Originally Posted by KristiMetz
It does make me sad for the children (especially at the very young toddler stage, like less than 2 years old, I mean I know how my DS would react if I tried to wean him!).
But, it also makes me feel really bad for the mommas. I know what it feels like to be the ONLY thing your child wants, 24 hours a day 7 days a week. It can be so demanding and draining. Sometimes your boobs feel like they're being gnawed off.
I wish I could help these mamas somehow. I wish nursing a friend's baby was more socially acceptable, like the Ache women do.
So, I feel bad for everyone in the situation.
And, to be honest, I don't know why anyone would want to wean at this age - the quiet time of nursing DS is the only thing that keeps me sane some days!!!!
I wanted to second this...I see a lot of the posts that are talking about early weaning, to actually be cries for help from the mom....generally, she is at the end of her rope, has several types of stress in her life, and the nursing is just one of many frustrations...Hey, we've all been there, right?...so I agree we should be supportive, and try to be kind and helpful, and help the mom work through her situation, while suggesting/reinforcing that complete weaning might not be the best answer......although setting limits and/or changing the nursing relationship might be in order......I did not mean to come off as harsh in my original post......certainly, i think that most moms who post these types of posts need support and encouragement, not to wean, but with other areas, you know? Our society is SSSSOOO bad at supporting moms in general, especially BF'ing women, especially after the first year, so it is important I think to remember that for some of us, the women here at MDC are all we've got.....
But I do have to add that sometimes, I think moms are looking for "permission" to wean...and I simply will not give that. Except in rare cases of extreme medical or situational events, I simply will not tell a mom it is "okay" to wean before at least 2 years old......because I do not believe it is okay. I saw a sig quote here, and I know i am messing it up, but it was something like "women who CAN'T breastfeed should not feel ashamed, but those who WON'T breastfeed should, and you should be honest enough with yourself to know the difference." That about sums up how i feel.....