on the same note, i am an l and d nurse
(please, no throwing rocks or anything) who is eagerly awaiting her first ubac. i think as a health care provider in this field, a certain number of us were drawn to the work because of our fundamental belief in the strength and instinctual ability of women to birth their own children.
(in my case as a result of seeing what can happen when that belief is ignored and normal biological processes are treated/managed as an "illness".) it seems only natural that those of us holding that belief in the field are personally drawn to UC. i have been working thru separating the clinician portion of my brain from the instinctual birth goddess part. if i had prenatal care/testing to do over again (which hopefully i will next preg!) i would not get shadow care after the 1st trimester, and only minimally before that. the remnants of the clinician hiding in the back dusty corners of my brain would probably still want at least one initial diagnostic ultrasound to r/o fetal anomalies and verify placental placement. but other than that any woman should be able to tell if something felt 'off' or any illness was suspected. i know that most women on this board would feel completely ok w/o the ultrasound--just a personal compromise for me.
as far as having another midwife in the house, would this be for intermittent fht monitoring or assistance in newborn resus if needed? or managment of bleeding or repair of tears? examining your reasons for desiring another med pro in the house should help u work thru that issue. for me, i had to work thru my trust of my own body
following my c/s to admit that the only reason i considered another med pro was for FHT monitoring. i can manage the rest of it on my own if need be (which the need will NOT be) with my own equipment/meds. i have personally gotten to the point now that i have a doppler for very very intermittent heart tones, but do not need anyone else to listen while in labor. for me it has been about examining my feelings and compromising b/w the two differing sides of my brain in a way that makes both sides happy.
as far as listening to your body and not overthinking the issues, that is about quelling the fear beforehand. even doing what i do, the "birthing from within" art therapy stuff really helped me work thru that. i know now that once i am in labor, the lack of fear will let me listen to my more primal side and do what is nessicary for my baby to be born.
anyways, sorry so long...
hopefully i will be able to let u know the details of how it goes in a week or two!