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post #21 of 124
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Originally Posted by mamajama
Yipes!! Not too smart to ask for a trick. You know that if you don't hand out treats to appease the mischeivous spirits, some pretty nasty things can happen to your home. (Toilet paper, rotten eggs... )
yep, this is the "trick part" most people don't get! My dad used to ask kids for a trick too, dumba$$. JMHO. About my dad. Moving on...

We took our 2.5 yr old this year & he loved it! We just went in one little circle that will be our new neighborhood when our house is finished being built. We also gave pieces of candy with a note attached that said "from your future neighbor" & most people were genuinely happy when we gave it to them. Next year we will have to split up & 1 stay home to bribe the little devils & 1 to take DS, but this year we had a blast both being with him. (He was Captn Feathersword & we were his maties btw)

There were kids of all ages & the older kids seemed pretty hyped up, but keeping it in check, yk? If any of them had been ridiculous, I wouldn't hesitate to offer them some guidance as in "Hey don't push in front of that little kid, hey it says just one" but then I am a loud mouth! What really buggd me was when a mom kept sending her 3 yr old to the door alone & hollering at him from the yard (while she smoked) "Ring the bell!" "say thank you" "hurry up, get down here" : That was a buzz kill & we had to slow down to get away from them, poor kid. I was torn between wanting to take care of him myself & wanting to have a good time with my ds, yk?

Anyway, happy halloween to all & hope you all appeased to spirits well! ~Maria
post #22 of 124
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Originally Posted by twindaze
I get annoyed at how many people take their kids out with both parents and then don't pass out candy, particularly if they do this every year. We'd love to both go out with them but it seems wrong to go collect candy if we don't hand it out.
That never occured to me. In my experience, the people handing out the candy are either pre-kids, or their oldest is very young, or they have grown kids, or they are without children at all. Going with your kids to ToT seems like is such a short time in the span of your life, I wouldn't want to miss it. If I were you, I wouldn't stay home and miss it. Just know that you will have many more years post-kids to "pay it forward" when other families are out together.
post #23 of 124
Wow I feel so lucky. We live in such a great little neighborhood. We had tons of trick or treaters. A lot of them were probably over 12 but they were all incredibly polite. There were so sweet to my dd who was passing out candy. Last year we weren't home so we left the bowl and surprisingly, there was still candy at the end of the night.

I don't mind the lack of costume. There are teenagers who want to look cool and be grown up but still want to act like kids. It is such a hard and conflicting age. I just love to see them having fun.

Our neighborhood has an 8:30 curfew which worked out perfectly with my kids' bedtimes.
post #24 of 124
We both take our kids-it's not fair for one of us to miss seeing that. We leave a big bowl of candy out with a sign that says "Happy Halloween! Please take two candies and enjoy.". I was surprised that there was still a lot left after we got back.

As far as teens go-we had very polite teens in this neighborhood. In our old house, it was just down right scary. Some of the "kids" were nearly as old as we were and were soooo rude. One actually asked us "is this all you have?". And one time a teen stood on our front porch smoking : . They came in large groups and it was kind of scary. We ended up making plans to be elsewhere Halloween night in that neighborhood, primarily b/c of the teen issue. BTW-these are older teens I'm talking about, probably 15-18, none had costumes except the occasional disgusting mask. Usually the younger teens were polite.
post #25 of 124
My kids are 19, 17 and 14. My 19 yo no longer lives at home.

Last yr she did and she and her bf, also 18, and my 2 other kids and their friend who was 14, went out. The girls wore costumes. The boys didn't, except my ds wore a namtag that said Sanchez.

This yr my 2 at home kids and the friend went out again. The girls wore creative costumes and ds wore a nametag that said Tyrese.

I am sure they were polite, as they always were when dh or I used to take them out. I don't know why they would be rude.

I would rather they were out getting chocolate than at an unsupervised party drinking alcohol and smoking pot, you know?

