What is the worst/dumbest thing anyone has ever said to you about parenting stuff? - Page 2

[April 2007]

at my son's 2 month appt (which i regret going to), the nurse asked how long and often noah nurses, i said " i don't know...when he wants to." she gave me this look like "but i have to write something down or i'll cry!." so i said, "every 2-3 hrs, anything from 2-40 minutes."

then hse said, "so i see he'll be getting shots today"(i told them twice that he wasn't) i said no and she looked dumbfounded. then she said, "but you have medicaid" then it was my turn to give the "and?" look. she said "the dr won't be happy about this!" (oh no, i don't want to upset the dr!!!!!! lol) she said (w an attitude) "i'll have to have you sign a paper" and then right as she was leaving she spun around and said "you know medicaid can hold your coverage from you if refuse vaccines...and they WILL!" I told her it didn't matter cause he'd be on different insurance soon.

the doc came in, opened the file and said, "so i see you're refusing shots. i said yes and he asked why.i told him that i needed to educate myself more about them and that if i did choose to vaccinate, it would be on a schedule i choose and noah would be older so if he did have a reaction, his immune system would be stronger. he just gave me a blank stare.

then he saw about b.feeding and said nursing him past 15 minutes was bad cause he was just using me for confort. i said, "so??" he didn't have much to say after that, except when he saw noah standing and snapped at me sayong that he was too young to be doing that (so what am i supposed to do? put him in a cast that prevents it?)

SHEESH!!! i know i have more, but this day stuck out in my head

[April 2007]

i just had to add to the good baby thing.

this is the most common and stupidest thing ppl ask me!

"is he a good baby?" I just smile, nod, and say"yeah, he's great"

what do they thinkim gonna say?????

also, everyone always asks, "so does he cry alot?" and "does he wake up in the middle of the night screaming and crying?"

I always say "no, y should he?"

[HotMama]

Originally posted by MamaInTheBoonies
"Is she a good baby?"
Uhmmm...No, she's downright evil! She's horrendus! She even says the F-word!!! can you believe it?!?! And twice I have caught men in her bed!!!!!!! My baby is so naughty!!

ok, I think i almost gave this elderly lady a heart attack, but hey, I was sick of it that day.

ROTFLMAO I was laughing so hard I woke up dd! How's a Mama suppossed to nurse a baby to sleep with such funny posts??

[indiegirl]

Yesterday I went to my aunts yearly xmas party and was talking to one of her friends. She asked me where the baby was that I was pg with last year. I told her I miscarried that baby. She said, "Oh you weren't that far along anyway. And besides, that baby was most likely deformed, so its actually a good thing it died."






Nice. I wanted to slap her, instead I said, "That very well may be true, but it certainly doesn't make it any easier."

Jesse

[kater07]

Originally posted by indiegirl
...She said, "Oh you weren't that far along anyway. And besides, that baby was most likely deformed, so its actually a good thing it died."

OMG...I cannot believe anyone would be so calous as to say that to another human being! What was she thinking???

I am sooo sorry for your loss and that you didn't kick that lady's A$$ for being such a biotch!

[HotMama]

I also heard a similar comment after my miscarraige.

[TrinitysMama]

From my MIL:

"You know, most women aren't actually able to breastfeed."
"If there's a problem this time, are you going to go to the hospital or are you going to just wait around for (dh) to get home like you did last time?" (this was said regarding our plans for a homebirth after my first baby was stillborn - like she died because I just dicked around)
"If you never let her cry, her lungs won't grow."

From my mom:

"You should probably start giving her formula just so she'll be used to it if you ever need to give it to her." Eeeewww! No!

From my grandmother:

"She needs to cry at least 2 hours a day so her lungs can develop."
"That baby is tired/cold/hungry/uncomfortable." Uh, if she is she'll let me know.

From my sister:

"Let her cry! I want to hear her cry!"
"You're probably one of those people who would die of cancer because you would try to cure it naturally." (said in regards to our rejection of modern medical involvement in childbirth.) Yeah? Tell that to D____ who is actually dying of cancer right now. I'm sure he'd appreciate your analogy. Childbirth=cancer? I think not.

