So sad and dissapointed and worried

[oliversmum2000]

Tonight at about 2.15am my 5 yo was stood outside my bedroom door gasping for breath like nothing i had ever heard.

I got him to the bathroom where he gasped and retched for about 10 minutes.

We were in the en-suite and he was having REAL trouble breathing, several times i went and kicked dh to ask him for support and to help but he just was grumpy.

When he did finally get up he was really irritable, ds was really struggling to vbreathe and vomiting, i thought we were going to have to go to the hospital for sure.


I rung NHS direct who were usless, but after about 30 minutes ds was in bed and calming down slowly and starting to breathe better.

The nurse on the phone eventually suggested phoning my out of hours doctor..... gee thanks so i can tell him everything i just told her....

But while i was talking to the nurse i left the bathroom so i could hear her ds crying very loudly, all he needed was love and comfort dh was being very grumpy saying stand up, and when i returned to the bathroom he told me to f**k off,

I was so worried about ds and he was so horrible and made ds feel even worse i just cannot get over his attitude i have never felt more hurt or dissapointed.

He didnt even want to get out of bed and was quite happy to lie there and sleep even as he heard ds in so much distress like he figured it wasnt his problem so why care.

I cannot possibly go to sleep now as i am so stressed and ds's breathing still doesnt sound totally normal, plus ds 2 has a slight cough too.

I just feel really sad and stressed and on my own, needless to say dh went right back to sleep.

[Unreal]

oh my gosh


wow.
I can't even find words for how sad and angry I am that your dh wasn't supportive at all.

Did the nurse think your son sounded croupy? Did a steamy bathroom help? Is that something you can try if he keeps struggling?

When my oldest was 3? He woke up one night and couldn't breathe
I was in tears trying to calm him down and help him catch his breath.
Thankfully dh, who at the time was just my SO, stayed calm enough to drive us to the ER.
Granted he didn't freak like I did (thankfully!!), but he was definitely concerned! And he is a BEAR if you so much as walk past him at night, normally!

By the time we got to the ER, ds was much better. They gave him some prednisone (if I remember correctly) after which he was so much better.

They said at that age, and at night, croup often strikes. A steamy bathroom or the night air seem to help (but if they don't then it is time for a trip to the ER)

But I was SO scared....the memory of it is still so clear in my mind--7 years later.


I hope your son is feeling better
and that your DH is guilt ridden come morning

[zipworth]

That really sucks . I hope your son has a peaceful sleep, and your husband hears what you have to say in the morning.ARg. Don't hesitate to take your son to the hospital if you feel the need. My son has had several middle of the night breathing problem episodes, and I have never regretted taking him once.

Natalie

[hipumpkins]

Men really suck sometimes!!! I am sorry your DH was big jerk to your son and to you. I offer you my sympathies and I hope your DH gets sick tomorrow night and is up all night coughing!! (While you sleep soundly in another room, of course!)

[oliversmum2000]

thank you all so much

your words of support mean so much, in the middle of the night it can sometimes feel like you are really on your own.

ds is breathing ok now and i have finally relaxed enough to be able to try to go to sleep so i will do that now.

thank you 100 times for listening

[Dandelion Grrl]

Ohmigosh! I am sorry mama..How scary..
Im glad your ds is doing better..I hope you get some rest

[oliversmum2000]

Oliver is still having a lot of trouble breathing and coughing a lot so we are taking him to see the doctor this morning.

Dh has acknowledged how rubbish he was last night....

I will let you know how Oliver gets on.

Thanks for being there.

[RedWine]

How is Oliver? My thoughts are with your family.

[meemee]

omg AND u r 7 months preggo. well almost 8 :

[mattemma04]

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[oliversmum2000]

Thank you all so much

Last night we stayed the night at my parents which was great, when ds 1 woke up being sick my mum was there to help. I slept with ds 1 but when ds 2 woke up coughing and disporientated my mum went to him, so i went and slept the second half ofthe night with ds 2 while my mum jumped into bed with ds 1 - very complicated!

Dh had to sleep on the sofa so ds 1 and ds 2 could be in separate rooms to avoid them disturbing each other.

Plus he decided to get more than a little drunk last night so i figured he would be fine on the sofa, plus the fact that i still feel like totally disowning him, as we wtahced my sisters wedding video last night (she just back from honeymoon) then our wedding video and he spent the whole time saying how crap the church ceremony was and really criticising it, (sister had non religious ceremony) went on about ho the photos had been too long and how bad that was, and spent the whole time really being horrid about our wedding day.

I still feel like crying now - i really feel like giving up on my marriage.

Anyhow both of my beautiful, loving sons who keep me sane with their love and kindness and affection are sleeping well and even though they both still have coughs seem a lot better.

i think they should be fine in the next few days.

[RedWine]

[oliversmum2000]

thank you

my boys are better, although they still have lingering coughs but i have found that coughs take a long while to go after abug, they seem happy and healthy in themsleves though.

dh has explained he was half asleep and didnt really understand what was going on.... oh well i married him and holding a grudge isnt healthy so i have to let it go i just hope he does better next time.

thanks for all your support i dont know what i would do wihtout you all sometimes

[annarosa]

how frightening for you to have to deal with that alone and also have to deal with being left alone by your dh

[WuWei]

How scary and lonely for you. I am glad you asked and received support from your mom. Dh : Wow! I would not have the tolerance for his lack of support. I hope your sons are feeling better now.

I am sending peaceful healing energy for your family.

Pat

[catholicapmom]

I'm glad you feel better about things. My dh has been nasty when he's been woken up in the middle of the night. Men.... :

[oliversmum2000]

Feeling well

We are all feeling well now and seem to have gotten over all our bugs - i just hope it stays that way as we only have a few weeks left before our new arrival is due!

thanks for all your kind and supportive words i love MDC!!!