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post #1 of 37
10/20/05 at 11:11pm
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We are still very early so we are keeping this pregnancy pretty quiet...which is killing me since I want to blab to everyone
So far I have told 2 friends & that is all. We haven't even told our son yet, nor our parents.

What is your plan?
mary
post #2 of 37
10/20/05 at 11:28pm
Well....I told my friend the minute I tested, she knew before DH did!
I then told my parents this past week....we meant to wait, but it was too stressful and better to get it out. We have told most of our friends, DDs (thats all they talk about now!) and my brother and sister....we wont tell DHs family until atleast THanksgiving at which point I will be in my second trimester. I wont go over big with them so we are putting it off for as loooonnnnggg as possible. I know they say to wait....but I guess sometimes support is a good thing especially if there is a problem. I need people to be happy, so we told those who would celebrate with us. HTHs
post #3 of 37
10/20/05 at 11:32pm
Oh we already have... So many people (including many of my regular patients) knew we were doing the IVF, since it really impacted how much and HOW i actually worked.... most people in our lives already know.

I know lots of people wait to tell, but I'm not a private person.... so I'm glad we've told!
post #4 of 37
10/20/05 at 11:43pm
We already told most everyone. I haven't had any problems in the past with miscarriage, so I'm not to the point of being cautious about it. We told my parents, the ILs, brothers and sisters, my grandparents, and a couple close friends (figureing they would tell the rest of our friends). We're waiting to tell my DHs grandparents until we see them next month since my MIL asked me to.
post #5 of 37
10/21/05 at 12:08am
We've told parents, my grandpa, sis and my aunt that we are pg but only my mom knows about the trips. I'll tell my dad and his girlfriend (they've been together 25 years so she is considered a parent) this Sunday. Ron also told 1 person at our synagogue about it. He was visiting from Israel and knew about our ttc. He arranged prayers for us at the Cave of the Fathers and he and his wife also had trouble getting pg for 3 years when they first married. So dh asks him about something and he responds, "Why do you care?" Later he apologized to dh and said that he didn't think he would care because I was pg. Ron asked why he thought that and he said, "I was standing next to her and just felt like she was pg." So dh told him about the trips and he started crying. Totally trippy!

To get back to the OP...we'll tell the rest of the family about the pg at T-day dinner and then friends. We figure we won't share the # because people will figure that there is something up when my belly keeps growing and the shower registry says 3 carseats.
post #6 of 37
10/21/05 at 12:49am
We've told my parents, my sisters, ILs and DD!
post #7 of 37
10/21/05 at 7:48am
I thought I would want to wait to tell eveyone, but all of my family and most of my friends know at this point The only ones that do not know is my work, and I want to wait until November to tell! You know you will havethe pregnancy glow soon - people are going to start to ask
post #8 of 37
10/21/05 at 7:51am
Ummmmm......I still had the in my hand when I called my 3 closest friends :LOL

DH was there, so he knew as soon as I did. We just told our parents this week - I made a tshirt for DS that says "I'm gonna be a big brother" and took a picture and emailed them....and sat back and waited fir the calls I told one friend I work with, and one other friend.......

I've got about 20 more friends and family members to tell; I'll probably just take the email I sent to our parents and send it out to them when the time comes....probably in a month or so - I'll tell work after the holidays, in January...if I can hold out that long!

I know some people wait until the second trimester, but the way I see it, the people I told right away are all people I'd turn to if something happened anyway, so they should know the good part right off the bat.
post #9 of 37
10/21/05 at 10:14am
We told our families and closest friends, dh had to tell someone at work so he could switch shifts because I need him home at night when the nausia hits the worst. Other than that we are waiting until 12 or 13 weeks to tell everyone else.
post #10 of 37
10/21/05 at 12:51pm
I've told my best friend (called her right away!!LOL) and we told ds and my parents this past weekend. Yesterday i told my 4 close girlfriends. We've also told our 2 bestfriends and there familys...one lives out west the other lives in montreal.
We are waiting to tell Dh's family cause they are not going to be happy. When we told dh's dad about ds #2 he told dh that he should go get sniped now :. He's a strong believer in only 1 child per family, mum and dad should work so you can buy a house right away, buy your child EVERYTHING he/she wants, put your child in so many activities that they are never home......lol sorry kinda turned into a vent. Can you tell me and dh's dad don't get along??

