Question about anniversary of passing

[partymoo]

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[lisamarie]

You are such a dear person to think of him on the anniversery date.

I just experienced the 1 year anniversery date of my Mother's passing, this past weekend on 10/8. Some friends bought me cards and a hydrangea plant in her honor/memory. They let me know that they were thinking of me and remembering my Mom and that really touched my heart . Yes, it made me sad, but I was already struggling w/feelings of grief and the thought of others remembering my Mom, made me smile .

A card or a phone call can really go a long ways. You are a good friend for remembering him and his ds.

Warmly~

Lisa

[partymoo]

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[wheezie]

Personally, I would *love* it if someone IRL remembered my son. (last year for his 1 yr anniversary, no one remembered ). So anything you think would be appropriate would be great! Thank you for being such a good neighbor to him.

[MsChatsAlot]

I think it's great to acknowledge the anniversary. I would stick to something that's simple and within the boundaries/normal comfort zone of your friendship.

My aunt bought me a gift on the anniversary of my dad's death and it really meant a lot to me.

I think it's always nice to let someone know you care. For me it felt good to know that other people were there for us and remember our family member who has passed.

[Blue Dragonfly]

I would definetly acknowledge it in someway. Mama wheezie - I am so sorry for your loss, and that no one remembered it. And for yours lisamarie.

It's interesting to read this today. It is the anniversary of my dear uncle's death (he was more of a father than my own.) And I also visited with a friend who just lost her husband, and her current grief is bringing back the grief of losing her daughter 15 years ago. I always acknowledge her loss with a card. It always makes her cry, but thats what grief does.

My sister always celebrates Day of the Dead with flowers and candles, and I've started doing it too. I arrange pictures of all my dead relatives and have a little chat with everyone, and it makes me feel better that I acknowledge my sadness.

Maybe you could get your neighbour one (or two) of the seven day candles?

Good luck.

[Shiloh]

Honestly I'd go over he might need a hug, especially if no one else remembers it....and its amazing that some people never forget a date and others...can forget their own birthdays!

Just for him to know you are thinking about him and remember and if he wants to talk let him. I think if you don't show up at 8am when he might not be emmotionally ready to greet the reality its been a year publically maybe after lunch and bring the beer and brownies the combination might make him laugh.