We had a couple other groups of teens who were nice and polite and chatty and wished us a Merry Hanukah and Happy Christmas as well as Happy Halloween. Teenagers are so funny.
post #26 of 124
My husband works evenings, so my mother and I took my boys TOT. I made up goodie bags and left them in a box on the porch with a sign that said, "Out trick or treating, please take one". DS and I made up the bags together and he decorated the box with Halloween scrapbooking paper and stickers, so it was a fun activity for us. I had made 100 gift bags and there were none left when we got home. However, my parents live in the same neighborhood and my dad stayed home to give out candy at their house, and he said they had at least 200 kids come by, so I guess I underestimated.

Regarding the older kids, in general last night, they were all polite. I noticed a few trampling through yards and across flower beds, but I think that was more out of excitement than rudeness. If we saw a group of older kids heading toward a house where we were going, we just let them go first, as we were pretty slow.

Our worst experience last night was with the parents waiting on the sidewalks for thier kids. One man had a dog on a leash that lunged at DS when we passed by. Several others were standing in the sidewalk smoking. I have a bigger problem with that than with the teens.
post #27 of 124
I don't mind if teens come in costumes, but we had gangs of teens last night with no costumes & who never said T.O.T or thank you. I think it is totally rude, but gave out candy anyway.

Then, when I was taking my kids around, there was another big group of teens (uncostumed) who threw a firecracker from one side of the street to the other! It landed in someone's front yard & would have hit us if we had been a few steps further up. I was very p.o., but was afraid to say anything in fear of them doing something back to us . . .

My kids had fun, regardless . . .
post #28 of 124
I went trick-or-treating till I was 16, but always in costume.

We gave candy to all last night, but no costume meant one candy only.

No "Trick-or-Treat"? No candy. I'd just stand there with the bowl, waiting. They all caught on.

My mother still calls anyone who appears to be older than 12 a "gork". Oh well.
post #29 of 124
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I don't mind if teens come in costumes, but we had gangs of teens last night with no costumes & who never said T.O.T or thank you. I think it is totally rude, but gave out candy anyway.
Yeah, that's my take too. There were way too many teens out last night without costumes. As I've said before, they're "too cool" to dress up, but still want free candy. I still give it to them, but I'm not pleased that the parents let them do it. Oh well, to each their own, I guess.

I do have a big problem with ringing the bell after your lights are off. Our ToT time in our town was 5-7. Personally, I thought 7 was too early, bigger kids don't even go out until 6ish and an hour is too short. I cut them some slack and kept the lights on, handing out candy until 8. I turned off the lights at 8, we were trying to get DS (2) into bath/bed and the baby was already asleep. Two groups still came up to our (dark) house and rang the bell. I wish parents would tell their kids - "no lights = stay away."

About the leaving your house thing - we took DS around right at 5 for about a half hour (just to the neighbors.) I left a bucket of candy with a friendly note to take one, explaining we were taking our giraffe and our strawberry around the neighborhood and would be back shortly. Worked well for us!
post #30 of 124
I love TOTers of any age-- I prefer to see them in costume. Although, I give anyone candy. i don't mind at all. I love seeing that. I love the parents all dressed up as well. It's so fun. My 13 yr old took her sibs around the neighborhood- she was dressed up as were all the teens in the neighborhood. I love halloween. I don't dress up, but i love my Jack-o-laterns, my little decorations, and I enjoy passing out candy. Our neighborhood is smallish and we never get more than 40 kids.

When I lived in the city, in a neighborhood of one family homes close together, we got hundreds of kids. I often shut my light off about 9:00 and that was never a problem. When we lived in that nieghborhood, people would sit on their porches & yak, have a beer, and hand out candy. That was a great little community.
post #31 of 124
The kids here were great. All with "trick-or-treat" and multiple thank-yous. Very cute, even the teenagers. I don't mind giving the teenagers candy, as long as they're polite & not messing with the little kids (which none of these seemed to be.)
post #32 of 124
:::sigh::: I opened this thread hoping that it wouldn't be full of nastiness about how horrible teens are, but I guess that was hoping for too much. Gee, when people give teens such a hard time, does it really surprise them that the teens act out?