[Parker'smommy]

I guess the biggest comments I get is about bfing. First, everyone who has formula fed feels like they need to explain in horrid details why they couldn't bf. Then when they find out that my ds didn't latch for 2 weeks and that he didn't even nurse well until 3 months and that he had about 2 ounces of formula his whole life because I started pumping right away they don't know what to say. I feel the same as another poster said, "hey if O can endure the hell that it was for the sake of my baby getting the BEST, more people can too" Yah its hard but isn't yourchild's well being worth it.
Also, now that my ds is almost 10 months everyone has it in their minds that I will wean at 1 year. Hello...the AAP says at LEAST one year. Why would I give my baby the LEAST? I plan to give him the MOST!!

Here are some of my comebacks to extended breastfeeding"

IDIOTS:How long are you going to bf?

ME: At least till college, so he'll do well on his exams.
or
When he grows a mustache, I think it will itch.
or
Never...I want to get the World Record.


hee hee I love it ! My most hated comments are:

he'll bite you
when they can ask for it, its too long
the mothers are doing it for them not the baby


When will the world wake up???

Heather and Parker 2-28-02

[merpk]

indiegirl & HotMama, I've had the same comments, too

... another silly one just came to me ... once during the stage of tandem nursing DD & DS#1, when DS#1 had a cold, my mother was in the room while I was nursing DS.

Mom: Will you nurse DD, too?
Me: Ma, she's a baby. Of course. What else is she gonna eat?
Mom: But he's sick.
Me: So?
Mom: Well, what will you do if his mucous gets on you?
Me:
Mom: Well?
Me: Ma, what would you do if mucous got on your body?
Mom:

My mom is at this point really supportive and cute, but sometimes is stuck in that ... rut ...



- Amy

[MysticHealerMom]

Originally posted by Parker'smommy
Also, now that my ds is almost 10 months everyone has it in their minds that I will wean at 1 year. Hello...the AAP says at LEAST one year. Why would I give my baby the LEAST? I plan to give him the MOST!!

yeah!

Amy, good use of the eyes, I liked the blinking part - he he he

[MelMel]

oh man oh man, frodo you took the words outta my mouth...

since its holiday 'seeing psycho relatives that think YOU are the psycho' time...i'm sure we are all getting these comments.

some lady at a friends familys x-mas get together (so, i did not know her at all) said to me and dh 'she (dd) would be happier if you had her in one of those carry car things' we had just got there, dd was 'fussing' a bit in the new place...i said 'yeah, i wish I was just made out of plastic sometimes, she would prob be alot happier in general..babies LOVE plastic'

my mil said that if we dont put dd in 'girls' clothes she will turn out to be a lesbian. I didnt say anything cuz she didnt say it to me, but to dh...and he told her she was an idiot..

my mom said to put a band-aid on her belly button when the cord fell off, so it would be an 'innie', that if we left it alone, it would be an 'outtie'... i told her she was an idiot.

I get the cry thing all the time, I clean a guys house and dd was crying in one of the rooms, and he was in there looking at her, so I went in and apologized and he almost yelled at me, and said she has to cry to develope her lungs..I said 'not this time, she's hungry' and he said, 'oh, i'll feed her, wheres the bottle' and i said 'in my shirt jerry' and he stopped for a minute and then chuckled and said 'oh, my wife couldnt bf.....' and i just walked out of the room, I'm also tired of hearing those stories....

i get the spoiled thing too (dd is 2 months, whatever) and i tell them 'thats the way she likes it'

people ask me if she's good, or if i like being a mama (huh!?!) and I tell them that 'well, she is alot of work, and has disrupted our lives more than we would've liked, but I cant get her back in now...we tried'

:sinister

[YiddisheMama]

b'h

i was once told by a friend, "i had to start her on solids at four months because my doctor said if i didn't start her on solids then, she'd never want to eat real food."

i waited till i got off the phone to laugh.

i've also gotten some" is she a good baby?" and "does she sleep thru the night?"

chani

[Chi-Chi Mama]

amyrpk, indiegirl & HotMama:

[Chi-Chi Mama]

yeah, the "is she a good baby" "how long you're planning on bfeeding" "how are you going to get her out of your bed" "you're spoiling her" are so tired already!!!

why are some people such morons?

