Originally Posted by Frankly Speaking
Tara, njeb, Lilli, Quirky and mamaverdi:
If it were your genitals that were to be removed with little or no pain management or breast feeding, which would it be? If you’ve already answered this, please forgive me. I didn’t go through all of the posts on this thread but I would appreciate if you would answer again.
Like you noted before and I agreed, breastfeeding can be partially selfish; it is pleasurable physically and emotionally. Not circing your child has no selfish component.
I am having a hard time with the pronouns or lack thereof in your question. I guess you mean, would I get circumcised if that were required to be able to breastfeed my baby? Well, if it were just the clitoral hood, maybe. Is that the analogue to current circumcision styles? If it were everything on the outside, then probably not.
But, like I said before, for my original question, gun to my head, ridiculous fantasy world, I would choose breastfeeding. My experience is my husband, who is circumcised but terrible hearing and ear problems from being fed formula - he says he wishes for breastfed health more than he wishes he had a foreskin. Now you will say, Frank, that he doesn't know what he is missing, and that is true. But you know how I have mourned his circumcision, and he has too. But I still pick the lifetime of good health for my hypothetical family over the foreskin.
Now, having said all that, I would choose to advocate for not circing over bfing, b/c as someone pointed out, once they leave that kid intact, it is likely he will stay that way, whereas lots of women give up bfing quickly. Also, you know how much of an intactivist I am; when women come to this forum saying their husbands want to circ, my advice is tell them it is the foreskin or them, no compromise, no concern for the marriage, no nothing, so I don't think you get to cast me as some sort of a villain here. I do think you make a good point that it is easy to cause pain when it is not your own, and that may make people think. But remember this was all for discussion, and not for persecution.