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post #3701 of 5048
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Originally Posted by Scrubsjm View Post
This may sound terrible, but THANK GOD dh is adopted! He shares zero genetic material with these people, for that I will be eternally grateful.
As weird as my IL's are I don't think they hold a candle to yours...however, my dh is also adopted and I have had the same thought many, many times! Particularly since my son was born - I'm so grateful he's not genetically related to some of these people
post #3702 of 5048
I bathed with all my boys till they were two and my mom said they were gonna have sexual problems. We were in California and my middle son(4 ) followed her to the bathroom and yelled " Do you have a penis or a vagina?" My mom didnt know what to say fumbling she said I have a vagina Ethan , he said "Can I see?iMe and hubby were just laughing in hysterics and I knew what she was thinking, that was what made it so funny.
post #3703 of 5048
Another FIL one: (maybe we should all make a compilation book about in-laws)

"That baby will sleep through the night when you finally get smart and give her rice cereal." So I launch into the fact that it can set children up for digestive problems, allergies, etc. His response, "Well, you just keep trying foods until she isn't allergic to something." I reminded him that my DH (his son) has terrible stomach issues, he said, "Well, I have no idea why. He was eating beef burgundy, lo mein, and hot sauce at 5 months without any trouble at all." : :

He also claims that I breastfeed DD too often, and that is why she is fussy. She isn't fussy, by the way, just hungry.

GMIL also has had some doozies:

"You need to fill in that pool in the backyard before that baby is born or she'll drown." Really? In November? In Central New York? Ice skate, maybe, but not drown. GMIL also liked to make comments while I was pregnant about how "everything you are eating is going right to your stomach". No, there's a baby in there - that is why my stomach sticks out. Good lord.

ILs also like to claim that DD looks nothing like me, and is pure DH. "She doesn't even act like you." Well, she is not even 3 months old, so she acts pretty much like herself right now, I think.
post #3704 of 5048
I was at my friends ds's first birthday. My friend and I were talking while she was holding her ds. Her mil comes along and I congratulate her on a beautiful grandson. I then mention how much he looks like his mama. Well. You wouldve thought I just called him ugly! "NO! HE does NOT! He looks like my ______" Woah. Settle down woman.

And he does look like his beautiful mama.
post #3705 of 5048
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Originally Posted by Shenjall View Post
I was at my friends ds's first birthday. My friend and I were talking while she was holding her ds. Her mil comes along and I congratulate her on a beautiful grandson. I then mention how much he looks like his mama. Well. You wouldve thought I just called him ugly! "NO! HE does NOT! He looks like my ______" Woah. Settle down woman.

And he does look like his beautiful mama.
I find the neverending comments from my ILs that DS looks just like DH, and "He's all V!" very hurtful. I think it somehow minimizes my role and importance in his life. My mom says they just say that because he has dark hair and eyes and I am very fair. Frankly, when you look at pictures of me from childhood, he and I have a lot of similar features. He looks like DH too in some lights, as well as my dad, my sister, etc. He's a great example of family traits, but more than that, I wish they would just let him look and act like himself.
Add that to the fact that MIL wants him to wear all of DH's baby clothes, the fact that they try to put thoughts and words in his mouth, talk down to him, and you can see some of the reasons I don't let them near him if I can absolutely help it.
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I still vividly remember the nurse with my first son telling me (after I said I wanted NO drugs, no medical intervention), that "Oh Sweetie, you'll be hollering for me to bring you drugs soon, believe me!"...

Way to encourage natural childbirth lady. Suffice it to say, three children, not an IV or medical intervention in sight, and I've had bowel movements that hurt worse than labor!!
post #3707 of 5048
Not so much parenting, but annoying, nonetheless.

Its been pretty cold here. (-40ish) I have 2 teens (dd and ds) and they attend different high schools (long story) but the schools are equal distance from the house. So, mil calls to see how everyone is doing with the cold. Fine I say, we just throw on another sweater and bundle them up. "But what about poor ---(dd), you dont make her walk to school, do you? Its so cold." Dont worry about ds and the cold, but poor little weak dd and the cold. Arrgh!!!! They are both strong and tough!

