Originally Posted by mamameg
Ummmm.... why not? If a couple is paying for their own wedding and the day they have dreamed of and planned for requires they put a limit on the guest list, why is that so awful?
That said, it is a sad fact of society today that most people *expect* a huge shindig for a wedding and will be whiny about not getting one when they come.
Ideally, people should figure out who they're inviting and then plan the reception around what they can afford for that many people. Having a super-formal intimate dinner party with the spiffy new dishes and silverware sometime after the wedding (maybe also show the (PG) honeymoon pictures?) would then be a nice way to get the "everything has to be perfect, perfect, perfect" syndrome out of the way.