I love you mamas!!

I'd go crazy without this place

[Doodlebugsmom]

These posts are hilarious! Two of my friends who don't have children told me how much dh and I would regret having dd sleep with us. I just told them how much we love it and when they have children of their own they can parent how they want and I will not give them any unsolicited advice. That shut em up pretty quick! Oh, one of them also said that if you co-sleep, you will have no sex life. Whatever!
Susan

[April 2007]

Originally posted by Doodlebugsmom
Oh, one of them also said that if you co-sleep, you will have no sex life. Whatever!
Susan

so where are all these children getting siblings from if nobody has sex anymore??? lol

[sleepies]

pregnancy comment

i met a few people online...
their doctors had told them they COULD NOT sleep on their backs when they were pregnant or it would CUT OFF the baby's blood supply and kill it.

!?!?!?!

[Kalliesmama]

I've heard many of these terribly ignorant comments too. I think the one that I felt was the worst (or at least the strangest) was something my mother said. In response to finding out that DD sleeps with us, my mom said "What?! You're going to make her weird! I didn't raise you that way!" No, she didn't raise me that way- that could explain a lot about our relationship.... Then again this comes from the woman who has told me that Kallie is spoiled because we won't spank her (she's not even one!) and constantly asks when I'm going to wean Kallie so that she can keep her overnight :

[gurumama]

Here are mine:

1. Pregnant with ds2. About 6 months along. Had gained about 18 lbs at that point (I'm average sized). Was at a Christmas Eve dinner with dh's family, where his cousin's friend's mother was there (first time we'd all met her). She asked me how far along I was and I told her 6 months. She looked at my belly, looked at her daughter, and said to us both (imagine the tone here...), "Oh, I was never that big with either of my babies, even on the day I delivered."

Well, thank you very much Mrs. B*tch. I didn't say anything--probably looked like a salmon gasping for air. Cried about it for DAYS after that with DH. I am a recovering bulimic (have been in full recovery for nearly 13 years) and have weight issues when pregnant, so it REALLY hurt. What an utterly stupid thing to say.

2. Leaving the hospital with ds2, who we chose not to circumcise. The discharge nurse informs me that I MUST retract the foreskin every day and wash the head of the exposed penis with soap and water.

3. MIL (who is normally very awesome) insisted that both kids NEEDED pacifiers, that they'd turn ME into their pacifier. I finally got her off our case by telling her (truthfully) that because of my breast reduction I needed to nurse more frequently/longer than most mothers, and that if the babies used me as a pacifier, that was ok, because it would produce more milk.

So then, when ds1 was 1 mo old, he sucked his thumb. "He'll be a thumb sucker. You really should use a pacifier." With ds2: "Some babies have a higher need to suck, and he's one of those." Mind you, I have been at home for both babies full-time so any sucking need they have, aside from a night out here and there with DH, was immediately met by me.

Neither boy sucks his thumb.

4. Stepmother. When we visited her when ds1 was 6 mo and I was still nursing, I chose to nurse discreetly but not to banish myself from conversations. I asked her if she nursed her three kids and I got this litany about how she made it 3 months with the first, but it never felt right, so the other two went straight to the bottle. She went ON AND ON about how breastfeeding just "wasn't my thing" and how it must be genetic, because both her daughters (who are within 5 years of my age) didn't like it either (gee, wonder why...they were the last two kids!) and bottle fed their kids....

So every time I nursed after that, she'd make some little comment. Wish I'd never asked. When ds2 was 6 mo we flew out and I nursed w/o comment. Yeah! I learned that her son's wife nursed their kids to 2yo+, so there were some attitude changes!

Mel

p.s. Punkinseed--my first husband was bottle fed and he turned out to be gay, so there goes THAT theory

[Evergreen]

A nurse once, trying to discourage cosleeping, told me that 25 percent of SIDS cases in our state were in cosleeping families.
So does that mean that 75 percent were in non cosleeping families....