To the OP: One thing that has been said before on other threads (but not on this one... unless I missed it
) is that it is the responsibility of the parent who wants to have the son go through major cosmetic surgery who needs to prove why it needs to be done. You do not need to prove a thing. If your dh can find you one solid medical reason/study/etc. why it should be done (and if you can't argue against it, then we can definitely help you there!) then you can agree to have it done.
The truth is that there are no solid medical reasons to have it done. There are cosmetic reasons and religious reasons. Honestly though, why would someone put a child through a serious surgery for cosmetic reasons? Let's just tattoo mom's name on his bicep while we're at it. Or pierce his belly button. Or chop off his ears so we don't have to wash behind them!
Circing itself brings more risk of infection at least at first. Let's give the baby a surgery where the wound in question has to heal while being covered with a diaper and fecal matter
Sounds like a great recipe for an infection and a lot of pain for the baby, not to mention work for the mother who has to try to keep the wound clean and uninfected.
When the baby isn't circed, there's no wound to clean, there's no extra care whatsoever (except in the pediatrician's office to watch out for the doctor's potential ignorance with regards to premature retraction). No pain for baby. No extra work for mom.
I'm very happy with my dh's intact penis and he has never had any trouble with it! In fact... I don't even quite grasp how a circed penis would even work
I've never really been around one (except my little brothers... but I've never ever even TOUCHED one except to change my youngest brother's diaper). The circ rate around here is very low though. It just keeps getting lower too
I'm lucky that my dh would just as soon chop his arm or leg off as circ a son if we have one! That's how much he appreciates the fact that his mother stood up for him when he was a baby. I'm almost positive that my FIL is circed and dh never even really noticed when he was growing up though he says he thinks his dad is... so it's really not a big deal to look like the father either. It can be very important to the father... but there are healthier ways of dealing with that issue than by mutilating the son!
love and peace.