What is the worst/dumbest thing anyone has ever said to you about parenting stuff? - Page 50

[mollyeilis]

Originally Posted by our veggie baby

Mom: what's wrong with taking her to McDonalds for just a small fries and to play??----okay, knowing I am a HUGE animal rights activist who has protested McDonalds and everything they stand for, for years....

Ah, yes, those innocent McD's fries, the ones with lard sprayed on them pre-packaging...

Ugh.

[Childishgoth]

Originally Posted by mollyeilis

Was she having babies in the early 70s?
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ya my brother was born in 72 so i guess when i was born 10 years later she just followed the same advice she had gotten before. she had a screwy doctor even convinced her my brother was allergic to her breast milk some doctors are just evil!!

[cinnamonamon]

Originally Posted by Childishgoth

she had a screwy doctor even convinced her my brother was allergic to her breast milk some doctors are just evil!!

You don't know many times I've heard this!

[NYCVeg]

I just wanted to tell you all what a kick I've been getting out of this thread for the last week! Some of these actually made me cry, I was laughing so hard. So many things to look forward to.

I'll add one of my own:
My sister's ped told her that she only "needed" to bf for the first 3 months, because babies don't get any benefits after that.

She believed him--can't wait until she finds out that I'm planning on EBF when I have kids!

She had some legitimate trouble bfing b/c of an inverted nipple on one side. At the hospital, they recommended putting formula on that breast to "get the baby interested". This sounds totally ludicrous to me...am I right here?

Anyway, thanks for the laughs all!

[Mummoth]

Originally Posted by NYCVeg

She had some legitimate trouble bfing b/c of an inverted nipple on one side. At the hospital, they recommended putting formula on that breast to "get the baby interested". This sounds totally ludicrous to me...am I right here?

Absolutely, you're right! A *good* suggestion would be to hand express a few drops of colostrum to get the baby interested.

It's also important to delay the babies bath until after at least a few good nusing sessions. The mongomery tubercles (bumpy things on the pigmented area around the nipple) release an oil which smells & (and presumably tastes) the same as amniotic fluid, which the baby has been drinking for months. The baby is drawn to the familiar smell. Lactating breasts are also a few degrees warmer than the rest of the mothers body, so it's a very appealing part of the mothers body for a baby.

[Childishgoth]

Originally Posted by cinnamonamon

You don't know many times I've heard this!

is that even possible?

[paquerette]

Originally Posted by NYCVeg

She had some legitimate trouble bfing b/c of an inverted nipple on one side. At the hospital, they recommended putting formula on that breast to "get the baby interested". This sounds totally ludicrous to me...am I right here?

Ahhh they did this to me, too! It was the night nurse (the night ones were obnoxious for some reason) the first night, and we were having trouble getting the left side latched without fussiness. She decided that I had a flat nipple and needed a dab of formula, and if she didn't latch on soon, she'd need to be cup fed formula soon. The first night! And the right side was going just fine! I was way too groggy to protest much, but I tried to wipe it off with her cheek before I latched her. Sigh.

The hospital touts itself as bf friendly, but it was hit or miss with the staff. The LC is great, some of the nurses were great. But I did get the dreaded sample bag. Oh well, there's a lot of space for writing on my patient satisfaction survey.

[cinnamonamon]

Originally Posted by Childishgoth

is that even possible?

They can be allergic to something IN the mother's milk; but not the milk itself...

[Mama Michelle]

MY cousin had a baby in September, her daughter was 4 weeks early and even though they both tried DD would not latch on. So my cousin pumped and feed it to her baby. Her dd vomited several times and the Dr's told my cousin that her dd was allergic to her breast milk and that she shouldn't BF! ANd my cousin believed them! I did some quick research and told her that dd probably wasn't allergic and to keep trying.
Her dd has acid reflux and has to be on some special formula and a TON of meds, but my cousin still pumps and mixes her BM with the formula and rice cereal. She's been wanting to try BF but can't afford a LC in CA. She saw one once and it cost them $90.
I was so ANGRY when she was telling me all this. I did them best I could to support her from CO, but I could only do so much. My cousin was set on BF and I can't believe that she was told not to.

