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Crazy Questions you get asked with multiples?

post #1 of 31
Thread Starter 
Thought it would be fun to share this - especially for multiple moms to be - the questions are sometimes hysterical - and generally extremely repetitive. I'll start with an oldie but a goodie (or two) . . .

Do multiples run in your family?

You were using fertility drugs right?


Anyone care to join in . . . . . .?
post #2 of 31
"Are you sure they're not identical?"

"Yes, I'm sure. They are a BOY and a GIRL."

"Well they look exactly alike to me."

"Well, I've seen inside their diapers and I can assure you they are not identical."
post #3 of 31
Thread Starter 
Did you know you were having multiples?
post #4 of 31
I got asked the other day if they were twins. I guess one looked bigger than the other and she thought they were a month apart. Not sure how I would have managed that

I also get:

You had a c-section, of course.
Um, no, I had them at home.

You are not nursing are you? You can't possibly keep up with twins.

Also the "do multiples run in your family?" and "are they identical?" are ones I get constantly.

When I was pregnant I always got the "are you sure there are only 2 in there?" That was annoying, like I didn't feel huge enough without being reminded of it.
post #5 of 31
"You're nursing two? You can't do that!" (really?) or "How do you do that?" (well, I could show you if you really want to see)

After asking if identical and being told they are, some saying "They can't be identical, one has more hair than the other."

And, although not a question, the statement that drives me craziest is someone saying "I had my two 12/15 months apart. It was just like having twins." While I am sure having such young babes so close together was indeed hard, it is NOT liking having twins. You don't have to learn to nurse two with floppy heads at the same time, two teething at the same time, two crying that sad newborn cry at the same time, two learning to sit/crawl/walk at the same time. Even if just a year apart, at least you can set the older babe down for a few minutes if you need to.

Sorry. Rant over. Getting off my soapbox now
post #6 of 31
Also not a question but my current biggest peeve: "Uh oh, double trouble!" Said mostly when my two are sitting quietly watching the world go by from their stroller doing *nothing* to warrant that kind of comment. Makes me crazy.

"Two boys?" My daughter is in head to toe pink or wearing her shirt that says across the chest, "Girl."

Being out with twin infants/toddlers makes you realize how many people speak without thinking...
post #7 of 31
Is this what I have to look forward to?
post #8 of 31
Everyone always wants to make generalizations about their personalities, like, "she's the shy one" or "she's the troublemaker"... but my favorite is "which one is the evil one?" :
And it doesn't matter if they are both decked out head to toe in hearts, flowers, and pink frills... it's always, "a boy and a girl, right?"

~brooke~
post #9 of 31
Thread Starter 
You didn't breastfeed them, right? (Yes I did)

I also get the - oh, I had my 2 or 3 spaced 12/15 months apart - its totally the same as triplets. (not really!)

Or my own mother -- I had 4 kids - its a lot of work Jessica - its the same thing (yeah but yours were over the course of 8 years! You never had 4 in diapers!)
post #10 of 31
How bout 'ooh they seem so different'
Uh yeah. THey are boy/girl fraternal twins.
It is like everybody assumes twins are identical. Or even if they are fraternal that just being twins should make them magically more similar than they would otherwise be.
post #11 of 31
Actually what I liked most is how the crazy comments and critiques (from my mom) stopped when I had twins. LOL If I had known she would stop harping when I had twins I would have had them first!
post #12 of 31
The "I had them close so I know what twins are like" annoys me too. I've had them close, and I have twins. Not the same.

Another one that annoys me is "Oh, I always wanted twins!" I love my twins. And I think anyone who wants twins should get them
post #13 of 31
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by mimid
Is this what I have to look forward to?
Yup! So practice your responses now! Most people are so nice and kind - and in awe of your kids - they just don't know how silly or repetitive they sound! I always work extra hard to accept their comments, questions, "compliments" graciously.
post #14 of 31
I actually got lots of "are they both boys" when mine were babies, even if both were decked head to toe in pink, I guess cuz they didn't have alot of hair?

And now we get lots of the "is she the friendly/grumpy/etc one?" I usually just answer "right this minute".

My most recent one that I had a horrible time keeping a straight face at (& didn't bother to correct) was when I had Ashlyn riding in the cart & Lexie riding on my back in the Kozy. The clerk at checkout looked at them (keep in mind that they're mz twins who MIGHT be a lb apart in size) and said "wow! They look alot alike! If they were the same size you'd think they were twins!" I just kind of smiled & mumbled "mmm-hhhh" I just couldn't figure out a good way to say "they ARE twins dummy!!!"

I especially love the "oh *I* can tell them apart" comments once people know they're mz. Sure, right this minute they have different expressions and their hair's probably a little different, etc. But let me go change their clothes & hair and bring them back in an hour & THEN see if you can tell them apart

I have found that now that the girls are older & rarely dress alike (they choose their own clothes) people are alot less likely to notice that their twins AND I don't mind if they ask, it seems like a logical question since at this age they COULD be friends, or closely spaced siblings or something.
post #15 of 31
Quote:
Originally Posted by gmvh
Also not a question but my current biggest peeve: "Uh oh, double trouble!" Said mostly when my two are sitting quietly watching the world go by from their stroller doing *nothing* to warrant that kind of comment. Makes me crazy.
This comment drives me INSANE!!!! I say "No...they are NOT double trouble! We are DOUBLY BLESSED!!!" and then quickly stroll away while .

Mimid: You asked if this is what you have to look forward to. I don't envy your adventures out at all. I was a big enough freak show with twins...I can not imagine what it will be like with three babies. You are going to have to put on a tough coat of armor and just plow through people just to get through the store. LOL!!

I started a thread a long time ago on this board called "Stupid Questions". It got TONS of responses. I searched and found it...thought you'd all like to peek at it too: http://www.mothering.com/discussions...upid+Questions.
post #16 of 31
How about this one, "Wow! You must be really busy!"

Not really a question, but I do get this comment *all* the time and it drives me crazy!
post #17 of 31
Quote:
Originally Posted by sweetpeas
My most recent one that I had a horrible time keeping a straight face at (& didn't bother to correct) was when I had Ashlyn riding in the cart & Lexie riding on my back in the Kozy. The clerk at checkout looked at them (keep in mind that they're mz twins who MIGHT be a lb apart in size) and said "wow! They look alot alike! If they were the same size you'd think they were twins!" I just kind of smiled & mumbled "mmm-hhhh" I just couldn't figure out a good way to say "they ARE twins dummy!!!"
HA! I get this one all the time! If one is being held or worn and the other is in the stroller or cart people always assume that the held one is an infant while the other is a toddler.
post #18 of 31
But Craziest is how many people said to me. "Oh you must be carrying twins?" or "Are you having Twins?" durign my pregnancy and I would answer. "No. I just have big babies."
Then after I found out I was carryign twins I felt like a liar!! LOL
post #19 of 31
Ahh, yes the twins comments and questions.

I had someone out to the house to measure for blinds a few months ago. Sam and Jack were in the living room playing. The guy measuring says, "Wow, they're pretty close in age, huh?". I said yeah, they are 20 minutes apart, so technically Sam is older. lol Then I went on to explain that they are fraternal twins and look no more alike than singleton siblings do. And since I was still PG at that time, I also got the standard "Wow, you've got your hands full!" "What are you going to do with the next one?"
post #20 of 31
Quote:
I also got the standard "Wow, you've got your hands full!"
This was my number one most hated comment. When my boys were little I heard this at least twice a week.
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