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post #41 of 124
This year was the first that I remember, where I did not see alot of teen TOT. The handful that I did see were dressed to the nines! One was dressed like a woman, had on his Moms dress, wig, make up, jewlery & even sandals! Poor guy, his feet were killing him!!!! LOL!!! :

I do have to say I do not like it at all when teens do not dress & ring your door bell & expect candy. I have done the "trick" & taken candy out of their bag when they cam to my door. They loved it! Thought it was funny. I will let my kids TOT as long as they want as long as they dress & act appropriately & are very polite.
post #42 of 124
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Originally Posted by ceilydhmama
We had lots too. My fav were two girls who were *not* dressed up but claimed to be 4-year olds dressed as cute teenagers

Now that's clever. Thinking outside the box they were.
post #43 of 124
Why are people so upset about kids not saying 'thank you'? I think it's rare, but who cares. If you ask about their costumes, most kids will reply. If a person shows interest, a child who isn't shy is going to reply in some way.
post #44 of 124
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Originally Posted by UUMom
Why are people so upset about kids not saying 'thank you'? I think it's rare, but who cares.
because to be honest, I think it's reasonable to expect appreciation for giving someone something that you were under no obligation to give them.

And it wasn't very rare here. I didn't demand it or ask for it ("now what do you say?"), but it would have been nice to hear it. Especially with what I spent on candy... Why not say thank you?
post #45 of 124
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Originally Posted by UUMom
Why are people so upset about kids not saying 'thank you'? I think it's rare, but who cares. If you ask about their costumes, most kids will reply. If a person shows interest, a child who isn't shy is going to reply in some way.
Oh wow! Seriously, I think it's just the beginning of people having this sense of entitlement to anything they want. I think it's rude as hell not to say thank you, especially the older you are. But hey, that's just my opinion. You can bet your butt that my kids say it, and they are only 4 and 2.
post #46 of 124
I don't mind teenaged trick-or-treaters, so long as they have a very good costume. I do think it's pretty rude how many people were trick-or-treating with babies who don't even have teeth yet! I'm not talking about siblings tagging along, but lots of parents taking babies only around. I think a child should be old enough to eat the candy, which would be a minimum of 3 years, I'm thinking as so many candies are choking hazards.
post #47 of 124
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Originally Posted by RubyWild
I do think it's pretty rude how many people were trick-or-treating with babies who don't even have teeth yet! I'm not talking about siblings tagging along, but lots of parents taking babies only around.
Wow. That's sad you see it that way. I took ds when he was 7 months old, and it was all about showing him off to the neighborhood. We got a few snotty comments, but most loved the little bee outfit. If someone would have said "Very cute costume! I can't give a baby candy, but thanks for stopping by!" I wouldn't have cared, as long as they weren't rude.


The candy (minus literally maybe 4 or 5 bars) went right back out to the ToTers that came to our house--they got the stuff we bought, plus my son's stuff.

Your take on it seems pretty mean spirited.

Halloween is about more than candy, you know. It's a great time to hang out with friends, get some good photos, go for a nice walk, see lots of different costumes, show your creative side, etc. The candy, IMO is just a bonus. when I talk to most kids (from 3-16), they're most excited about their cool costume than the candy. Shoot-you can buy a bag of candy for $3 and save the trouble.

Kelly



We gave the real little ones pretzels this year.
post #48 of 124
Why people upset themselves so about halloween, I'll never know.

If you're gonna stew over babies in cute costumes, and a couple of teens here and there who forget to say thank you save the energy, and don't participate.

I love seeing the babies dressed as pumpkins etc One parent had the in a baby in a Bjorn, dressed as a lion. It was the freaking cutest thing. My pleasure was worth a couple of twizzlers. If all the parents with babies stayed home, I'd miss it all. I couldn't bring myself to care about soemthing that petty. "That parent wants the candy all for themselves!" And? Like you think that parent didn't hand out candy at their house, or couldn;t have bought their own candy. It's fun to show off the babies! They are cute!

Thank you is fine, but sometimes it's just mimicry and doesn't mean anything. A teen who talks to you is better, imo.

Enjoy it and don't get so worked up.
post #49 of 124
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Originally Posted by RubyWild
I don't mind teenaged trick-or-treaters, so long as they have a very good costume. I do think it's pretty rude how many people were trick-or-treating with babies who don't even have teeth yet! I'm not talking about siblings tagging along, but lots of parents taking babies only around. I think a child should be old enough to eat the candy, which would be a minimum of 3 years, I'm thinking as so many candies are choking hazards.
I don't hardly think that's something to get so upset about. I guess I don't understand how a baby in a costume is rude though. Hey, I feel ill at the sight of formula feeders, but I don't consider it rude. It's not my business. Besides, I highly doubt that baby is shoving it down later that night either. I think it's cute. We did it with dd and ds so the neighbors could see them dressed up, but we still said TOT, please and thank you!
post #50 of 124
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Originally Posted by RubyWild
I don't mind teenaged trick-or-treaters, so long as they have a very good costume. I do think it's pretty rude how many people were trick-or-treating with babies who don't even have teeth yet! I'm not talking about siblings tagging along, but lots of parents taking babies only around. I think a child should be old enough to eat the candy, which would be a minimum of 3 years, I'm thinking as so many candies are choking hazards.
DH and I took our devil, I mean 15 mos old torting. All the older kids had gone with friends, and as someone said it was about showing her off to the neighbors. They all thought she was really cute, she even picked out a piece and put it in her own bucket. She was most excited about the lights, the pumpkins and the neighbors dog who licked the pretzel she was holding.

