|Originally posted by Piglet68
nobody quotes research when they say "if you hold that baby too much you'll spoil him", nor does anybody question the concept of infants sleeping in isolation, but if you mention that you're still nursing your 8 month old, or that you cosleep, you'd best be prepared to whip out that bibliography!
yes yes yes! god, i am so tired of hearing about people who think they are 'experts' just b/c their views are mainstream! for example, you would think that ferber hung the moon based on his 'following' (sounds like a cult leader
) of enthusiastic supporters. and yet, why haven't these people ever heard of james mckenna or william dement, who are actually considered to be experts by the scientific community on sleep issues? is it b/c what they have to say ISN'T what people want to hear, no quick-fix solution?
There's so much pressure for people like us to sit down, shut up, and be polite but why isn't the standard the same for the opposite??!!
i've sat down, shut up, and been polite for too long... i can't remember where i read or heard this, but maya angelou once said something along the lines of... every time you don't speak up when someone says something that bothers you (whether it be a racist comment, criticism, etc), it's like letting a bird peck out a little piece of your soul, and every time you let something slide, they take away another little piece, and another, and so on, in and of themselves they aren't big pieces, but over time how much of your soul are you willing to lose?....
i'm making it a resolution to speak up for my babe and our parenting style and make myself as annoying as the mainstreamers!