I tell her, "yes, she walks to school in the same cold that ds does".

She just keeps on saying, "aw. poor poor girl. walking to school in that cold"
post #3708 of 5048
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Originally Posted by mom2bja View Post
I still vividly remember the nurse with my first son telling me (after I said I wanted NO drugs, no medical intervention), that "Oh Sweetie, you'll be hollering for me to bring you drugs soon, believe me!"...

Way to encourage natural childbirth lady. Suffice it to say, three children, not an IV or medical intervention in sight, and I've had bowel movements that hurt worse than labor!!
Argh! I had a very similiar experience. The nurse kept telling me that I did not need to be a matyr and she could go get me my epidural at anytime. My success at going drug free was certainly the best revenge
post #3709 of 5048
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Originally Posted by Zuzu822 View Post
I find the neverending comments from my ILs that DS looks just like DH, and "He's all V!" very hurtful. I think it somehow minimizes my role and importance in his life. My mom says they just say that because he has dark hair and eyes and I am very fair. Frankly, when you look at pictures of me from childhood, he and I have a lot of similar features. He looks like DH too in some lights, as well as my dad, my sister, etc. He's a great example of family traits, but more than that, I wish they would just let him look and act like himself.
Add that to the fact that MIL wants him to wear all of DH's baby clothes, the fact that they try to put thoughts and words in his mouth, talk down to him, and you can see some of the reasons I don't let them near him if I can absolutely help it.
I agree with you that it is hurtful. And supremely annoying. My daughter looks remarkably like baby pictures of me, my side of the family, etc, but my mom would never dream of saying that to DH. She always says that Fiona looks like herself, which I love.

FIL likes to claim that she looks just like him. Uh maybe in that neither of you have much hair.
post #3710 of 5048
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Originally Posted by Zuzu822 View Post
I find the neverending comments from my ILs that DS looks just like DH, and "He's all V!" very hurtful. I think it somehow minimizes my role and importance in his life. My mom says they just say that because he has dark hair and eyes and I am very fair. Frankly, when you look at pictures of me from childhood, he and I have a lot of similar features. He looks like DH too in some lights, as well as my dad, my sister, etc. He's a great example of family traits, but more than that, I wish they would just let him look and act like himself.
I get the same thing from my ILs, except its behavour-wise. (Dd looks exactly like me so it would be rediculous for them to say she looks like her dada.)

My ILs watch my Dd like hawks for behavours and when she does do something remarkable, they credit it to their side of the family. For instance, Dd showed the ability to roll her tongue, length-wise like a tube, and they went nuts over which relative that trait came from! It HAD to be from MIL's side of the family since FIL couldn't do it. Then they started going on about various relatives's abilities. NEVERMIND the fact on my side, my ENTIRE family can roll their tongues. ARRgh! Petty I know, but really really annoying.
post #3711 of 5048
I have the ultimate revenge on the "he looks just like my son" people. My children are both mini-me's. The best part was mil was always playing the "he has Dh's _____ (flat feet, chubby belly, double chin)" Then when ds was about 3 I was watching all the video from when he was born. Mil, sil and my sister were standing outside the nursery while they were giving ds his bath. My sis was taping and loud and clear, mil says "oh wow, he looks just like Lisa". Yes, he does.
post #3712 of 5048
My co-workers are great for asking after DS. My boss, too. When DS was about 4 months old, I was telling my boss about the reactions and faces that DS does at me. I also mentioned that DS is shy, etc., etc.

So my boss says with absolute seriousness (and two or three of his own), "Just wait 'til he's 9 months and gets some personality." :

A bit later my boss made the same comment, to which I said "If DS gets any more personality, he may spontaneously combust." :
post #3713 of 5048
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Originally Posted by Shenjall View Post
Not so much parenting, but annoying, nonetheless.