One passing mom said "aw are you going to actually eat that candy?" DH said "no, but her 4 brothers and sisters will" Score one for DH!!

(DD did have some m&m's and candy corn)
post #51 of 124
I'm pretty much happy to see anyone show up in any state of costume. I especially like all the versions of "trick-or-treat smell my feet ..." we heard.
The Canadian version:
"Trick-or-Treat, smell my feet give me something good to eat. Not to big not to small - just the size of Montreal!"
The preschooler version:
"Trick-or-Treat, smell my feet give me something good to eat.
If you don't I don't care - I'll pull down your underwear"


Halloween is supposed to have a mix of fun, spookey, scary I think teens definately have a role - as we all do
post #52 of 124
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Originally Posted by quietplease
Anybody else see them as big kids clinging to a happy childhood tradition?
Not quite : 75% of the trick or treaters in our area were teenagers. skanky looking girls, a hooded klu klux klan figure, a huge penis & a parade of boys in thongs. Their parents should be flogged. Ruined my night!
Clinging to a childhood tradition? Not quite. And dont get me wrong - my oldest is a teen! She is also the perfect child & wouldnt dream of doing such things! She stayed home, dressed up & went out with us!
post #53 of 124
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Originally Posted by starfairy
Clinging to a childhood tradition? Not quite. And dont get me wrong - my oldest is a teen! She is also the perfect child & wouldnt dream of doing such things!
Ummm....yeah.

I'd have laughed at the giant penis and showed ds--as long as he wasn't being "vulgar" about it. Same with the boys in thongs.


And skanky looking girls? Ugh....thanks for the contribution to this conversation.

Kelly
post #54 of 124
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Originally Posted by CookieMonsterMommy
Ummm....yeah.

I'd have laughed at the giant penis and showed ds--as long as he wasn't being "vulgar" about it. Same with the boys in thongs.


And skanky looking girls? Ugh....thanks for the contribution to this conversation.

Kelly
Um, yeah - i think I have a right to be proud of my dd (of course she isn't perfect, but she didn't wear a KK costume or dress like a prostitute either ...)

sorry, i cant post unless i get your okay...

BTW, the boys in thongs danced in front of our car & one of them pulled his down. maybe you enjoy that for your kids, I dont...
post #55 of 124
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Originally Posted by starfairy
sorry, i cant post unless i get your okay...
what???

And what's wrong with dressing like a prostitute?
post #56 of 124
My 12 yo went out. He is about 5'10", so he looks pretty old, but he still loves to go out. He went with some friends, and I worried that people would give them a hard time, but he said most people were fine.

My two girls are teens, so we had a ton of teen TOTers. They don't bother me, just like my own don't bother me.

We also had a baby cow who was about 5 months old, and the cutest one I saw all night.

My three year old stayed home and handed out candy. I hate Halloween personally. I buy a ton of candy, and my kids dress and go out, but I don't decorate, and I for sure don't encourage. The three year old never asked to go, didn't seem to enter his mind that he could. He had a great time answering the door and looking at the costumes. The mother of a friend of my teens brought him a baggie with some little toys and a couple of candys, and he was in heaven.

To me, he is just the worst age, too young to really appreciate dressing up, to old to take the candy away from. It worked out perfectly, though, he got a little candy and had a great time.

My 12yo ended up with enough candy for 4 people. My 15 yo dressed up but didn't go out (well, to Walmart, were people gave her strange looks for dressing up). My 17 yo wouldn't even dress up for a party she went to and had to pay to get in because of it.

I always offer the adults some candy, as well. It seems like they do all the work and get none of the reward. Most of them say no, but a few take a piece.
post #57 of 124
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Originally Posted by tayndrewsmama
I don't hardly think that's something to get so upset about. I guess I don't understand how a baby in a costume is rude though. Hey, I feel ill at the sight of formula feeders, but I don't consider it rude. It's not my business. Besides, I highly doubt that baby is shoving it down later that night either. I think it's cute. We did it with dd and ds so the neighbors could see them dressed up, but we still said TOT, please and thank you!
Did I seem upset? No, I just think it's poor manners pretending to take candy for a child when it's really for the adults. I don't mind the baby in costume. Of course they're cute. I guess if I was going to be upset it would be because we don't have much money right now and it doesn't feel right to have to give candy to adults in the name of a baby. Poor manners don't always upset me. I just notice them sometimes. And what does formula feeding have to do with adults taking candy for their baby? Again, no one thinks the baby is eating it, or rather, gumming it.
post #58 of 124
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Originally Posted by CookieMonsterMommy
what???

And what's wrong with dressing like a prostitute?
if I am going to an adult party - men in g-strings, slutty clothes, penis costumes, bring 'em on! Teenagers trick or treating ? Nope, not appropriate in my book. KKK, never okay. I was a pretty seductive dresser as a teen, but even I had limits to what i wore in public. a penis? thongs? KKK? to trick or treat? You think these kinds of things are okay? I guess my kids are sheltered LOL
post #59 of 124
I saw it firsthand, unfortunately.

DD (12 and in 7th grade) didn't want to go at first. Then a friend asked her to go with her, so she thought it would be fun...her first year 'without mom'.

Said "friend" bailed on her, she walked home and we'd already left with the boys.

DH had just woken up for work, but he got dressed and took her out himself because she was bawling her eyes out. So, Daddy saved the day there, but my heart broke for her.
post #60 of 124
Teens TOT only bugs me when they don't even make an effort at a costume. I still give the candy but I like to see a costume for my own entertainment.
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