What is the worst/dumbest thing anyone has ever said to you about parenting stuff? - Page 7

[charmarty]

I am so sad

My girls have been sick for 2 months straight.I am doing everything I can and know how to find out the cause.The most difficult to treat is the constant runs they have had for 9 weeks straight.So I am in tears talking to my terribly toxic mother(first mistake)saying,I dont know what else to do mom or where to go from here.She says welll what about your milk?
Me-what about it?its the best thing for them especially now when they wont drink or eat anything else.
Her-well it can go bad
me-no it cant
her- oh yes it can!
me_no mom it cant.it doesnt go bad or go sour.
her-charmaine,I KNOW it doesnt go sour,but it does go bad.
me-ok mom,i am not going to argue about this anymore.I will say that i know it doesnt bc i have done so much reading about BM that I know I am doing the best thing for them.
her-YA,WHATEVER(she is angry now!)So,what are YOU eating to make them sick?
I hung up the phone.


I just finished e mailing her a ton of info on FAQ and myth sheets,as well as a little note to just leave me the hell alone.

So that has to be my worst.

[Xenogenesis]

My mother told me the "best" thing I could give my dd while she's teething is Popsicles!!! The best thing? She's never had anything but breastmilk, and I should give her Popsicles?

Hey-hey, what about popsicles made from breastmilk (for an older child, of course). :LOL


<edited to add I'm so sorry to hear about so many having such uncaring "friends" and relatives. I guess this is one of the reasons a lot of us practice attachment parenting, to make this world a better place.>

[kater07]

Laila...that's an AWSOME idea. Breastmilk popsicles.

I too feel bad that soooo many of us are getting such crappy comments from ppl who are supposed to love us.

The dumb comments from strangers, well, I just expect that and it always surprises me that I NEVER get comments from strangers.

Katie

[mamazee]

My mom told me not to nurse my daughter because she'd turn into a lesbian.

Also, she was watching her while I was at the dentist once. I left some EBM, and my mom said she didn't want to feed her it because "it's a bodily fluid." I left with the babe and got my dh to leave work to watch her.

*SIGH* !

Zee

[Eosine]

I just had to say OMG!!!! I am so glad she didn't influence your decision to bf still!

[Gagesmom]

After my second child was born, a friend of the family called to see how she was doing. I said, "Oh she's great, she's in her swing right now". And the friend said, "Well, if she's happy being put down then DON'T HOLD HER or she'll always want to be held." ??????????????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!??????????????:c onfused: This is my second and probably last baby, and I'm not supposed to hold her? What the hell? My MIL also said, when I mentioned that I have DD in the sling most of the day or my DS (who is 2) is always accosting her in some way, "Oh, but then she'll always want to be held. You should just put her in the crib during the day." ????????????? What?????????

[Gagesmom]

Originally posted by mamazee
My mom told me not to nurse my daughter because she'd turn into a lesbian.

I left some EBM, and my mom said she didn't want to feed her it because "it's a bodily fluid."

Can I just say, OH....MY...GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Don't breastfeed your female child or she'll turn out GAY? She CAN'T really believe that...that's the most ignorant thing I've heard in a looooooooooooong time. And besides, even if your DD did turn out to be a lesbian, why is that so bad?
And what does your mother mean by breastmilk being a "bodily fluid"? Is she putting it in the same category as urine or vomit? Mamazee, I feel so badly for you. Thank goodness you are raising your daughter how you see fit, and realize the silliness of your mother's ideas on the subject of breastfeeding.
My brother said that if his wife had breastfed, he'd have felt badly that he couldn't feed the baby. My DH and I reminded my bro that DH had given our babies plenty of bottles of EBM, and bro said, "yeah, I guess..." Then, when the subject of extended br/feeding came up, my bro blurted out, "Now that's sexual, you have to admit". I replied, "Paul, you don't honestly believe that a mother would breastfeed her toddler to get off do you? Or are you referring to the toddler-who knows nothing of sex? What exactly are you saying?" Bro kind of chuckled and admitted he had no idea what he was talking about. Our own father was breastfed till he over the age of 3!

[Xenogenesis]

Laila...that's an AWSOME idea. Breastmilk popsicles.

I'm not sure if it would work, but might make a good comeback to the poster's mom who suggested popsicles.

Maybe ice-cream made from breastmilk. Wouldn't separate maybe. Then formed into icecream popsicles. :LOL

[MysticHealerMom]

My mom doesn't live close by, so I've been giving her updates over email. She has a large extended family and keeps them in the loop. I send her email and say "I'm doing fine, this is week 18" or something.

