Originally Posted by Storm Bride
Of course, I did end up with a third section. Now, I'm trying to decide what to do about a fourth baby. I really, really, really want one more child. But, I don't want another section. And, I'm worried about the effect all of this has on me as a mother to my existing children. I know dd went through absolute hell this summer because I couldn't pick her up for weeks, and I'd scream when she threw herself at me and hit my incision. She just didn't get what was going on, and she's very, very spirited, anyway. She had a horrible time...
Maybe by the time you are ready for your fourth child, your dd will understand a little better. She may even me able to help you out some. I can't even imagine how tough the decision is for you to have your 4th child, and wonder about another impending c-sec, or if you are able to try a V-birth. I pray that you'll be able to come to a decision peacefully.
I'm not sure how you feel about adoption - but I just wanted to throw that out there as another idea of how to get your perfect family (without a c-sec). (but I do know adoptions are quite pricey now) One of my sisters is adopted, and our family wouldn't be the same without her. We are all pretty close, but I'm much closer with her than I am with my bio-sister. This has been something I've been thinking about for a while, since I've met you, so I hope you don't mind me suggesting it.
I hope whatever decision you come to will bring you some peace.