Well, Karl (dh) has spoken to his sister, Laura, who lives in Michigan near his parents, the dreaded Inlaws. And the story gets worse- They went home with all kinds of news about how terrible and evil a mother I am! Of course, this was to be expected from vindictive folk like the Inlaws, but it really shocks me that Karl’s sister would have the nerve to repeat the crap They’ve said.
Apparently, while the Inlaws were out here and we went to Chinatown, I didn’t dress ds Tristan warmly enough and MIL ‘felt like she had to watch over me with Tristan,’ to make sure I don’t kill him. In my original post, when I was taking a walk with my son on Christmas day, and MIL came and said “So you’re stealing the grandbaby from us now, is that it?”, I am told that she was sure I would freeze him to death if we went out.
Moreover, one night while They were here I gave Tristan some Hyland’s teething Tablets, as he is very much teething. Of course the Inlaws do not understand and have no desire to understand homeopathy. Well, say 10 minutes later Tristan becomes calm again. No big deal, Karl and I are grateful he’s feeling better. But not MIL. She hovers over Tristan, telling us “something’s wrong with him!!! he’s too calm!!!” trying to get us worried, but we just respond, “no, he’s fine.” she even tried to flick at his feet to get him to somehow please her by being upset again!!!!grrrrrr. I finally said THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH MY SON!
to get her to leave him alone.
Now that They’re back in Michigan where They belong, They’ve told Laura that we “doped him up” with these (homeopathic) teething pills, and they believe that his calmness was really epileptic shock
To really put the cherry on top of all this, Karl told me yesterday that when he was bringing the Inlaws to the airport to leave, his Mother insinuated that they would help him take care of Tristan should he decide to leave me and take the baby with him.
Fortunately, my dh is sane, and would never leave me, and even if somehow he did would 1) never go near his parents’ home state and 2) never take Tristan with him.
I think, though, that if dh is at any fault (and he’s been really marvelous) it is this: he needs to let his parents know that he truly loves me, plans on spending the rest of his life with me, and feels as though we are good parents together. I don’t think they see us that way. I think they began judging our parenting skills back when we first got pregnant. Because our pregnancy was unplanned, they think we ‘weren’t ready’ or ‘didn’t want him’. None of that is true.
The less friendly side of my personality wants to call Them up and let them know just how unwanted THEY are.
I wouldn’t step in on Karl’s family, though, unless they were in my home.
Thanks for listening!