What is the worst/dumbest thing anyone has ever said to you about parenting stuff? - Page 248

[Jannah6]

When I was pregnant w/my first DS my XMIL's DF said that I should put on some slippers because the baby might catch a cold. I was dumbfounded when XMIL relayed the message, but even more stupified when my educated XMIL believed it.

[delfin]

for fussy babies who have a favourite boob and they are hard to latch in the not so favourite:
"put some sugar in your nipple so he will like the sweetness and take the breast"

[Arwyn]

Originally Posted by delfin

for fussy babies who have a favourite boob and they are hard to latch in the not so favourite:
"put some sugar in your nipple so he will like the sweetness and take the breast"

Ah, someone who's never tasted real milk!

[FraggleLover]

Hey all
No babies yet but I'm trying to learn all I can about pregnancy/childbirth/childraising.
One of the older (70's) health guide I have recommends that the baby be introduced to juice on a spoon at a few weeks in preparation for the following in small amounts, non-wheat cereal at 4 weeks, thereafter individual vegetables, fruit at 3 months and MEAT at 4 to 5 months.

I think I need a different book

[ramlita]

[Bkwyrm]

My MIL seems to think that I am somehow simultaneously starving my daughter, and overfeeding her.
MIL: So you're still breastfeeding?
(Fish is 10 months old)
Me: Yep. She's just not that into solid food.
MIL: If she doesn't eat, she won't grow! Are you sure you're offering her enough food? She has to eat!
Me: Well, she's 22 pounds at 10 months and hitting all her milestones right on time, we're not worried and neither is the doctor.
MIL: Maybe you're overfeeding her. Should she be so heavy?

[Ellen Griswold]

I had to join MDC just because of this thread!
My stupid/annoying comment came from a good friend (no kids) that I don't see very often. I just had an emergency appendectomy while 14 weeks pregnant with dd. We were fine, but had strict orders from the doctor to take it pretty easy. She was in from out of town and was nice enough to come over to keep me and ds (3 yo) company. After visiting for a long time while I just sat on the sofa and ds watched TV (way more than usual), she said "So is this all you do all day?" Um, yeah. All I need was my box of bon-bons and you have a real typical day for a SAHM. In her defense, I think she was trying to decide whether or not she was ready to get pregnant. But her comment made me feel like the laziest mom in the world.

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[St. Margaret]

Originally Posted by FREEmom1120

long silence again
Hair cutter: I think it's the anasthesia (epidurals) that make your hair fall out
Me: I didn't have one
silence

I was happy to end our conversation that way!

What is WITH hair stylists??? My first hair cut postpartum (with my mom walking my beautiful baby around right outside), my stylist was shocked I did it naturally and went on about how "hardcore" I was... not that she's had kids or anything! Why not listen to me, and others, who tell you that it doesn't have to be a painful scary thing, instead of just listening to those who say it is? And the stylist at the next chair had some stupid advice I can't remember... oh yes, she was saying we were going to start solids very soon... DD was like 4mo. She kept insisting it would help her sleep better. yeah-huh. the best part? I was in an all-NATURAL salon. I used to work in an other in college and everyone who worked there was very crunchy... guess it's not a requirement for the brand, tho!

[krankedyann]

Originally Posted by Ellen Griswold

I had to join MDC just because of this thread!
My stupid/annoying comment came from a good friend (no kids) that I don't see very often. I just had an emergency appendectomy while 14 weeks pregnant with dd. We were fine, but had strict orders from the doctor to take it pretty easy. She was in from out of town and was nice enough to come over to keep me and ds (3 yo) company. After visiting for a long time while I just sat on the sofa and ds watched TV (way more than usual), she said "So is this all you do all day?" Um, yeah. All I need was my box of bon-bons and you have a real typical day for a SAHM. In her defense, I think she was trying to decide whether or not she was ready to get pregnant. But her comment made me feel like the laziest mom in the world.

Ugh!!!

I got the same comments and worse when laying on a mattress on my living room floor for a year, trying not to die while so incredibly sick from celiac disease. People would come over, see how bad off I was, trying to take care of a 1 and 3 year old by myself while my husband was working out of town, and then not lift one finger to help and blame me for the house being messy.

[Ellen Griswold]

Oh yeah, I also think that it depends on the amount of time that you hear the advice. EVERY time I talk to my FIL, he reminds me to keep my ds's legos away from my dd - 9 mo. Okay, tell me once or twice, but he acts like I'm going to sit her down on the floor with a big pile of them and have lunch!

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[Lizzardbits]

nak.

today the same health visitor that i wrote about in post number 4909 asked if i was still breastfeeding on demand, to which i happily reply that i am exclusively breastfeeding (on demand, of course). she then asked if i was giving him cooled boiled water yet. I shook my head and said no, and that he has never had a bottle. she looked at me in a quite perplexed way and said that i said that in a bad way. I said that breastfed babies don't need any water. "Well what do you do when he gets thirsty?" (shock on my face from getting a question like that from a health visitor, but shook it off) *I* had to give her a quick lesson about foremilk and hindmilk and that even in hot weather breastfed babies don't need water. I basically got the feeling from her that she had just learned something new.

