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[chiromama]

Juls. I'm sorry so many of the eggs had chromosomal abnormalities. Here's hoping that one is sticky and healthy.

[mumm]

I'm so sorry. It is hard to feel like things are cruising along, and then bam! I hate when people say "it only takes one", but... they're right. It is true. Let's hope you've got the good one.

I was pretty bummed after the transfer too. And I didn't really get any rest. My mom skipped out to take care of my mentally ill sister (who is always 'ill' and suicidal if anyone other than her wants some attention from my mom. : ) We got over a foot of snow and that needed attention if we were to go about life, school, groceries, etc. My 2 year old was great about me not wanting to pick her up for a day and a half. She quickly learned to tell me to "come down", so we would snuggle for a bit with me kneeling, and then she could walk again. It is cold down their at their level in the snow!

I figure it is all out of my hands at this point. I try not to be too positive thinking, for fear of disappointment, but I do catch myself thinking "well, it could have worked. I mean, why not me?"

I'm glad that I test before Christmas, so at least we will know. A bfn is better than not knowing, imo. Hang in there hockeylover, and rest as much as you can now.

[hockeylover]

Any news for you Mumm? I go in for bloodwork on Friday. I feel fine at the moment. It's too early to feel anything funky at this point. I am completely paranoid every time I go to the bathroom though, and I'm feeling every twinge, ache, something and get all worked up. I'm trying not to be stressed but it's a little difficult. I'm thinking of you and sending good thoughts to my little fertility goddess for you as well.

[mumm]

I got my news a couple days ago. I have another hcg today to try to figure out if it is twins. I felt a lot of twinges at first and figured it must have been because so many people had been poking around in there and things were straightening themselves out.

When do you get to test?

(I hope it is ok to make this announcement in this forum. I am not intending to hurt anyone's feelings.)

[chiromama]

Congrats Mumm!! I'm so happy for you. I think it's more than appropriate to announce here. We're all in this together!

[AdinaL]

That's excellent! Congratulations!

[hockeylover]

That's AWESOME Mumm! I'm so excited for you. Twins! Wow! That's a lot but so cool. Glad you're feeling things and I hope it's all good things. I'll let you know how it all goes for me tomorrow. Keep everything crossed, I'll need it.

Off to take my shot...

[hockeylover]

Well, I heard from my doctor and I'm NOT pregnant. Needless to say, we're very upset. I feel like it's been a waste of time and money but maybe not. I suppose we have a better idea of why I can't get pregnant again, although I wish I knew what all those reasons were. We'll go see my Dr. after the holidays and talk about everything and see if there's anything else we can do, what the options are etc. I'm really disappointed but I know my odds weren't great from the beginning and then it just kind of went downhill from there.

Thanks for all your love and support. I really appreciate ALL the encouragement you've all given me. I'll keep you posted if there's more stuff in the future.

Mumm, I'm expecting full reports from you and your twins! woo-hoo!

[chiromama]

Juls I'm so very sorry. I hope your Holiday is still filled with peace and love

[mumm]

I'm so very sorry. I'm impressed with how together you seem. I think you're allowed to be angry, though. But, I'll second chiromama's sentiments for findng some peace and love during the next few weeks.

[hockeylover]

I'm feeling better, more or less. Friday was a really sad day obviously. I got my period that night. I guess when you don't take that progesterone, and it was just time. Still not sure about what I even want to do, assuming there are options. I guess we'll find out in a few weeks. I still refuse to believe that I'm only meant to have one kid. Sure, we can adopt, but I really wanted to be pregnant. We'll have to see what's right for us.

I don't know that I have it "all together". This, of course, it bringing up a lot of things mostly triggered by my "advanced" age. I'll learn to cope with it all over time, I suppose. In the meantime, I can be happy for you Mumm. I'm really happy that this worked for one of us. I just wish we could go through it all together. I have three other friends and my sister pregnant, so it would've been nice to go through it all who's exactly at the same timing, ya know? Keep us posted. I still want to hear about those little ones in there.

Happy Holidays everyone!!

[RosesToys]

Congrats mumm! So you are having twins then? How are you feeling?

I'm sorry it didn't work out for you this cycle hockeylover. I feel for you. I'm 38, so I am also hearing a loud ticking sound that isn't quieting down. We are just at the beginning of the infertility journey though - I am taking clomid next cycle. Keep us posted on what you find out when you go back to the doc.

[hockeylover]

I just wanted to give a quick update since you all have been SO supportive through this "lovely" ordeal. We went back to the Doctor on Tuesday and basically, at 41, my eggs are bad. That's such a sad thought but apparently it's the way things are. Sure, I might get lucky with a good egg in there somewhere, but finding that one egg is like a needle in a haystack. I appreciate my lucky daughter all that much more. So, where does that leave us? Well, we have 3 choices - 1 - do nothing (not until all else fails), 2 - donor egg or 3 - adopt. Since other than my eggs, I'm apparently the picture of health and my doctor sees NO problem in me carrying, we're going to check out donor eggs. We have an appointment at an egg donor facility (what's the egg version of sperm bank?) next week. At least my doctor told me the odds were 50-60% that it would take which is certainly better than the less than 20% that was IVF, and we all know how that turned out.

