Wow! I spend a couple of days offline and you people just go nuts posting!!
I'm not going to even try to respond to everyone but just jump in where I'm at . . . but at least I'm feeling caught up on where everyone is at!
plagio--what you wrote about your MIL even pissed ME of on your behalf, so I don't think it's at all inappropriate to be upset, and I don't think it's even a pregnancy thing. Maybe it is more upsetting b/c of the pregnancy thing, but I think I (and if I'm guessing, probably you too) would be upset about that if not pregnant. It's just completely a violation of a pretty obvious rule of ettiquette!!! Usually it's known that when you are invited to a party, particularly if it's a thing for which you actually have a written invitation (and you're over 23 and NOT living in a frat house!) you are not authorized to invite others! And if you do want/need to bring someone else along (a date, or a visiting out of town guest, something like that) you should get permission of the host/hostess first if it's someone you're close enough to that you feel comfortable asking. NOT just randomly invite a bunch of other people!! If she wants to have the family together, SHE should throw the damn party!! Call me crazy, but I'm on a major ettiquette kick in the last week or two. I live in a particularly flaky and ettiquette-deprived part of the country--I have talked with other people who have moved to here from the Midwest or Eastern parts of the country, and we have agreed that there is a little more respect for certain social customs there than here. (Like RSVPing or not just flaking out on a party/social event when you say you're going to be there, or calling if for some reason at the last minute you can't attend. Here people don't even seem to think that this is rude, and act like YOU'RE weird for being disappointed when they don't show up after they said they would!) So I guess it's good to know that Chicago isn't the promised land of manners that I remember the midwest to be!
(I'm originally from the Detroit area.)
I'm having a busy week at work--I'm teaching classes all day every day this week. Was 37 weeks yesterday, and I don't think this baby is coming any time soon, although I am noticing more BH cx the last day or two. The baby's head is well applied but not too low, and I'm not dilated or effaced at all (per my DH, whom I "walked through" a cervical exam!!) I decided to work next week too. Strangely enough I am feeling better in many ways than I was a month ago--partly, I think it's because the work stress is abating because the end is in sight! But now I almost want to keep working a little longer! Partly, a month ago I was bummed that I've been too tired and stressed and preoccupied with work problems and finances to really do some of the things that I wanted to do in the pregnancy--like going to prenatal yoga, meeting other pregnant ladies, going to a couple of LLL meetings, getting certain things in the house together, etc. A month ago I was really wanting to have the time and freedom to do those things. Now, I'm just sort of in the waiting stage--although I'm not miserable and desperate to go into labor, I'm close enough to giving birth that I'm less interested in getting INTO being pregnant than I am in getting out of it on the other end!! Also, my perspective sort of shifted on some of the things that I want to do and the relative benefit of doing those/vs. working longer. For example, I was all interested in cooking and freezing some meals, but then I realized that at my current pay scale, about one hour of work will pretty much pay for a decent dinner for me and DH--so what's the point of taking off early to slave away at home to try to prepare a few meals when by working just another week I could afford take out or pizza or something every night for the first month, or extra household help? Especially now because I am enjoying it more because I'm so close to leaving anyway that nothing really matters that much at this point!
The people at what I jokingly refer to as "the mothership" (ie my employer, who places me offsite at a school) are having a shower for me tomorrow there in the afternoon. My only request about this has been, nothing involving toilet paper!!
The people I used to work with onsite are doing this for me, and they LOVE doing parties/showers so I've been to a lot of them that they've given for other work colleagues! Seems like every bridal/baby shower this particular group of friends has thrown has featured some game that has involved wrapping the guest of honor in toilet paper for one reason or another!! (Either the "toilet paper bride" for wedding showers, or for baby showers trying to visually gauge the girth of the expectant mother and tear off an appropriately sized piece of toilet paper, later having the opportunity to check accuracy of said estimation by wrapping it around the mom's belly!) I hope I'm not cramping their style too much with that request!!
I think the people at school are planning to do a (semi-suprise) something for me next week too--a couple of weeks ago one of the administrators gave me the third degree about what we have for the baby and what we need for the baby, and finally just made me inventory our supplies and then cough up our registry information plus a list of what we need! Then the secretaries and the ladies in the school nurse's office kept asking me about plans for my last day, and when I was kind of waffling about that two of them exchanged a look, and then one of them just said that they need me to be there next Wednesday! Since then I've noticed a few furtive glances and then conversations ending when I walk into a room, but not in a bad way!
Well, other than that, no news. See, here I accused all you of being chatty and now I'm just
Shame on me!