Anyways, we told all those people because if something did go wrong i would want ad need there support, being my closest friends and family.

Julia
post #11 of 37
10/21/05 at 1:13pm
We have told pretty much everyone except the kids. With all of the extra dr's appointments, blood draws, etc. everyone pretty much knew what was going on anyways. After all of our losses, I don't want to tell my kids just yet. It was too hard the last time and they are still so young. We also haven't told dh's family, but we don't have a lot to do with them anyways!
post #12 of 37
10/21/05 at 2:51pm
I've told quite a few people actually. I just can't keep it a secret. I've told my sister, some close friends & my place of work. I work at a pregnancy & parenting store, so I couldn't/didn't want to wait any way. We haven't told DD yet, but will have to in about 2 weeks when we have our first Dr appointment. I want her involved. I figure we'll tell the rest of the family by Thanksgiving, but I'm not sure if DH knows that yet! :LOL

L
post #13 of 37
10/21/05 at 3:15pm
I've told just 2 friends, my parents, and my brother. I have a circle of friends in town here that do not know, though I think some suspect. We all have preggo radar. I've been tired and air-headed with them lately, so I think that they suspect, but fear asking me. I can't wait to tell them once I hear the baby's HB.

B
post #14 of 37
10/21/05 at 4:36pm
We've already told family and close friends. The only people we're waiting on are those who we wouldn't tend to call for support should something go wrong (because I wouldn't want to spend months running into them and hearing, "How's the baby?"). We had a m/c three years ago, and I was glad that we had told everyone. The way I look at it is, if a few weeks inside of me is all the life this baby gets, I want him/her to still have a chance to spread happiness and joy. Yes, we're risking having to tell people sad news, but, really, whenever you make a new friend/gain a new family member/etc., you're risking loss. That's life. (Besides, when I had the m/c, I found myself needing to share that news with people who hadn't known about the pg, and that was even sadder.)
post #15 of 37
10/21/05 at 5:14pm
I've told all my online friends, but no one in real life yet. I'm busting at the seems to spill it, but DH wants to wait a little longer.
post #16 of 37
10/21/05 at 7:00pm
I told my best friends in the first week, one right after I told my husband. We called my parents and sister that night. I told some online friends. It's been sort of a trickle of friends and family since then, and he told his boss so travel would be off-limits around my due date. All of his close family knows except for his parents, but we're saving telling them for his mom's birthday dinner tomorrow. I figure the rest of the world will know by thanksgiving.
post #17 of 37
10/24/05 at 1:16am
I just kind of tell people as I talk to them. I think I am a weirdo. I feel awkward telling people. I don't get excited about telling anyone, or go out of my way to tell people. Dh told his brother, so I assume he passed on the word to Dhs parents, we don't talk to them much. I told my mom and my sister and I assume they will spread the word on that side of the family. I have told a few of my friends that I have talked to since I found out. I figure the word will get out eventually. I am just very blah about telling people for some reason. I was the first time around too. I think I told 3 people and then they had to pass it on.
post #18 of 37
10/24/05 at 10:02am
Actually the baby is telling already by popping out. I'm not in my jeans anymore and I will have to switch over to maternity tops very soon. In fact I had one on yesterday.
post #19 of 37
10/24/05 at 11:55am
We told everybody right away.
post #20 of 37
10/26/05 at 4:24pm
Thread Starter 
We told my side of the family this weekend & they were excited. My DH told the whole police department after we got the results back from the test...he failed to let me know that though. I figured if the dept. knew, my mom & son could know We'll let his side of the family know over the weekend.

mary
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