One day she wrote back and said - how far along are you? and when's your due date?

wellllll, I thought she could count - but I guess when she was pregnant they were still measuring in months, and not weeks. : Although I'm surprised no one she talked to did the math.

So I cleared it up - you get 40 weeks or there about, so we're expecting mid May as the due date, and if we're at 20 weeks now, that's half way.

"Oh! Thanks!!"

I didn't tell her the exact "day" so they won't try to hold me to it Gotta love her

[Christy1980]

will someone *PLEASE* try to make these pops and let us know how they turn out!!!



thanks

christy

[Xenogenesis]

Maybe morgan's_mom ? She's got a freezer full of breastmilk I heard.

[padomi]

I've got a freezer full of frozen breastmilk, so I'll give it a try when DH wakes up. Hey, regarding the postings earlier about why nurses can be so insensitive to new moms -- I asked my mom this question last night (she was a labor, delivery, and nursery nurse for many years). She replied that nursery nurses get attached to the babies and they assume that new moms are idiots and often feel sorry for the babies who have to go home with these idiots. I said "Don't you think nature supplied the new mom with some degree of instinct and also that new moms will most likley have more support and advice than they'll want once they get home?" She said yes, but that nurses still tend to feel that way. That explains a lot. DH and I were told several times by nurses in the hospital - when we went to the nursery to get our DD - "Oh, she's fine right here. Just leave her be." We had to be confrontational just to take our baby back to the room!!!

[DaryLLL]

Oh yes, those nursery nurses think of those babies as their babies. They wrap them all up tight like burritoes and pop the binkie in the mouths, tidy rows of nice tidy little bundles. Never mind those little bundles just spent 9 mos in utero and need to be next to a warm body, smelling mom, grooving on the love, suckling and being kissed!

(OT--Breastmilk popsicles? Just get one of those popsicle making kits, Tupperware has them, you can get them anywhere in summer, Walmart or wherever. Maybe now in a kitchen store?

Then as your kid gets older, you can make OJ pops, or yogurt mixed with peanut butter, or fruit, etc. Toddlers think this is cool.)

[hahamommy]

BM Pops

My family really likes the applejuice/bm combination appropriate for all ages (where apple juice is appropriate anyway): sore throats, sniffles, meltdown, nausea, thirst... the list is endless

~diana ild

[HotMama]

Originally posted by laila

Maybe ice-cream made from breastmilk. Wouldn't separate maybe. Then formed into icecream popsicles. :LOL

Breastmilk does separate, but who cares? They'd still be the best ever!

[elaine]

wouldn't it be amazing if real true wisdom was as widespread as bullcrap?

I 'm 37 weeks and have gotten it all.

just wanted to share this graphic too


http://www.milksucks.com/breasttop2.jpg

[Quirky]

Originally posted by laila
Hey-hey, what about popsicles made from breastmilk (for an older child, of course). :LOL

Check out the links here (at the bottom of the page) for breastmilk yogurt, popsicles, soap....

[rwikene]

At the birth center where I labored there were some bars of soap on the counter in a basket, with some business size cards next to them. DH picked up the soap, smelled it and showed it to me....when I was putting it back I saw the little card that said something to the effect of "this soap is made out of breastmilk, if you want me to make some soap from you milk, contact me at....."

I showed DH and he was soooo grossed out :LOL

Also, there is a show on TV called "Girls Behaving Badly" and they had a stunt they pulled on people in a cheese shop....they had men and women sample some "special cheese" after they got their reaction to the cheese, they told them it was made from breastmilk, and then showed a picture of some woman from a foriegn country....oh, you should have seen the people's faces when they heard this :LOL

After the people were completely grossed out and most of them spit out the cheese, they revealed that this was in fact cow's milk cheese.....some of the people actually got pissed off....

[sadie_sabot]

While pregnant with dd, an old boyfriend who we're still friends with but who lives far away came to visit and the first thing he said to me was "hey fatty"

When i started pumping, someone asked if I feel like a cow.

I of course went into a bit of a rant about how first of all, cows are commonly thought of as big dumb and stupid, and I didn't appreciate the implication, and secondly, it just goes to show how messed up we are societally that when we think of milk and expressing milk we think of cows instead of moms. As though drinking cow's milk is more 'natural' than drinking mother's milk!:

[Shenjall]

When dd was diagnosed with a uti, my mother was convinced she got it from bf because I've had them in the past and I HAD to have passed it to her. She'll try anything to try and get me to stop. And dd is only 2.5 months old!