Moving through the grieving process is a journey. A journey like we have never taken before. Even though we may have experienced a loss before, each grief journey is unique, like the person we have lost.
Depending on the type of loss, there can be such a range of emotions. I am quickly approaching the one year anniversery of my Mother's death, which will be next Saturday, October 8th. When she died, I had to "do" something. I picked out pictures and songs for her memorial service and my brother made a power point presentation that was shown at her service. I helped w/the flowers, I spoke at her service and did alot of the arrangements, like picking up her ashes. Then I made a shadowbox out of items from my Mom~a lock of her hair, her pearls, her baby bonnet and gown, a napkin from my parents wedding, pictures and her obiturary and my parents 48th anniversery newspaper notice.
When my dh died, I did alot of journaling and attended a family grief and loss support group. Now, to honor my Mother, I volunteer at the same group as a faciliatator.
As the anniversery date approaches, I can feel my heart
hurting, I am tired and lifeless. My patience is dwindling and I am sad. I don't feel like doing anything but reflecting on her. To honor these feelings and recognize that it is a part of grief, I am not going to push myself. We are going to the cemetary on Tues. w/my Dad, as we do each 8th day of the month. Then, next weekend, we are going to the ocean as a family to support one another and remember my Mother.
Warmly~
Lisa
