone will know between 8 and 10 weeks!
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