Shawna, I was thinking about what you wrote because I work with about 5 or 6 other women who delivered within a year of me who all had c-s. We were all pretty much told that we can't have vbacs b/c our pelvises are too small. Among us, we have a complete variety of body types - short, tall, heavy, thin, etc. There is NO WAY we all have pelvises that are too small. But I can't get anyone to believe that maybe their body is just fine.
For instance I was talking to 1 friend here who was told that her baby would be at least 8.5 lbs. She was induced early and delivered a 6lb 12 oz baby by c-s b/c her pelvis was too small. She's about 5' 2" so she totally believes it. I tried pointing out to her that her doctor has already proven that he can be wrong since his weight prediction was way off but she still believes that he must know what he's tallking about with regard to her pelvis. I told her that there are risks with a vbac and if she's more comfortable with a c-s, she shoud have a c-s. However, there are still risks with a c-s and she should weigh them both (especially since she had a rough recovery and developed an infection post c-s). I really wish women would just educate themselves!!!! If they ultimately chose c-s, that's fine. But I hate when women just go along b/c they believe doctors are infallable (even when they've already proven to be fallable!!!)
My friend often talks to me as though I will just plan on another c-s. Sometimes I want to vbac just to prove her and everyone else wrong.
But I know that it won't change her or most other womens' minds about their own "broken" bodies.