So that's where we're at. Hopefully, this is the ticket for us. I figure there's still adoption down the line but I've got to try this while I still can.

Mumm, if you're reading this, how are you feeling?

Thanks again for the support.

[mumm]

I'm so glad you updated us. I've been wondering how you were doing, but didn't want to revive a dead thread if you were not up to talking about it. Sorry you got 'bad egg' news from your RE. It seems like you are open to the options. My dp donated eggs after the birth of both of our kids. She did it through a bank, as a sort of pay back to our donor for helping us out. If that makes any sense.

We discussed the adoption option over the summer. (I grew up with my bio parents, but with a zillion foster siblings, so it felt like a comfortable, natural option for us.) But I live in Mass, and my partner I got married when it became legal. This put us out of the running for a lot of international adoptions. We also felt like our kids already have two strikes against them. 1. They have two moms. and 2. We have an income of $60K in a town where the average is $180. We thought that an adopted kid would have the third strike of being internationally adopted, and that he/she would be different in society AND within our family.

I hope something can work for your family. I am feeling......nothing. We've had a couple of small scares. As part of routine follow up, my hCG has been followed. We had a scary "come back in now for another blood draw and an u/s; you'll meet with the OR doc right after" message. We assumed the poor hCG meant ectopic. But we saw one little egg sac. The two we thought were not to be. We needed another follow up u/s and actually got to see a heart beat, but my hCG continues to progess 'slowly'. We are still being careful, and don't fully believe we'll have a baby in Aug.

Please keep us updated on your progress. For me, one of the hardest part of the ttc was feeling like my life was on hold for so long. Not being able to plan. Should we take the kids to the grand canyon next summer? Well I might be really pregnant, or we might have an infant, or...... The other was seeing the ever widening gap of age between the kids and the child to be. I know my sister was pregnant with her 1st child when a close friend was trying to adopt. When my sister gave birth, the friend brought home a 6 month old. All of a sudden the friend was "ahead", if that makes any sense. The same thing happened when they were both trying for #2. The adopting family brought home a 4 week old after only 6 months.

I'm not sure where I am going with all this. . But please do keep us updated. People who don't know you care too.

Heather

[hockeylover]

Well, after much consideration and checking out one of the egg donor places that my Dr. recommended, DH and I went down there, looked at a ton of profiles (we likened it to mail-order bride time) and narrowed it down to 5 girls that we liked. We brought home their profiles and let them just sit for a few days, to clear our heads. When we looked at them again, we put them in an order and called the place on Wednesday. Our #1 choice was still available so we're moving forward with the egg donor thing. She needs to get her psychological exams, then she'll see my Dr for all the medical stuff and then hopefully, it'll be a go. Not sure when it'll all happen but I'm thinking sometime in March at this point.

I'm still sad at the thought that all my eggs are bad. I mean, that's just so unbelievable to hear and take as reality, but that's what it is. I was sad the other day when we were looking at our 5 possibilities but once we called the place and was told she's available, I was getting excited again. When I spoke to my Dr. and one of the nurses in the office, they were both excited too so let's hope this all works this time.

Thanks again for listening/reading and yet again, for all the support. It's really nice to know that people out out there in cyberland. I really appreciate it.

Heather, I PM'd you directly.

[chiromama]

Juls! Moving forward on DE is so exciting! I'll be keeping you in my thoughts... keep us up to date on what happens!

[GeemiesMommie]

Originally Posted by hockeylover

Well, after much consideration and checking out one of the egg donor places that my Dr. recommended, DH and I went down there, looked at a ton of profiles (we likened it to mail-order bride time) and narrowed it down to 5 girls that we liked. We brought home their profiles and let them just sit for a few days, to clear our heads. When we looked at them again, we put them in an order and called the place on Wednesday. Our #1 choice was still available so we're moving forward with the egg donor thing. She needs to get her psychological exams, then she'll see my Dr for all the medical stuff and then hopefully, it'll be a go. Not sure when it'll all happen but I'm thinking sometime in March at this point.

I'm still sad at the thought that all my eggs are bad. I mean, that's just so unbelievable to hear and take as reality, but that's what it is. I was sad the other day when we were looking at our 5 possibilities but once we called the place and was told she's available, I was getting excited again. When I spoke to my Dr. and one of the nurses in the office, they were both excited too so let's hope this all works this time.

Thanks again for listening/reading and yet again, for all the support. It's really nice to know that people out out there in cyberland. I really appreciate it.

Heather, I PM'd you directly.

Went to my RE on Tuesday and we discussed donor eggs, too. I also just can't believe my ovaries are done! Unreal. I'm going in for bloodwork day #3 in a couple of weeks in see just how tired my ovaries actually are. I'm trying to look on the bright side, tho...I am still nursing my only 19-month-old, and if we go with donor eggs, I think I can wait a little bit instead of traumatically weaning her to go with IVF in April.