[mamabear&babybear]

This is a great thread. I am still working on reading all 40 some pages but thought I would add some of my own.

MIL: She has said a couple things. 1. I was holding my dd the other night. She was getting tired and pretty cranky. She started crying and my mil says "I think she is saying she wants her grandma." I'm pretty sure that wasn't it, because I let her hold my dd and she started crying harder. At least now I can say for sure that she wants her mom and keep her with me. She says things like that all the time. It drives me crazy. 2. I have postpartum hypothyroidism and am taking medication. After my dh told her about it she went online and started researching it for me. : She mentioned that it causes bone loss. As I was preparing to say that I wouldn't be on it long my wonderful dh says "It's better than being in a coma."

FIL: This was well intentioned but still... He has a step-daughter that used formula, so he was able to feed the baby. I ebf so he couldn't feed my dd. He says "I sure miss having a baby that uses a bottle because it calms them down."

SILs: 2 of my SILs were told by there obs that they couldn't bf because they have inverted nipples.

My dad once told me while I was on the phone with him that I shouldn't pick my dd up when she was crying. She needs to figure it out for herself and I shouldn't spoil her. I'm still not sure what "it" is. I think if attending to a four month old's needs is spoiling them then may all babies in this world be spoiled rotten.

Lastly I had a sweet elderly woman tell me that I had a healthy baby because her cheeks were pink. At the time we were taking a walk on a cold, brisk day. :LOL

[nhklh]

I have a couple of MIL ones....

MIL has said that DS was a "sooky baby" when he got upset because she took him into a room at her work without DP or I to see someone he doesn't know and of course he got very upset. Made me soooo mad!

Another one... I was holding DS & she was leaving so she leaned in to him and said "give me a kiss". DS buried his face in my shoulder, which is what he does when he wants to get out of a situation, kind of like what some dogs do when they feel threatened "if I can't see you then you're not there". MIL says "oh, he doesn't mean it". Ummm, yeah he DOES. Just because he can't talk doesn't mean he can't communicate, and "I don't want you near me" is exactly what he was saying with his body language! I will not force DS to endure physical contact that he clearly is not ok with!

[Melissa S]

I've been trying to remember a MIL one for a long time and you jogged my memory..... DD was just over one year old and I was expressing to my MIL that I was having some frustrations with nursing - DD was beginning to eat alot more solids and my supply was adjusting thus it was taking longer for me to let down. DD was frustrated with this as well. Bear in mind that MIL has been a registered nurse for about 40 years. MIL says, "she shouldn't be needing to nurse now anyway, she's getting all she needs in the food she eats". I gave her a little lecture and she ended up giving up the arguement. She's been trying to convince me I don't need to BF anymore for months now. DD is 18 months old. I'm always amazed at the kind of stuff she comes up with. I think sometimes she relies more on old wives tales than her education, LOL. No offence mom! I still love you!

[paquerette]

Originally Posted by mamabear&babybear

2. I have postpartum hypothyroidism and am taking medication. After my dh told her about it she went online and started researching it for me. : She mentioned that it causes bone loss. As I was preparing to say that I wouldn't be on it long my wonderful dh says "It's better than being in a coma."

I think it's the (untreated or undertreated) hypothyroidism that can cause bone loss, not the medication itself. A lot of the "side effects" given for levothyroxine are really effects of not taking enough, or taking too much.

[cancat]

from MIL:

"I heard (she's prefaces everything with this so it sounds more important) that you're supposed to stop BF when they can bite ya"

"I heard that to stop a baby crying you're supposed to blow in your ear"

"Your baby doesn't sleep enough. They're supposed to have a long nap in the morning, a long one in the afternoon, and a couple hour long naps throughout the day" Umm, when is the baby supposed to be awake? I told her this must be a formula thing...

