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post #1 of 21
10/20/05 at 5:20am
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my heart is breaking for them. i'm so sad for my brother. my sister in law was such a good person in her heart and so misunderstood by so many. she was always there for me when i had ppd. she had a lot of mental health issues, and i dont know if i gave her as much support as i could have. i will miss her. i wish that she hadnt left us. she was so young. she phoned me in the morning before she killed herself and i talked to her for about an hour. i keep wondering if i could have said something to help her. she sounded better than she had for a long time. there's no way i could have known what she was going to do, but i still feel like her call was a call for help and that i should have known.

please pray for my brother and his family. or send them healing energy. my nephews are 7, 5 and 1.
post #2 of 21
10/20/05 at 5:47am
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post #3 of 21
10/20/05 at 6:50am


She sounded better because she had finally made up her mind.

I am sorry to hear things like this...I hope the father is strong and up to the challenge, because it is a big job. I am there.
post #4 of 21
10/20/05 at 11:45am
Sending you & her Family love & strength.

post #5 of 21
10/20/05 at 11:47am
Oh poor babies.... Thoughts and prayers for the family...
post #6 of 21
10/20/05 at 12:39pm
Love and light to you family.....
post #7 of 21
10/20/05 at 1:57pm
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thank-you mama's

right now i'm trying to figure out how i can best support my brother. he lives 8 hours away. i wish we were closer so that we could be more support to him and his young family over the coming months.
post #8 of 21
10/20/05 at 2:59pm
I'm so sorry for everyone's loss Oh My.....
those sweet kids

~~~~~~~~healing vibes~~~~~~~
post #9 of 21
10/20/05 at 3:05pm
post #10 of 21
10/20/05 at 3:13pm
I am so sorry. if its any consolation...the last time I saw my father, he sounded good, very content, we went out to breakfast, had a nice time. I think its like applejuice said, he had made his choice and was saying goodbye...NOT crying for help. I wish I had known, not to prevent it as much as just say more than fluff during our last conversation.

hugs to you and your brother, and the children.
post #11 of 21
10/20/05 at 4:49pm
I am so sorry.

You are all in my prayers.
post #12 of 21
10/20/05 at 5:05pm
You must be very overwhelmed right now. Thats hard to sit on the fact that you talked to her before she did it. Those poor poor babys and your brother I can't emagine what he's going through. This is my nightmare dealing with ppd. My prayers are with you and your family. Please take care.
lots of love
crissy
post #13 of 21
10/20/05 at 6:03pm
Peace & blessings to you and your family.
I'm so sorry.
post #14 of 21
10/20/05 at 9:59pm
I'm so sorry for all of you. My heart goes out to you. My brother attempted last summer, and it was an extreme shock to all of us. He luckily was found by his friend and rushed to the hospital in time. I pray every day for getting him back, and I can't imagine the pain and saddness you're all feeling.

Please give hugs and kisses to all of them..
post #15 of 21
11/17/05 at 12:21pm
I'm so sorry.
post #16 of 21
11/17/05 at 12:45pm


I am so sorry for you & your family. Breathe, takie things slowly and love those babies. We have been there. My youngest sister died in a car accident four years ago leaving my 5 year old neice, and 18 month old nephew. I can't imagine how we would have dealt with the added grief of a suicide. As time goes by some of the most important and comforting things you will be able to do is to keep her memory alive for them in good ways. We have made photo albums of pictures for them, played music that she played to them, and answered questions when asked in a gentle manner. Children grieve in different ways and in their own time.
post #17 of 21
11/17/05 at 8:45pm
I have a dear friend,actually more like a daughter to me,whose mother commited suicide. Her mother simply couldn't go on. She had alot of mental health issues also.
Please know my prayers are with you and your family.
post #18 of 21
11/18/05 at 12:47am
I am so sorry
post #19 of 21
11/18/05 at 12:58am
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tomorrow will be the one month anniversary of this loss.

i'm looking at my sigline, and at what i posted previously in this thread and am amazed again at the gifts that the universe can bring to us. my brother and his family now live about 5 minutes away from me. i am able to be very involved in their lives and to be an ongoing source of support to them. i wish that somehow we could have lived closer together while my almost-sister and dear friend was still here.

i just learned that she had been on antidepressants and that the medication she was taking may have been a contributing factor in her death.

i cant believe it's been a month already.
post #20 of 21
11/18/05 at 2:42am
(hugs) i will pray for her babies and your family
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