|what if you don't even attempt it, because you can't? is that a failure, too?
The way I look at it, I was reaching for a goal. My goal was to birth my baby through my vagina, but, I didn't reach that goal, so the attempt was a failure. If the goal was a scheduled cesarean, & you had an oops birth, that would be a cesarean failure. Hope I'm making sense. I'm using the wording objectively.
I'm not saying I'm a failure, or anyone else is. Just my goal was.
There have been some pretty heated discussions on the ICAN list of the term "birth". Some women feel their c/s was birthing, that they gave birth. Some didn't. One thing I won't do is call someone else's a birth or not. That is not for me to say. I feel like I didn't birth. I respect both sides to this issue.
My children had a birthday, but I did nothing to bring them into the world. I came close, & worked hard....I labored but the end result was me lying on an operating table having my children removed.
Again, this is how I feel
births. Woman are free to call what they experienced what they want....but I feel it is insensitive for others to tell me what I did or call my experiences something I feel it wasn't.
Hugs to all. Whatever our stories & choices are, we need & deserve support. I'm sure we all heard the same ol' line from people that all that matters is a healthy baby...& how that hurts us as women. The mothers count too.
In case someone here hasn't read this article, it is a must read!You should be grateful
May our future births be healing & wonderful....regardless if they are CBAC or VBAC.