Its been pretty cold here. (-40ish) I have 2 teens (dd and ds) and they attend different high schools (long story) but the schools are equal distance from the house. So, mil calls to see how everyone is doing with the cold. Fine I say, we just throw on another sweater and bundle them up. "But what about poor ---(dd), you dont make her walk to school, do you? Its so cold." Dont worry about ds and the cold, but poor little weak dd and the cold. Arrgh!!!! They are both strong and tough!

I tell her, "yes, she walks to school in the same cold that ds does".

She just keeps on saying, "aw. poor poor girl. walking to school in that cold"
My mother's highschool in Alaska didn't allow girls to wear pants *to* school until her senior year. They still had to take the pants off when they got to school, of course. Maybe your MIL was having a brain fart about clothing?
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Nah, I wish. She's always treated my daughter like some fragile little thing. "poor girl this, poor girl that" She cant do something 'cause she's a girl. And its not like she's a sensitive child by any means. She gives as good as she gets with her brothers!
I shouldnt be surprised since mil and fil are an old fashioned, man-head-of-household kinda couple. So, I'm sure thats clouded her thoughts on gender issues.
post #3715 of 5048
When dd was about a week old, a nurse from the hospital called to check in on her. She asked how often I was breastfeeding and I told her every 1 to 3 hours. She proceeded to lecture me on how bfing more often than every 2 hours was terrible. She said if I kept that up I'd soon be in her office crying to her about how all I ever do is breastfeed the baby. She told me to refuse to feed her if she wanted to nurse more often and to send her outside with someone else until the two hours were up. Oh, and dd was not allowed to fall asleep at the breast and just peacefully hang out there. She actually said that I needed to teach her that "this is the way we eat in this house." This was a nurse, for goodness sake, in 2004! How could the hospital let her say such a load of crap? I bfed dd on cue and never cried about always having to bf my baby. I wish I'd gotten the nurse's name so I could call her and tell her how happy I was with the way I was breastfeeding.
post #3716 of 5048
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Originally Posted by riversong View Post
When dd was about a week old, a nurse from the hospital called to check in on her. She asked how often I was breastfeeding and I told her every 1 to 3 hours. She proceeded to lecture me on how bfing more often than every 2 hours was terrible. She said if I kept that up I'd soon be in her office crying to her about how all I ever do is breastfeed the baby. She told me to refuse to feed her if she wanted to nurse more often and to send her outside with someone else until the two hours were up. Oh, and dd was not allowed to fall asleep at the breast and just peacefully hang out there. She actually said that I needed to teach her that "this is the way we eat in this house." This was a nurse, for goodness sake, in 2004! How could the hospital let her say such a load of crap? I bfed dd on cue and never cried about always having to bf my baby. I wish I'd gotten the nurse's name so I could call her and tell her how happy I was with the way I was breastfeeding.
UGH... unfortunately, that's the "book" way of doing it, and there are WAYYY too many moms that believe it. Makes me cringe! Glad you didn't listen!
post #3717 of 5048
Baby Myths Busted article- it's actually pretty good!

http://www.huggieshappybaby.com/info...nockcheck=true
post #3718 of 5048
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Originally Posted by ramlita View Post
Baby Myths Busted article- it's actually pretty good!

http://www.huggieshappybaby.com/info...nockcheck=true
Wow - that's not bad at all!
post #3719 of 5048
Well, it's not really too bad, and he's mostly joking, but it annoys me anyway:

sometimes when ds is crying and I can't get to him right away (like in the car), FIL says "it build character" Maybe so, if you think that feeling unloved and unimportant adds to the character of a person!!!
post #3720 of 5048
I know a mom in my neighborhood who believes most of those myths. She won't change her mind for anything either. Makes me sad. She actually tries to break the bond between her and her 10-month-old son, I think because she believes it will prevent neediness when he's a child.

Kristin
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