Originally Posted by LeftField
Ok, now I'm really going on a tangent...Dh, who only recently accepted unschooling and who was never a huge hs advocate, actually said that he felt K-12 was filler time. After we both concluded that we used nothing from K-12 in our career, save some basic skills that would have developed anyway, I asked, "So why do you think we spent all those years in school? What were we doing?" He thought about it and said, "Well, it was just a way to pass childhood. It was something for people to do with us while we waited to grow up."
Here's my tangent
The last sentence quoted above really reflects how I feel about institutionalized schooling. We're leaning toward unschooling for our DD who is only 2-1/2 right now, but I feel like we're already kind of doing it. There's so many fascinating things in the world that kids miss out on when forced to sit at a desk with their hands folded nicely in compliance.
I personally don't think I would've liked being homeschooled by my parents because my dad was an alcoholic so there were all those issues, but when I look back at my K-12 experience, I really see how completely stifled I was.
For example, in public school, I was rewarded for not rocking the boat -- or even "talking out" while in 2nd grade. (My teacher kept track of infractions on each student's desk and on the board.) Each week the kids got a new check-off list for her to mark on. I never had a new one because I was so "good." I didn't talk. I was always polite. I was always a "good girl." :Puke
The last week of school, I finally got P.O'd at another kid who kept bugging me with a question about our assignment and I finally just told him to leave me alone. The teacher came over scowling at me and snarled about how she was so disappointed in me because she'd had students go through a whole year without any talk-outs. It felt very humiliating.
I mean, really, we're talking about 8-yr. olds here!
I can think of several examples of how I was molded to be more compliant, non-thinking, etc. while in shcool (intellectually and socially). I never learned how to learn, but I got good grades. I was always good at test-taking. I don't remember much of anything from the subjects though.
And I did go to college and I have a BA. Even though I had much more freedom there, I still didn't learn a whole lot. I just went because that was what I was supposed to do. I a'm glad I went to college, but I think if I'd been unschooled, I wouldn've learned a lot more.
I have learned soooooo much more since I've been out of school!
So this is kind of a rant now, but I feel like the proverbial system failed me and the "Leave No Child Behind" stuff is just scary. More standardized testing? How does that help anyone?
Anyway, sorry if I got so long-winded about my childhood experiences here.
I noticed some mention of HSP -
yup - that's me. I think DD is more extroverted than I am, but she still seems to really hold back in larger groups and activities. She really opens up and shines in groups of 2-3 other kids. We go to a toddler group and she loves the free time explorations. She interacts just fine with the other kids (as expected for her dev. age). She HATES circle time for the most part. Today she actually did participate in a parachute play where they were shaking it to bounce leaves on it. But she doesn't like to participate in the little songs and other group activities. She's rather read a book or go off and do her own thing.
So in conclusion (yes, finally!) I think she'd do OK in public school, but I don't think she'd really get to grow. And if she's interested in a subject then we go with it and she's open to me "teaching" - and learning - with her.
(That's what I really look forward to with unschooling!)
So I am reading and exploring more and more about homeschool - esp. unschooling.
Thanks for the great thread.