deborah - you'll find your rhythm with the pumping. when i would pup/nurse at the same time, i would have the baby cradled in one arm and use my free hand to hold the pump horn over my other boob.
re AF - mine didnt return until dd was 17 mo old - basically when she started going 5 hrs in btwn nursing in the day. she had been going 6-8 hrs at night since about 6 mo old. but everyone is different - my best friend is nursing round the clock and got hers back at 6 wks.
My dd fit into the miracle blanket until about 5 mo old - and it works great. my mom made a pattern and made dd a bigger one and she loved it
new mama - adrian is pretty laidback and will sleep for a bit on his own. falling asleep he needs help - either nurses, or likes the sling/swing/swaddle, sometimes a paci if he is full and won't nurse. generally he naps for about 45 min or so on his own, in the crib sometimes or the bouncy seat. he'll nap for 2 hrs in the swing but i don't want to really get into the habit. i'm sure by about 2-3 mo he'll start consolidating his naps.
for those of you that don't have it, i highly recthe no cry sleep solution by elizabeth pantley. she has great info about sleep in general and about gentle ways to sooth baby to sleep without being a human bed