Discreet Schmeet!!! - Page 2

[MamaChel]

I can be a not so discreete nurser here. Doesn't bother me. And ya know what? If it bothers an adult, then the adult can turn and look away. I don't actively try to be immodest in nursing but my primary concern certainly isn't for the opinion of those around me, it's for my hungry child.

[quaz]

Yes, this statement angers me to no end.
I mean WHO decides what is indecent. Everyone has a different measure.

Tammy

[my2girlsmama]

somehow double posted? :LOL

[my2girlsmama]

Originally Posted by heldt123

Yeah, I get annoyed by that too. I used to do the whole blanket war thing too, and have finally given it up because it is such a struggle. Today in the grochery store I pulled off in one of those empty isles to attach my son, when this lady and a man came up behind me and passed by. She turned all the way around and watched me. I consider myself quite discreet, but she may have caught a little flash of skin. She stood there with her mouth open and her eyes wide and looked exactly like this - : She then proceeded to lean over and say something to the guy with her. Give me a break!! I'm sure they would see a lot more at the mall after school gets out! Grow up!!

I always wish this would happen to me. I'd then literally show my entire exposed breast, smile and give thumbs up sign. I nursed recently in Walmart shoe aisle sitting on stool.......of course a woman comes thru with her buggy........I stared at her, she never once glanced at me.

[wannabe]

I always wish this would happen to me. I'd then literally show my entire exposed breast, smile and give thumbs up sign.

:LOL me too! (if I could think that fast)

[stockingup99]

Second that, discreet, schmeet, sheep go bleat.

Originally Posted by Mrs Dimples

I have realized that when people say "discreet", they don't mean a physical state of being "covered". They mean that the mother should feel on guard, on her toes, a little ashamed, sheepish, deprecating. It's a state of mind, folks.

If you NIP - whether you're wearing a bikini, a blanket, or a burka - and you aren't ready to scurry into the bathroom at the first withering glance, then you ain't discreet.

I think if people really thought about, and understood, the implications of tacking on that "...as long as she's discreet about it" clause, they would be so incredibly ashamed of themselves. It's misogynistic, divisive, and completely fantastic in that it has almost no basis in reality.

I'm really fired up about this tonight. I just figured this out a few days ago - crystallized what it is (to me, anyway) that people mean by this phrase, and the attitude that goes along with it. Feminism has SO far to go. Human rights have SO far to go.

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Yes, I always thought that as long as their disceet BS should be kicked to the curb. Let's see a bottlefeeder keep that bleeping plastic t!t out of sight. If they don't, we won't.

I have an active one year old. Discreet, schmeet. He won't have it. He needs to see at least an inch, and raises my shirt every time. He also likes to see what is going on. Bring it on...

[heldt123]

Originally Posted by my2girlsmama

I always wish this would happen to me. I'd then literally show my entire exposed breast, smile and give thumbs up sign. I nursed recently in Walmart shoe aisle sitting on stool.......of course a woman comes thru with her buggy........I stared at her, she never once glanced at me.

I wish I was that brave! :LOL

[lizzytpa]

nip "discreet" mama

I am a first time mom who decided to Bf my daughter. My mom and granny were so "weirded" out.. but that's because they were raised in the bottle fed era. I think as much as people are open minded..there are still those who were raised in the same manner my relatives were raised. I had many times where it was a hassle to be "discreet" but i chose to be mindful of those who may not be "used" to the idea of bf anyway. Besides i was not comfortable in showing my goods to the world also. I was very content in throwing a blanket over me and doing the shirt pull thing. I think if ppl are still offended even when you've been curtious and covered up.. then they are just going to have to get over it!

[mamaofthree]

I have no problem if individual mam's want to cover up for their own comfort, but to say a general EVERYONE must... no way.
I love Hathor's comic on it where she gives a woman a blanket to cover her head so she won't see them bf. That cracked me up for days! :LOL

H

[DeepGreen29]

Honestly I have come to the conclusion that many of the people who say things like this really just have a problem with nip, and owuld prefer not to ever see it at all.

These are the people who take double takes at you with sour looks in the mall when you are nursing in a sling, with a nursing top on, with about 1 inch of breast showing above the baby's face....Nothing indiscreet about it, except that they KNOW what you are doing and that bothers them!!!! I have seen snooty women give dirty looks to moms with blankets over the baby! UUUGggh. I am so over that. It tempts me...it really tempts me. Let's see how they like it when I decide to just sit there topless on a bench and let my baby twiddle the other side. (legal in WA)


eta: sorry to be sourpuss I actually have had 99.9% positive nip experiences. It's only recently that I noticed bad stuff. And actually I never notice it til my companions point it out

[Full Heart]

After the Chandler AZ pool incident I have thought about this alot. It angers me. It really isn't about being discreet its about the act altogether. They have a problem with bfing and if we are doing it in public they are confronted with it. If we do it in our homes they don't have to ever think about bfing. Different people have different reasons I'm sure. Discreet = I don't even want to know you are doing it. If I know you are doing it you aren't being discreet enough.

I was reading this site: http://www.007b.com/breastfeeding_public.php about the 5th email from the top, the one by smom, pretty much sums up everything I have ever tried to articulate about nip and never could.

I have seen more butt cracks in public than I have boobie skin when somone was nip. I can't even count the thongs I have seen on women wearing low riders (and public service annoncement to anyone who wears that combo - when you bend down your butt hangs out). Nor can I ever erase from my mind the many hairy butts glistening with sweat I have seen on men who really need to invest in a belt. I can't even belive this is an issue in todays society. Seriously am I more offending feeding my baby than some man with plumbers crack? At least what I am doing is serving a purpose and such a noble one - whats his serving? Surely he has never been approached and ask to pull his pants up or leave.

Obviously the only people in this world who have to be discreet are the nursing mothers - all others are exempt.