Originally Posted by turtlewomyn
I am sorry that someone said that to you, how horrible. So far, I have been having a good recovery from my c/s (from what I can tell) but I think it would be easier to care for my daughter if I didn't have trouble climbing in and out of bed, and wasn't feeling pain at my incision site every time I rock her too much.
That was my third section. In terms of the immediate recovery (ie. getting back on my feet and mobile), I do better every time. I was ready to try getting out of bed in just a few hours this time (I didn't actually get up until my catheter was out, though). But, it seems as though it takes longer to get completely over it everytime. With ds1, I was all over the place and feeling 100%...well, maybe 95% at the end of the 6 weeks. With dd, I was more-or-less the same, except that I had intermittent pain at one side for months. With ds2, I just don't seem to be springing back. I'm mobile and not having a lot of pain, but the muscles still seem to be weak, and I'm just not back to normal. He's 2.5 months old, and I'm only about 70-75%, imo.
However, I don't know how much of that is the effect of multiple abdominal surgeries, how much is because I'm 12 years older than I was with my first, and how much is because we moved soon after the section, and I have a toddler now...it's been a lot more work.
I'd still like to try for a VBA3C...but I don't think it's going to happen. I doubt I can find a care-provider, and I'm definitely not willing to UBAC. And, now I'm finding the thought of rupture is starting to freak me out. I'll be getting my tubes done after the next one (if I have another one), and I think that losing my baby and my ability to have any more children all at once would probably put me over the edge. So...maybe I'm going to have to give up on the idea of a vaginal birth. And, hopefully, I won't go to jail for assault when someone tells me that I cheated or took the easy way out...