What's next--a mechanical hand to pat the baby's back when they wake up in the middle of the night (in their crib, in their own room), with a voice recording mechanism of the mother saying, "Shhh, it's ok, go back to sleep"?
One of the mothers at my son's preschool had a 4 yo and a 4 mo at a function last year. I looked down and saw the baby in his carseat with a bottle propped on a blanket. It's funny, because at the time I didn't think anything of it--neither positive nor negative--because I was too focused on my crazy 3 yo and struggling because I was about 5 months pregnant. But she must have seen me look and thought I was forming some judgment because she said, "Just wait. Once you have your second you'll do all kinds of things you'd never do with the first. You'll prop bottles too."
I was startled and shrugged, and mumbled something like, "Oh, I didn't even notice..."
But later I really thought about that comment. First, that SHE initiated the conversation--she was obviously feeling defenisive about propping the bottle, eventhough I didn't say anything or make a face.
Second, that she would place the assumed burden of her experience with two on me--as though I would HAVE to prop a bottle when I had two, because of course my experience would be the same as hers
I've never propped a bottle--never thought about it, eventhough friends and family have done it. I've picked babies up from being propped and fed them--sister, SIL's kids--and when the moms argue I just say, "Oh, I just enjoy holding them." No judgment, because it's the truth.
And with my two sons we've never, ever propped a bottle. We're too concerned about ear infections, and we're too baby hungry. It saddened me when my older son could hold the bottle himself (though it did make car travel easier! but he was 11 months or so and we didn't have the burping issue).
It seems like all the baby items and "new" technologies for parenting are designed to cut down (or eliminate) contact. Why?