"She doesn't sleep long stretches at night? Have you talked with her doctor about supplementing so SHE can get some rest"

re: delayed solids " (in a sarcastic tone) it's amazing so many babies survived before the strict regimen they have them on nowadays" Umm, yes, breastfeeding is some wacky new-age regimen, right...

Plus, my baby is cranky because she's too cold all the time. If only the solution were that easy!

[the_lissa]

Originally Posted by cancat

re: delayed solids " (in a sarcastic tone) it's amazing so many babies survived before the strict regimen they have them on nowadays" Umm, yes, breastfeeding is some wacky new-age regimen, right...

Plus, my baby is cranky because she's too cold all the time. If only the solution were that easy!

I hate this. People never used to give babies solids before a year until a hundred years ago. Amazing that they all survived

[Caroline248]

Originally Posted by cancat

from MIL:


re: delayed solids " (in a sarcastic tone) it's amazing so many babies survived before the strict regimen they have them on nowadays" Umm, yes, breastfeeding is some wacky new-age regimen, right...

!

My MIL has the same attitude...I told her it was amazing the human race survived before formula, what with all the moms that CAN'T breastfeed!!

~C~

[cyrusmama]

Ohh there are soo many

My favorites (or least):

Standing in line at the Dollar Store holding ds (3 months at the time) behind a woman who is holding her child off the ground by one of his arms : When we get up to checkout, the lady working says to my DH about me "She's awful protective isn't she, she won't be like that with the next one." wtf?

In the grocery store today ds is getting fussy, some woman walks by and says "Stop pinching that baby" smart aleck that I am...I ask'd if she wanted to be next. (One of my biggest irks)

Worse person is my mother:
Asked every time he fusses, "Is he hungry?"
Everytime I wear the sling "Do you want me to hold him?"
In the car (which ds hates so cries) "Don't worry grandma wouldn't keep you in that mean old car seat".....Exactly why mommy wouldn't consider leaving you with grandma...

ETA, I too hate that "well, I think he just wants grandma" crap. No, I am pretty sure he wants a boobie and a nap...not grandma.

Oh, and I avoid having DH's grandma near him at meal times cause she tries to feed ds mashed potatoes and gravy and pretty much anything else considered somewhat mushy or mush-able. : Despite the fact that dh, MIL, and I have all told her we are doing a very gradual intro to solids because MIL has severe food allergies.

[boingo82]

DH's grandma: "He's such a good baby! You must spoil him!" (winks)
DH: "We sure do. That's what babies are for afterall."
DH's grandma: "I always liked to carry my babies everywhe..."
DH's aunt interrupts: "YEAH - you'll spoil the FIRST one. But the next one you wont."

[mamameg]

In an effort to justify CIO, a friend told me, "Babies still love you in the morning even if you let them cry the night before... they have no cummulative experience, so they don't remember it at all."

No cummulative experience??? How on earth would babies ever learn ANYTHING if they didn't remember things and build cummulatively upon their experiences? So dumb.

[CryPixie83]

Originally Posted by cyrusmama

In the grocery store today ds is getting fussy, some woman walks by and says "Stop pinching that baby" smart aleck that I am...I ask'd if she wanted to be next. (One of my biggest irks)

omg I HATE that comment! My mil says that- she started saying it when dd was a week old- you just don't say that kind of crap to a woman who has just given birth! I wanted to scream and cry because she was so insensitive. Being a mama has really altered my view of my mil (and sil too for that matter)

DD has been crying (tired, away from home and just over-stimulated) and I was trying to calm her down, after about 3 minutes MIL just *takes* her out of my arms. WTF? Another time, dd was fussing, MIL went to take her, I told her "no, I can handle her" and two minutes later takes her, doesn't ask and just walks into the other room with her. Of course what does dp do for me? NOTHING. Doesn't even tell his mother to mind her steps, doesn't say a damn word to her :

Can't we just send MILs to an island somewhere? Just part time