Originally Posted by octobermom
Okay clearly I just have a totally diffrent view on these situations but driving in an old navy parking lot which she didn't have to do to go clearence shopping? I just don't get how thats compared to avoiding driving off a cliff.
i think our society makes it nearly impossible for parents to do the simplest of errands. We don;t know anyone in the mega parking lots, and whenever we need the basics, we often have to drive miles to do so. We are tired, and we trust no neighbors, who might be willing to say "hey-- let me watch your kids for five freaking minutes while you return a piece of crap or get 5 minutes to yourself".
We have to do every freaking little thing by oursleves. With little kids in tow, who might not want to be there, and who crab so other mothers can think "why is that woman *here* with her kids!???"
This society is wrong. Period. I can't be talked out of that belief. To create community in this society takes a heap of effort, and not all folks are trusting of that, or up to the work.
If we had neighbors we accepted, imperfect as they might be, or if we lived in a society which accepted it was OK to leave the babes happily sleeping in prams, with sibs, whatever, we could get itshay done.
In our society we are supposed to keep the tile clean, keep the kids clean (god forbid they go into stores dirty) the dh's shirts clean, the house organized, and omg, never, ever, try to do an errand in the day with children in tow. Children who might not want to do errands.
That's garbage. Those are *wrong* expectations.
If we knew our neighbors, weren't forced to shop in huge malls, we would not have to do everything ourselves or have to call 911 on other unsupported mothers who drop the ball for a few frigging minutes.