-then-

later in the visit she asked if we were getting out ok. yup! Alex just loves being in the wrap--cue lesson #2 on wraps and babywearing. she was interested, but then went on to try to encourage us to get Alex used to being in a pushchair/stroller. my sharp husband told her that we are more than happy to carry Alex and that we'd "think" about a pushchair when he can hold his head up properly 100% of the time. (sha right! and monkeys might fly out of my bu++, we are probably going to craigslist the pram/pushchair.)

-finally-

she conversationally asked what i did back in the states before i moved to england, and i told her that i had finished up my 3rd year at a university and that i only have a few semesters before i have my degree so i can be a high school biology teacher. (at this point both hubby and i caught that she mentally shifted gears and her attitude towards us) She said that she thought that i might have some education. (cuz we all knowz dat iffin we'z poor, or we'z livin in da guvrnment houzin, we'z unedumicated and stooopid)

all this from a health visitor who can't spell breastfeeding correctly-- "brestfeeding"--because, eh, who needs an "a" anyway.

Sad part is that she is out there "helping" families who truely rely in her for information.

[Lady Lilya]

Originally Posted by cinnamonamon

Thank you. I wonder sometimes if anyone knows this! I get the weirdest looks from people sometimes because my boys generally wear hooded zip-up sweatshirts (with hats, mittens & scarves when appropriate) when we're going to just drive somewhere. I figure the walk to & from the vehicle is quick & it's more comfortable than waiting til we get to the truck, then taking off the poofy coats and letting the cold air rip at them until everyone is buckled in & doors are shut.

I strap him in wearing his indoor clothes, and then tuck blankets around him. As the car warms up, I can easily remove him. If we are going straight from the car to an indoor destination, I put the blankets back on. If we will take him outside to play, I bring his snowsuit along in a bag.

[sapphire_chan]

Originally Posted by jessica_lizette

Him: Maybe you should try giving him formula.
Me: Why?
Him: (looking a little irritated by now) Well you guys are young and it's only your first...everything is just so wonderful to you.

Everything being wonderful is a reason to try to get *less* time with your baby by trying to force him to sleep more?? indeed.

[sapphire_chan]

Originally Posted by purplebluesky

A man in the grocery store a couple of days ago asked how old my son is - I told him six months then he said rather loudly "six months?? He should be a lot bigger than that! What are you feeding him? I'm gonna report you to the FBI. My kids were walking by that age!" Really? I walked off and he kept hollering.

Someone else told me that the soft spot is an indicator of how well fed the baby is...That if it is slightly indented it means the baby is hungry...

The mental health department in your area must have to pull triple shifts.

[KC in KS]

Originally Posted by cinnamonamon

Thank you. I wonder sometimes if anyone knows this! I get the weirdest looks from people sometimes because my boys generally wear hooded zip-up sweatshirts (with hats, mittens & scarves when appropriate) when we're going to just drive somewhere. I figure the walk to & from the vehicle is quick & it's more comfortable than waiting til we get to the truck, then taking off the poofy coats and letting the cold air rip at them until everyone is buckled in & doors are shut.

I though *I* was the only one who knew this!

I don't normally pay much attention to the looks I get when out-n-about with the kids, but I must admit the other day I did feel a tad self-conscious. It was in the 30s, I think, and DS (18 months) was in short sleeves, coat-less because the car was warm, and barefoot because he'd stripped off his shoes & socks on the way! I'm really surprised I didn't get a Helpful Grandma comment for that one.

[Kateana]

Originally Posted by minkajane

Kids shouldn't wear coats (especially the puffy kind) in car seats because if there was a wreck, the coat would compress and the kid would move forward and it could cause more injury.

I see so many babies in stores sitting in baby buckets wearing big puffy coats, with the chest buckle down at the bottom and the straps falling off their shoulders. It makes me want to SCREAM. They might as well not even use a carseat if they're not going to follow the most basic precautions!

I had no idea! I'm glad this came up... I guess from now on DD (2.5yo) will be wearing non-puffy sweaters and layers instead. Where do you actually find this info? I just had NO idea... and I want to know more.

[sapphire_chan]

Originally Posted by Kateana

I had no idea! I'm glad this came up... I guess from now on DD (2.5yo) will be wearing non-puffy sweaters and layers instead. Where do you actually find this info? I just had NO idea... and I want to know more.

The "family safety" forum here at MDC (tucked away in the top of the parenting forums) has excellent links. Another big one that many people don't know is to leave LOs rear-facing as long as possible.

[samstress]

Originally Posted by Kateana

I had no idea! I'm glad this came up... I guess from now on DD (2.5yo) will be wearing non-puffy sweaters and layers instead. Where do you actually find this info? I just had NO idea... and I want to know more.

i was told by a CHP officer when i went to the station to have the car seat installation checked. it was really helpful. he said about 90% of all car seats are installed and/or used improperly. i highly recommend it.

[LaurenB]

We were also told this when we got our car seat installation checked. But it still makes me feel weird when people look at me crooked. I guess I'm too new at this to be used to it.

[Kateana]

thanks for the info! DD just started hating to wear her coat anyway... she'll be thrilled.