I'm just gonna cut and paste this from the other thread, simonee -- you're awesome!
First off, simonee, thank God for you. You are awesome. Let me thank you once again! Sometimes I'm so swamped, I can only read and reply to emergencies. I feel so bad not being able to give a decent reply, and then there you are, with your flawless information and big warm shoulder and comfort. Thank you!
Isn't she great?
And plant momma, you are so right. You definitely did the right thing for your child, for her teeth and for her overall health, and you, too, AuNaturel. I know, and many moms on this board know, how difficult and heartwrenching it can be to see your child through any significant health problem, but it is truly worth while.
I just can't seem to understand why teeth are considered expendable, or as something other than a contributing part of the whole. If your child had a bacterial infection (which is what a cavity is) of his hand, and it had eaten a hole in it that was filled with pus (which is what happens to the jawbone in a dental infection after deep cavities) so that the child couldn't use his hand normally (which is what happens when cavities prevent a person from comfortably eating) and a finger or two were "just brown nubs" (I'm sorry to use your words, Chaka Falls, but they fit here), WHY IS THAT OKAY? Allowing an infection to go untreated in an innocent child, helpless to procure their own treatment, is just not okay with me, and is, in fact, considered child neglect and abuse by the law.
Ack, okay, rant over. Sorry, I get all in a lather when it comes to children. It never bothers me when adults come in with neglected mouths, but the children can make me cry. Or scream.
What was the topic again?
Radicalmother, you have been given some wonderful advice so far, and I cannot add to it. The archives here have a wealth of information for you on all of your questions, and some you may not have thought of! You DO NOT have to wean your child. Breastmilk can contribute, in certain situations, but it can be ameliorated, too. My own dd would not sleep without my nipple in her mouth, for 3 years! And she does not have a single stain, let alone a cavity, so I know it can be done. Good luck to you, please post again if you have any specific questions after the archives. I promise not to go off again!