Rain (12) went ToTing with two friends, who are 12 and 13... but all three of them could easily pass for 18. They look old. She said they had a good time, but they did get asked a *lot* if they weren't too old to go ToTing. They perfected clever responses - Rain did a great impression of a 3 year old, stamping her foot and holding up 3 fingers saying, "I'm *this* many!". It probably irked me more than it irked them, to be honest, because I have issues about people assuming she's older than she is. Still, it wasn't kind. They were all excited and had great costumes, compared to most of the store-bought ones out there. I'm sure they were polite, and I'm glad no one gave them a really hard time. Those big kids are someone's babies, just like the little ones out there...

dar
post #33 of 124
We had lots too. My fav were two girls who were *not* dressed up but claimed to be 4-year olds dressed as cute teenagers

The other on I enjoyed was an entire extended family. Apparently they were new imigrants who decided to get into the spirit 2 little kids, 1 teen, mum, dad, grandma and grandpa - all had great homemade costumes and ALL of them had pillow cases for candy. The kids could say "trick-or-treat" but the adults stumbled a bit
post #34 of 124
About 50% of our trick or treaters last night were teens. They were all dressed up and having a good time. They could be doing worse stuff, ya know?
post #35 of 124
That stinks, Dar.

I can honestly say I had more "problems" with ToTers who were under age 10, as far as not saying thank you or just being rude (Saying to ds, Your costume is dumb! Couldn't your mommy buy you a better one? : )

I would have given your DD a nice handful if she had a creative costume, whether she was 8 or 18.

kelly
post #36 of 124
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Originally Posted by Dar
Rain (12) went ToTing with two friends, who are 12 and 13... but all three of them could easily pass for 18. They look old. She said they had a good time, but they did get asked a *lot* if they weren't too old to go ToTing. They perfected clever responses - Rain did a great impression of a 3 year old, stamping her foot and holding up 3 fingers saying, "I'm *this* many!".
gave them a really hard time. Those big kids are someone's babies, just like the little ones out there...

dar
LOL Good for Rain.

My 13 yr old has no idea anyone would think her 'too old'. She sewed a tail for her Demon costume and was very excited. She had little green horns and a green tail, with fangs and green clothes. My 13 yr old is still very much interested in TOT and dressing up.

I think a lot of people with small children think 13 or 16 is 'all grown up".

Just reading some of the posts about what people expect from 2 yr olds "he knows better!" and 4 yr olds "I know she's too big to be doing that!" and you can see how many would consider these young teens 'too old' for TOTing fun and dressing up. I mean do people really these kids should just sit at home and watch TV or something rather than OMG! have a little child-like fun!

Not to mention those who would think my little sweetie in a homemade demon costume was a devil -worshipper.

I was happy to see in this thread that many people do enjoy the teens. I was expecting fewer of those, so it's nice to know there are others who respect that teens waffle between childhood and young adulthood.
post #37 of 124
There were quite a few more teens out in my MIL's neighborhood last night where we went. Some were polite and some were rude.

OT - my dd was dressed as a doctor and several men thought she was a cute 'nurse' : and one woman said she was a cute 'surgeon'. My dh said to me (jokingly) the men were sexist pigs as we left their driveways.
post #38 of 124
I kind of get the feeling that some people are confusing or misunderstanding the fact that the disappointment in teen TOT's is with the ones that are rude, not every single one of them.
post #39 of 124
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Originally Posted by ceilydhmama
We had lots too. My fav were two girls who were *not* dressed up but claimed to be 4-year olds dressed as cute teenagers

The other on I enjoyed was an entire extended family. Apparently they were new imigrants who decided to get into the spirit 2 little kids, 1 teen, mum, dad, grandma and grandpa - all had great homemade costumes and ALL of them had pillow cases for candy. The kids could say "trick-or-treat" but the adults stumbled a bit
That's cute!!
post #40 of 124
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Originally Posted by sophmama
OT - my dd was dressed as a doctor and several men thought she was a cute 'nurse' : and one woman said she was a cute 'surgeon'. My dh said to me (jokingly) the men were sexist pigs as we left their driveways.

Nice. Get some candy, insult some people. half the time i can't tell what kids are supposed to be. In that case, i don;t even try to guess. Just enjoy.
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