Well, I've been pregnant twice and both times it was very easy. The first time we had sex a lot, and I had to do most of the work since dh isn't in the mood once he's gotten his weekly allotment. He made cracks about how baby crazy I was, attacking him all the time when he thought we were just going to stop using birth control and see what happened.
So then when we started trying again last May, we had sex one time at CD10 and I didn't think I'd get pregnant from that, but I did. DH was actually unhappy that it happened the first month because he just wanted some time to "have fun" before pregnancy and childbirth took over.
: Unfortunately the miscarriage.
So now we've been trying since late October, not long, but I've been trying to be really easy about it and not mention ovulation or make him feel like we have to do something at a specific time. I didn't ovulate the first month, I did last month but I didn't get pregnant. It occurred to me that I actually waited too long at that point, and I'm realizing that both times I got pregnant it was because we had sex around CD 11. I'm not really too in tune with when I ovulate, but I think if I wait until after I know it has happened, it's too late.
OK, so trying not to mention it to dh, but then trying to get him to want to do something is aggravating. I asked him last night--he said it would have been a good idea but it was too late at night (it was 10:30, I think). Thought I could snag him this morning, but he was in the shower before I got back from checking on my crying daughter. Now tonight he ate some Carbolite bars which gave him some instestinal distress and is saying no way. So basically I've lost my chance for this month. I noticed the CM and the ovulation pain starting yesterday, it's already probably too late. It's just annoying. He says if we are going to have another child, we should do it soon. This is what he said when I proposed the idea of waiting a few more months so I could lose weight.
So I told him that I'm ovulating now, and he doesn't care, so I told him we can have a November baby instead of an October one. I'm giving up for this month. And I know it is wrong to feel this way, but I don't want to do anything once I'm past ovulation--what's the darn point? My body is most in the mood during the time I'm ovulating anyway.
Then I mentioned that my power went off for a few hours two weeks ago, and people have joked about how I might have a baby 9 months from now. Yeah right!
I want to say, "No I won't, idiot, because I wasn't ovulating then!" ROFL, am I crazy or what?
So then when we started trying again last May, we had sex one time at CD10 and I didn't think I'd get pregnant from that, but I did. DH was actually unhappy that it happened the first month because he just wanted some time to "have fun" before pregnancy and childbirth took over.
: Unfortunately the miscarriage.So now we've been trying since late October, not long, but I've been trying to be really easy about it and not mention ovulation or make him feel like we have to do something at a specific time. I didn't ovulate the first month, I did last month but I didn't get pregnant. It occurred to me that I actually waited too long at that point, and I'm realizing that both times I got pregnant it was because we had sex around CD 11. I'm not really too in tune with when I ovulate, but I think if I wait until after I know it has happened, it's too late.
OK, so trying not to mention it to dh, but then trying to get him to want to do something is aggravating. I asked him last night--he said it would have been a good idea but it was too late at night (it was 10:30, I think). Thought I could snag him this morning, but he was in the shower before I got back from checking on my crying daughter. Now tonight he ate some Carbolite bars which gave him some instestinal distress and is saying no way. So basically I've lost my chance for this month. I noticed the CM and the ovulation pain starting yesterday, it's already probably too late. It's just annoying. He says if we are going to have another child, we should do it soon. This is what he said when I proposed the idea of waiting a few more months so I could lose weight.
So I told him that I'm ovulating now, and he doesn't care, so I told him we can have a November baby instead of an October one. I'm giving up for this month. And I know it is wrong to feel this way, but I don't want to do anything once I'm past ovulation--what's the darn point? My body is most in the mood during the time I'm ovulating anyway.
Then I mentioned that my power went off for a few hours two weeks ago, and people have joked about how I might have a baby 9 months from now. Yeah right!
I want to say, "No I won't, idiot, because I wasn't ovulating then!" ROFL, am I crazy or what?
: I am like you and am totally "in the mood" around O time, but could happily go without the rest of the month. :LOL I hate feeling so ornery about it though. It makes me stressed and I don't want to make dh feel bad. 
I am trying to relax this cycle(I said that last cycle too. 
Actually, I have turned him down before just because I was too tired as well, so I can't put the blame on him. Now our roles are more "typical" where he wants it more than I do, supposedly, although I think he'd rather I ask since he knows I'll be in the mood. There have been times where I was "really" in the mood, even though we weren't ttc, and I would approach him twice in one day and get turned down. Mostly because he would say that until we start putting our daughter to bed before us and in her own bed, sex is out. I was so aggravated with this situation, but he is very set in his ways. He also says its hard to have intercourse without time to reconnect and be initimate in a loving way and yada, yada, all that stuff that women usually say. ROFL, sorry if I'm sounding crude, it's just that our roles have always been reversed, so to speak, in this regard. From all the mom chat I've had, it always seems to be the woman complaining about the guy wanting it too much.
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