Originally I felt really good about my cesarean, b/c despite the fact that it is definitely not what I had hoped for, both my baby and I were healthy. I still feel good about my birthing experience;
I labored at home from prelabor through to about 3cm dilated and contractions about 1-3min apart (from 8pm to noon)
Then went to the birth center and labored from noon to 10pm before deciding myself that I wanted to transfer to the hospital.
After laboring at the hospital with an epidural we lost the fetal heart rate and even trying to find it many different ways couldnt find the heart rate, so I was rushed in to get a cesarean.
It turns out that dd was acynclitic, posterior and had the cord around her neck 5 times. She never descended into the birth canal b/c she ran out of cord! We were stuck at -1 and 8cm. So, with those circumstances, I felt our birth could not have happened any other way with both of us coming out healthy.
Afterwards, I felt happy to have our sweet baby girl with us and happy that despite the fact that I didnt delivery vaginally, I still had labored naturally for as long as I could, until I myself made the decision to go another route.
BUT, now I feel a little frustration with the VBAC dilemma. I definitely want to have other children, and I feel good about my first birth experience, but am apprehensive with the climate of VBAC. So that is my only regret, that the VBAC situation is so touchy and political because that would be my choice for my next birth, VBAC.
I know the whole cesarean thing is quite an issue. I do think there are plenty of situations where they are unnecessary, and I do agree that being educated and prepared to stand up for your birthing preferences would probably help in the situations where the cesareans weren't totally necessary. But I do also think there are lots of mamas that have ended up with completely necessary cesareans despite all of their education and preparedness. I think sometimes things happen in labor and pregnancy that you could never predict, like with my dd-I mean an umbilical cord around the neck 5 times! Who would have ever thought that would happen! I think any mama who has experienced cesarean most likely would love to have some sensitivity concerning her birth experience. Any mama I know with a cesarean in her past would much rather have chosen a vaginal birth and already feels bad enough without others judging her.
Anyway, that's my 2 cents