Originally Posted by calngavinsmom
But Patti, baby boys die from circumcision complications as well. Just as you didn't know before hand that you would be risking their lives by ff, every time a circumcision is preformed on an infant, their lives are being put at risk, and you would never know before hand if your baby was going to be the unlucky one that would end up dead (or seriously injured or sick) from the circumcision that you chose for him.
Ultimately it is not about choosing life or death, it is one bad choice or another. One avenue to risk the health/life of your child or another. Like trying to choose between the lesser of two evils. Because what it boils down to is either choice (ff or circ) could end badly.
Tara, I totally understand and accept that. Circ DOES have inherint risks, it's SURGERY for crying out loud! That's why I learned more and didn't do it to my other children after having made a bad and misinformed decision (on advice from my Dr.'s) the first time. There are risks, baby boys DO die from it. It's horrible and wrong and IMO should be illegal in the same way that FGM is. Trust me, I get it. It is not something I could ever do again and that I regret horribly having done at all. Like others have said, thank God we don't HAVE to chose. I am a breastfeeding, baby wearing, co-sleeping, non-cutting parent and will always be that way... to however many children we have.
What I'm saying is that for ME in MY case alone I would risk cutting off a part of myself or my child because of the known and extremely high risks of not BF in my particular family. My family is a somewhat unique case. I know there are children that die every single year because they were not BF but it's not common. Heck, I was FF and I did okay. I have health issue's now but that's just life. However going into a situation where you know that the very possible outcome is death you have to do as you said, chose the lesser of two evils. In my case it would be to chose to go ahead and cut myself or my child, just let him/her live.
I just feel like when people say things like "I know FF people that turned out just fine" they don't understand that in the big picture that's NOT ALWAYS the case. It's something near and dear to me because of my experiences. I hope others can respect that.
mom of 5